If you live in a middle class area do you ever hear your neighbours argue?

[Barrol]

Never heard a single neighbour argue and it makes me so self conscious when DH and I do. Not that we argue often. Dh and I raised our voices earlier in the evening as we had very different opinions on how to approach ab annoying task we are getting through. All the windows were wide open. So embarrassed. It was only for 5 minutes.

Is it because we live in a middle class area in the Home Counties?

Just for context our cul de sac is described as sought after on house listings. Most people are professionals around here. Do these people just have calm discussions?

Have lived here for 10 years. Never heard a peep.

Oh well if you live in the Home Counties...

Never until we got new (very wealthy) neighbours. We’ve heard him shouting at his wife more than once. Swearing at her too. Have never heard a peep from her. It’s completely made me dislike him even though he’s a nice as pie to chat to.

See, that makes you sound even more ridiculously snobbish, addressing those posters who are working class, as if they are a separate species.

You’re probably known locally as the shouty sweary chavs who are lowering the tone, incidentally.

I used to hear our neighbours bawling at eachother when we lived in a terrace. I still remember agonising over whether I should go over after hearing him scream at her for twenty minutes then storm out and I could just hear her crying 😢

We live in a more MC area now and I've never heard anyone arguing, but to be fair we live much further apart from our neighbours now and I don't make a habit of loitering at windows, so I probably just have fewer opportunities to hear them!

My vair, vair posh auntie never raises her voice because it's uncouth. Her and my uncle argue in vicious little hisses instead. So maybe the MC have mastered the art of the quiet row.

Of course only poor people shout & swear 🙄 not civilised middle class people. Grow up

We live in a very middle class area and have done for 5 years. We heard someone argue the other day and we all froze. We had never heard as much as a raised voice before.

I did however, grow up in a middle class area and they would have heard my dad being a shouty, argumentative man all the time.

We live in a nice area but we're a stones throw away from a really shit one. Our road is used as a shortcut to the train station so I don't hear neighbours arguing but I do hear people in the middle of the night on their way to the trains from the pub

The lack or privacy and personal space on social housing estates is something I’ve never forgotten

Goodness me. I’m never sure what people mean on MN when they say “social housing”? Do they mean council built estates? Or like supported accommodation of some kind? Because I live on a council estate and my house is quite roomy with a big garden! Have lived in places with much less privacy.
I like the sound of your street Dogstar78. That sounds comfy and normal
to me. I’d hate to be hissed at and called “Darling” instead of having a normal
row!

Think this has hit the nail on the class issue. A lot of middle classes want to keep up with the Jones and give an impression they are clam respectable people but really want to scream at their children. They know they can't because they will be socially ostracised. Working classes are more accepting and less judgmental as a class - that's if we're going to divide the classes in this thread.

I think some people who think of themselves as middle class are also more conscious of how other people view them, and therefore might try harder to conceal arguments than other people who aren't so bothered about perceptions.

I am middle class and do occasionally shout at the kids, then worry about the neighbours hearing! 😆

We are so middle class that we don’t have neighbours in shouting distance. If we did, they would definitely hear us yelling at dc and dc yelling in general. 😬 Dh and I don’t ever have shouting arguments, but yes, I do shout at the kids to put their bloody shoes on for the 20th time and they do occasionally run outside in a strop shouting about how we ruin their lives by not doing some trivial thing they think is very important.

That said, yes, absolutely know loads of very dysfunctional middle class families where a lot of shouting and abuse goes on. But except for one who tried to kill his wife, it happens behind closed doors.

I have one neighbour who regularly screams at her husband in the early hours. He is a total dick though, so I can’t say I blame her. I have another neighbour who has shouting matches with his teenage son.
Dare say they hear me yelling to my deaf dog.
All houses are detached, but it’s a fairly quiet area.

I live in a mixed area of serving military, ex military, teachers, accountants, construction workers, nursery nurses, care home staff and retail workers. We live in a cottage flat sometimes called a four in a block and the estate is predominately a mixture of flats and semidetached houses. The flats all have their own front and back gardens which are not shared with any other flat in the block. I have heard my downstairs neighbour losing it with their adult children (30s) twice through their ceiling our floor as we both have fireplaces and the chimney runs the length of the building and my neighbour on one side in a semi lose it once with her child (16) in the seven years I have lived here. I have never heard any couples argue.

Haha...channelling Margot Ledbetter there. But OP has explained that she hasn't meant to offend anyone.

We'll soon be hearing from people claiming they have never heard a raised voice on their council estate, but they are kept awake every night by the screaming middle-class folk living in the posh houses two miles away... 🤣

More expensive houses are usually detached and further away from their neighbours than cheaper houses. That might be one reason for the perception that middle class folk don't argue.