If you live in a middle class area do you ever hear your neighbours argue?

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Never heard a single neighbour argue and it makes me so self conscious when DH and I do. Not that we argue often. Dh and I raised our voices earlier in the evening as we had very different opinions on how to approach ab annoying task we are getting through. All the windows were wide open. So embarrassed. It was only for 5 minutes.

Is it because we live in a middle class area in the Home Counties?

Just for context our cul de sac is described as sought after on house listings. Most people are professionals around here. Do these people just have calm discussions?

Have lived here for 10 years. Never heard a peep.

God yes.
So surprised by these replies, but we do live abroad and people are generally more passionate and vocal, plus all doors and windows open. I often cringe when I think of what they hear as it’s actually a peaceful area. We rarely argue but our Dd shouts and screams and then I end up losing it too, we must sound so noisy 😬
Pre Dd, we were the house that was chilled and quiet and listened with glee to all other arguments (obviously not serious ones)
We also have a dog too who barks 😩hey, it’s real family life 🤷🏻‍♀️and all the dogs bark in the country I’m in and no one bats an eyelid

I’ve lived in my house for 25 years and had 2 lots of neighbours on one side and 4 on the other. Never heard an argument at all. The current neighbour on one side shouts at his dogs quite a lot, and the previous in the other used to shout in a moany sort or way at her young dc. The current next doors without dogs have split up recently but I’ve not heard a peep out of them, but there have been 4 babies born in the 2 houses since I’ve been here and I’ve only heard sex once.

In my old house I heard a lot of arguing - and possibly domestic violence from two separate neighbours.

my new house is in a much more expensive area. I haven’t heard a single raised voice. But that might just be cause the houses have thicker walls and the gardens are much bigger - so I’m not as close to the neighbours as I once was.

People don't argue where I live, lower middle-class neighbourhood, are we meant to argue?

I live in a posh area and yes! Had to call the police because next door were going at it and smashing things up and got worried someone might get hurt. Called the police on two other occasions because of brawls in the street, but there are lots of pubs nearby so it’s to be expected I suppose. Does make life interesting.

No arguing but my neighbours would be mortified if I told them that, while they've been away, their son has enjoyed "entertaining" a few ladies of an evening. 🙉

Indeed. It has overtones of "I mean, on the council estate (and don't get me wrong, I do genuinely understand the need for them, really I do) one might expect to hear such an exchange on a nightly basis, so for them they could well be accustomed, but I'm not sure it's the done thing in the suburbs".

😂 How did you manage to find such an ugly looking house? Hideous.

We live in a pretty middle class, rural-ish area. I've never heard an argument or fight as such, but there's the odd expletive issued (me, sometimes others) at a fleeting, annoying thing. That's about it. I think a neighbour had a teen issue a few years ago, but it was a bit of shouting, then they moved out.

I live in a mixed area, it's becoming gentrified. During lockdown I heard my neighbours fight A LOT, it used to make me quite anxious and I also heard the kids screaming. Lockdown ended and nothing since! I'm sure many households were similar

Of course you are. At least that's what it sounds like from the OP. 😂

🤣

They have a council house vibe, so you should be ok.

Our house is equally ugly. I just googled “60s cul de saq plus our county”.

London so nice cluster squished with not so nice and so on. Grew up in v. shit part but now an area that has since been gentrified with some really quite posh people.

Never lived anywhere I haven't heard arguments every now and again, even in our now fancy, expensive area. I love it. Could never live rural, enjoy hearing the signs of life. I know someone in the vicinity is called Horatio due to the shouting. Neighbours definitely hear us too.

Actually came on this thread as wondered if you were my neighbour. Had a guy earlier screaming "I'm here, I'm a CUNT and I'll kill any man who says I'm not" Then sort of growling. Was very entertaining.

I don’t live in a middle class area….I never hear people arguing

People with emotional intelligence don’t scream insults at each other whether ‘middle class’ or not.

find better ways to communicate

I live in a block of flats surrounded by million pound properties and the only sounds I hear coming from them are lawnmowers, fireworks and the very very occasional party in a garden. The houses are huge and detached so you could create an almighty storm and noone would know.

The only indication I've had of possible ruckus was two police cars outside a house one day.

Going by the Stately Homes threads though, I'm sure all kinds of the same shits happen behind these doors and there's just more resources to hide it.

Yes, I've heard neighbours arguing in my current and former homes ( a mixture of middle class and non-middle class areas in my assessment - I don't think social class is so much of a factor). To be honest occasional arguing bothers me less than the regular noise of people talking loudly for no apparent reason. At least arguments are interesting and are evidence of some passion in a relationship. If you are not hearing other people argue, it may be because they know you can hear and are self conscious about it.

idk… I’ve never shouted at my DH and try and not to raise my voice at the kiddos either. Not sure if I’m middle class or something… I thought it was common decency. Never heard my neighbours argue either. Just their bloody dog barking all the time.

Dh and I are not in a good place at all with our marriage. Our communication is terrible when we get snippy with one another. If we were better we’d probably be divorced.

We live in a relatively midde class area. Only heard neighbours fighting once - we were walking the dog and it sounded so awful with a woman screaming that my DP went and knocked on the door to check she was ok. I was standing on the opposite side of the road, feeling very awkward but wanting to support DP as I knew he was right to check.

Never heard anything from there again, but they’re still together

I stayed at aunts house once for a year, very posh neighbours...scientist and private school head....rowed and bickered day and night....posh london suburb...then few minutes all family would emerge..wave and smile at me...then continue again later....they did eventually divorce....opposite was a very loud wealthy woman....head to toe Gucci....shouted constantly at her adult daughter....but they were all mad....daughter drove an amphibuous ww2 tank thing...!!..There was also 2 suicides due to being cut off from inheritance....one hanging and the other set himself and the house he never got, alight.

This post is beyond cringe . Talking about being MC & describing her house and surrounding as 'sought after' . One thing for sure is the poster is not MC . As bad as Dani Dyer thinking she is middle class too.

People where I live do tend to be slightly older - have teens kids as opposed to babies. Wonder if it is an age thing as to why my neighbours never seem to argue.