To say DH can’t see female friends alone?

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DH has some female friends I feel he is too friendly with. WIBU to say he can only see them in a group situation with others not one to one?

Yabu!!

Totally unreasonable

Can't really give an opinion without context. Is he untrustworthy? If so, why are you with him? Has he cheated in the past?

Good luck with that. Do let us know how that goes (assuming there's some huge backstory?).

Yes yabu

And what will he say to that? If my DH tried to say that to me, I’d be telling him that he doesn’t get to dictate who I can and can’t see. You either trust him or you don’t

If you already know he's too friendly with them, he will be too friendly even if others are there

You can't put restrictions on the person you are married to like that. Either be married to them or don't.

Jesus. How would you feel if he dictates which friends you can see in what setting. Batshit.

If my husband tried to tell me I could only see certain friends as part of a group I’d deliberately see them more often on their own. You don’t get to control other people

either trust him or divorce him

Unless he has a track record of cheating, you are coming across as very controlling and insecure.

Naturally, if he's taking one out for a meal and staying overnight at hers...you might have a point....if it's coffee or work related. No

Jesus just turn the tables and imagine him telling you that you can't meet with male friends! Totally unreasonable.

Not to mention if he's going to have an affair, it'll happen regardless, not because you don't allow him to meet with girl-friends. Either you trust him or you don't. And if you don't then you probably need to call it a day.

Well either you have crippling jealousy, or he has form for untrustworthy behaviour.

Which is it? Or which came first?

I was really cool about close female friends until I got burnt. How exactly is their relationship making you feel uncomfortable?

Context is everything but in the absence of, yes, you are extremely unreasonable and very controlling

I have male friends and husband has female .Absolutely not a problem!

Yes you don’t get to tell adults that they can only see friends under certain circumstances. ( and if he was going to have an affair he would find a way and no amount of control by you is going to stop it Im afraid )

Yabvu and I'd go so far as to say controlling.

You don't own him.

If you don't trust him enough to be around other women you obviously have some reason. Personally i couldn't stay in a marriage like that. Full trust or nothing.

Massively unreasonable and controlling. If you dont trust him, end the relationship.

Yikes, very unreasonable. Either you trust him or you don't.

If you honestly don’t trust him there’s no point. If someone wants to cheat they will. They don’t just do it because they’re left alone with a willing woman (not knowing if his friends are willing obviously).

So who are these female friends - are they women he has known a long time? Or new women in his life?
What sort of situations is he wanting to see them alone in?
You need to provide some context as to why you are concerned.

Not the message I expect you were looking for, but you would be totally unreasonable.