To think if he wanted a second date, I'd have heard by now?

[KookyUmberQuoter]

I went on a first date with a guy from an app 5 days ago. Date lasted around 2 hours, it was a walk in the park (literally, not figuratively!) and I made sure I had an easy out.

He looked a bit nervous at the start but then warmed up. It wasn't flirty but I'm someone who needs time to warm up. We had a great chat, made jokes and seemed to have lots in common.

At the end of it we just quickly hugged and said 'take care, bye!' he didn't suggest a second date or say anything about seeing me again.

I've not heard from him since. I'm possibly clutching at straws here but maybe he thought I wasn't interested? I was the one to end the date first and I didn't flirt or say anything about meeting again.
However part of me just thinks, if he'd been interested, I'd have a message by now.

Just do it. You liked him and want to see him again, so be adult about it and just tell him that. No need to play games or hang around or wait a set number of days. I messaged my husband first on a dating site, suggested the first meet up, and messaged after. He said later than it was so good to have a woman be straightforward about it all, so he didn't have to worry about being too forward. But he's not a game player or a player at all, so maybe it depends on the man.

Go for it, OP, literally nothing to lose. And then maybe work on how hard you find rejection...

I would take some time out of dating and ‘date yourself’ - treat yourself really well, build up your confidence and self esteem. I get how you feel OP! Have been in your shoes.

Just do it , what's the worst that can happen ?

You've given the vibe you arent interested.

If you are a quick message saying

Fancy lunch at the weekend weekend?

What do you have to lose?

Message him. I hate all this never chase a man shit. I was the chaser with me and DH and we've been married 20 years.

She wants to, she hasn't.

Just do it OP.

You are never going to get anywhere with this scared attitude. For God's sake message him!

Same, I pursued my other half. He is so laid back it would never have got off the ground otherwise!

Maybe you should have or can message that you enjoyed the date and was wondering how he is ?

Op god you are a ditherer !

right whatever happens with this one, I, some random on the internet decree that now you have to try to set up at least three dates with three different people at any one time.

therefore you will be less available, you will be less invested, you will meet more people and they will know there is competition (they’ll just know, no need to tell them). You’ll also have a barometer for which ones you like and which you don’t.

so now start reaching out to 1) out of your league. 2) Mr quite fancy him 3) omg not my type but what the heck.

do it, do it now

Just out of interest, do you also have to initiates for most part of the relationship?

Love this , what a great idea 😊

Agree with this but the right time is straight after you get home or the next day at the latest. It’s gone on too long now.

My husband didn't call me for a week after our date. I was just debating with myself whether I should call him when he finally called.
If he's but in touch in a week then yea forget him.

Just message him.

It’s 2024, women are allowed to approach men if they want to. No need to wait around.

Do it . It's eating you up . If you get no reply then you have your answer. Then just block and delete

I've sent it! Hahaha omg I'm going to die

What did you say?

I love it 😀 please update us either way! We can celebrate or bitch about him.

I will do 😊
Basically apologised for not getting in touch sooner, saying I'd enjoyed meeting and would be up for catching up again next week if he wanted?
Probs not the best message but oh well!

My now DH didn't contact me after our first date and says now that he just didn't think I was interested. I messaged him and 5 years later we are married and have a baby. The worst that can happen is you get a knock back, oh well, on to the next one, go for it!

Men have this to face all the time. "Shall I ask her out again or will I get a slap in the face?" Usually us women don't have to risk being turned down. Maybe this man's a bit shy?

🤞

Bet he'll just ghost me tbh

Omg why did you do that