If you live in a middle class area do you ever hear your neighbours argue?

[Barrol]

Never heard a single neighbour argue and it makes me so self conscious when DH and I do. Not that we argue often. Dh and I raised our voices earlier in the evening as we had very different opinions on how to approach ab annoying task we are getting through. All the windows were wide open. So embarrassed. It was only for 5 minutes.

Is it because we live in a middle class area in the Home Counties?

Just for context our cul de sac is described as sought after on house listings. Most people are professionals around here. Do these people just have calm discussions?

Have lived here for 10 years. Never heard a peep.

Ill be watching this thread closely to see if any of my neighbours pop up talking about me 🤣🤣🤣

Do you hear children practicing musical instruments? I don’t. We all just have enough space and well built enough homes that the sound doesn’t carry.

No.

Although in the past, when I lived elsewhere, I heard lots of arguments. And mums shouting at kids in local shops, on the streets and it makes me sad to this day 😞 Poor kids getting shouted at from very young age.. by parents who couldn't be bothered to parent.

Just editing to add that you get all sorts of people in all sorts of areas. Simply mentioned the shouting at children bit as it's something I still think of often.

I'm sure I'm the only one in my lane that shouts 🫢

I live in a nice area. I’ve occasionally heard neighbours arguing. I also hear one neighbour go out into her garden to fart. I feel a little sorry for her, as she obviously goes to great lengths to not fart in front of her BF, but her neighbours hear it regularly.

That’s a good point. I canvas the posher end of my road and the richer the family the fewer signs of life. No cooking smells, no sound, no flickering tvs

Our close is this vibe. We all have front gardens/drives and not on top of each other like newer builds. The plots are close enough that I’m sure we can be heard.

Never heard neighbours, no matter where we've lived. From a two up two down terrace in a rough area, to our naice neighbourhood now.

I spend many nights awake wondering what our neighbours hear. We're a large family. Today toddler trapped his fingers in a door upon leaving the house and was SCREAMING. Five week old baby was screaming too and two primary age kids arguing over a key ring on the drive. It was stressful and culminated in me shouting 'piss off then you knob!' to DH. I reigned in my language for the kids 🙈 This was followed by him yelling something about me hating him and slamming the front door.
He then took all four of them out whilst I went back to bed with a coffee and silently stewed over it all.
We're a toxic mess now I think about it.

It's just better soundproofing!

We live in a quite a mixed area. Our cul de sac is very middle class, all houses self owned.
We back onto a row of social housing and one of the families is very interesting with screaming, hysterical fights and police involved. The rest of them are all quiet and lovely.

We had to flee a posh area because of the non-stop shouty arguments. It was all up and down the street.

Furious arguments about whether it was Tuscany or Provence in the summer. Horrible set-tos about the new Head at the prep school. A blazing row between a mum and a daughter over clarinet practice. The lab v retriever wars from no. 55.

The worst, though, was a two-dayer with a husband refusing to pay the increase in the National Trust subscription: “NO, NO, NO! SISSINGHURST IS NOT WORTH IT!”

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To me this response is a bit odd beside the first sentence which I agree with.

Why is it an odd question? and… OFFENSIVE??

Please elaborate, I’d really love to hear your thought process…

That is not my house. I thought I made that quite clear. Obviously I won’t be posting a photo of my cul de saq. Actually if someone wants me to take a sneaky pic out my window (in the morning) with my username and date I could dm it as proof I’m not shit stirring. Genuinely curious why my family are so atypical

I did not intentionally imply that working class people are violent. But clearly that is the logical implication of my thread title. And I am sorry if that’s offensive. I don’t know how to verbalise why I think there is a class divide on this matter.

I live in a SW London middle class bubble. Never heard any argument. DH and I are both of Latin heritage (south Europe) and we can
be quite vocal… I recently asked a British school mum if she heard neighbours from my country argue from her house (lots of people from my country around here) and she said yes.
So yes, neighbours do hear you.They just act as if they didn’t.

Nope, sometimes can’t hear myself thinking over the bloody movers/trimmers/leaf blowers on at all times of the day - all houses are detached here and many have very mature gardens. Maybe that’s strategic, put a mover on and no one will hear you scream…

I used to live on a council estate. One night there was loud shouting from outside.

A poor pregnant woman was pleading with a man ("it's your baby"). The shouting went on for some time and ended with the woman being shoved out of a car and left lying on the floor in the rain.

I've not experienced anything like that since we bought a house on the outskirts of London.

If I hear my neighbours argue then I just ignore it, unless it sounds like intervention is needed - then I'd call the police.

We don't argue but one of our children has moderate hearing loss and is on a waiting list for a small operation and I'm sure the neighbours must think we just raise our voices at her for no reason 😬

I am sure our neighbours have heard me shouting at the DC to get ready etc which is embarrassing. And also heard the DC screaming. They are very loud.

I never hear my ND neighbours, but have heard screaming from the kid across the street.

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was… she… ok? 😢

I hate hearing it, it’s immensely triggering and distressing to me regardless of who it is

I asked my neighbour once if she'd heard us arguing as we'd had an absolute humdinger the day before, she didn't respond directly but laughed and said she'd once chased her husband around the house with a bottle of wine and hurled it at him in the garage! I think I loved her a bit that day. Definitely a very middle class area, never ever heard anyone argue in 1/4 century we've lived here. I feel like the odd one out as feel sure we must easily be heard.

We live surrounded by 4+ bed detached houses, so probably fits the bill. I've come close to calling the police due to the shouted threats of violence from one house.

I suspect we aren't a quiet house, but hopefully not that bad.

Everyone else is pretty quiet.

I was 5 floors up and already in bed. After a couple of minutes she got up and walked away.

I'm afraid I didn't get dressed and go downstairs (I clearly should have, as should everybody else watching from their windows, but I don't remember anybody going to help).