Why aren't you Single?

[Aquarius1234]

I love a relationship debate.

So here's another.

Why aren't you single?

Ah okay I get it now!

Okay 1, my partner is amazing and I love him
2, I need someone to get rid of spiders in the house for me

Because DH is hot, and he's very good at housework.

Love also, but you know hot and housework.

I am - because the alternative options I have come across recently aren't very appealing.

A few years ago I would have said it is because we love each other, enjoy doing many things together, talk to each other and sex is amazing.
Now I am with her because I still love her despite her dementia, incontinence and constant demands
Love is amazing.

Because I didn't want to have to parent on my own. And he does the housework. And I enjoy the convenience of him being here for sex.

Because I wanted that guy and what I want I get.

It's the housework and cooking for someone else that puts me off a live in relationship.

But I don't understand people that don't think being single is ok.
That it's negative. Even young 24 years olds in Long term relationships. I don't get why being single is never going to be an option for them.

Can't put it into words well. But people that do everything to make sure they aren't single and their relationships keep going and going, making all these future plans and taking care of someone else to avoid the no plan weekend and ermm their world might crumble.
No it won't!! If you need to plan so much ahead and do everything to keep a relationship going then it seems more like a full time job!

Broodiness/ shared DCs

Familiarity

Guarantee of regular sex!!'

You never get a chance to get to know someone new when your in a relationship forever more.

You do. You just can't shag them.

I was for a v long time and then met DP by complete chance and we just fit. It's hard to explain, but it works although we are v different

My dh works hard at his job comes home and then cooks. Tidys up. Does jobs when asked and some without asking. Takes the kids out. We split all bills 50/50. Is always saying sweet things to me. Has 100% taken my kids on dosent treat our child any different to them.
Drives me places. Actually writes a shopping list and gets what's on the list. Meal plans. Helps with the mental load of life. Is home a fair bit due to shifts. Makes me laugh too.

So you got the whole everyone else not being able to be single regardless.

Because im in love

my now DH, who was my best friend at the time, asked me to help him look for houses near good schools.

I’m half kidding (he was house-hunting and I did help), but really I am married instead of cohabiting because it is the best way to raise an upper-middle class child. We are highly educated, have good jobs, and have formed an economic and legal partnership that provides a stable relationship for childbearing.

My DH also happens to be my
best friend, I absolutely love him, and we are extremely sexually compatible. I would not have wanted to proceed in a relationship without the whole package of love and marriage.

Is it a good or bad thing that parents seem to encourage their kids being in a serious relationship at a relatively young age.( 16/17/18) . No that they all listen to what parents say.
Maybe some parents should tell their kids not to spend every day with their boy/ girlfriend and spend some time apart so it's not too intense 24/ 7. Only meet up twice a week or something.

And then 6 / 7 + years later there is no chance they will split up. Even if maybe that would be the right thing going forward in life.
But they will never know the alternative .

Mostly people do split up though. Most relationships that start at 16 don't last

I’m not single because I met a man who is genuinely kind, funny and generous. I really loved being single (and occasionally when thinking of paths not travelled I miss it - but only for a few seconds before copping on) but he makes my life better by every single conceivable measure. So I am glad I made, and continue to make, the choice to be in a relationship rather than single.

it is fun being a free bird though!

I fell for DH abd wanted to be with him, also wanted to have a family.

I don't think I know any parents who would encourage their dc into a serious relationship at such a young age? Quite the opposite, actually.

Also can't work out your meaning in this bit? "And then 6 / 7 + years later there is no chance they will split up."

Because I love him, He’s not perfect but neither am I but he’s still the first person I want to talk to every day and whenever there’s good/bad news the first person I want to tell.

Now onto the real reason, obviously the most important! He’s also amazing at LEGO for our DS and also great at flat pack furniture. I run our house without a shadow of a doubt, admin, housework, majority of children’s things (carer for DS who’s out of school) all me. But my brain does not compute LEGO or DIY/flat pack. His does.

Reading on here lots seem to last well into 30s. From starting 16 to 20 ish.

If you’re happy you won’t be wistful about potential other ‘mates’ out there.

I haven’t been lucky in love (my own fault, I had bad taste) so I’m very happy being single.

It’s nice to read of so many lovely partners when MN can give the impression all men are nasty pieces of work (and my condolences to the unfortunate women who married them).

I would never encourage a teenager to be in a serious relationship. I feel like Barney Stinson when I say this but I honestly don’t think you should even THINK about marriage until you’re at least 30.

Because I love my husband. I like his companionship, I like having someone to share the load of life and parenthood with, I like having someone around who has seen me at my worst and still likes me, I like having someone I can rant to about the things that piss me right off and he'll always listen even if I'm being daft, I like living with someone who makes me ugly laugh all the time, I like having someone to cook for me when I can't be arsed, I like having someone around to look after me when I'm ill so I can just vegetate, I like having excellent sex on tap whenever I want it, I like the cuddles and the affection and the intimacy I only get from him. I just love it. 18 years of not being single and I'm very happy with that.