Why aren't you Single?

[Aquarius1234]

I love a relationship debate.

So here's another.

Why aren't you single?

Oh no. I hope my DS lives his life and sows his wild oats, dates around until he’s 30ish. He needs to grow and know who he is before he gets into something serious

Sounds like Mr Perfect 👌

I'm shocked so many young guys and girls more early to mid 20s are with their one and only partner for life.
I was so immature early 20s. Lol I mean dinner and cinema was enough for me.
No way was any guy I dated gonna want to live with me.
But again why should you be all serious and committed when your young.

I have also realised that the people I know of, that are young and in serious relationship s, had never had a relationship before. ( obv cos they are young)
So I'm guessing first love is so much harder to walk away from/ split up. As we all know how painful breakups are, but more so when it's your 1st physical relationship?
How do you know what your life would be l without your boyfriend/ girlfriend in it, when it's what you have only known since the age of 17.
Your whole world would collapse and you would feel half empty definitely . Crying for weeks no doubt...
Life over.
But that doesn't mean you should be with that one person forever for fear of being bored and single.

Ooh that's a good one!

Another good one!

Such a lovely thread!
I've never found someone like the DHs on here.
I can drive abroad, deal with spiders (never understood the spider thing), and do DIY.

Be really nice to not have to do it all, all the time. So congrats to all those who have that, it's wonderful to know the poets and songwriters weren't bullshitting about this thing called love.

Because before I met my DP my life was chaotic and I always felt I didn’t quite fit in anywhere.
But It’s been over 10 years and he’s my best friend, my champion, he makes me feel safe and secure and can make me laugh until I wee myself.

We both ground each other and have been through so much together, we have grown up together and built a life that’s not perfect but it works for us.

I lived alone for years and now there is just the two of us and meatball the cat but as cheesy as it sounds it feels like a home now.

I enjoyed being single when I was younger and was reluctant to settle down, I didn’t ever think I’d meet anyone that it was worth compromising for. I also never wanted children so it was difficult to find someone who felt the same and who I knew wasn’t going to change their mind.

DP is not perfect! He works too hard and is very stubborn, he is autistic which has its own challenges, I’m also neurodivergent though so we both put up with a lot.
Friends and family have often commented that if we hadn’t found each other then no one else would have likely put up with us!

Because I met someone I clicked with and we fell in love. Our relationship is very easy and has never felt like an effort, which suits us both.

I was single and happy then the nicest, most reasonable, fun and hot man appeared in my life. I was planning to just have sex with him because he was hot but very quickly realised I’d won the man lottery with this one and he’s made my my life better and nicer in every way and every day since.

Alway good to know you don't always need to put lots of effort and planning into long term relationships.
Some people get so stressed over everything.

My response is because that's how it was. You might as well ask me why I didn't grow a third eye. I wasn't even seeking a boyfriend let alone a life partner and before we even so much as touched hands, neither of us could have walked away. I know its unusual, maybe even unbelievable but that is how it was. I guess we grew up together.

Lovely to read and we all know the challenges children bring to relationships

Thanks for your honesty

Truly wonderful

I feel exactly the same. I've never met anyone who cared/looked after me like some of those on this thread either. Lovely stories on this thread

I wanted to get a man so I could have babies and then give up work forever but still live in a nice house and get my nails done once a week.

I am not single as I hate it, tho haven’t really been single at all, and am now 49.

the reasons I am with DH-
rock hard cock and good at sex
does all the cooking and food stuff.
plans life so we can both earn £££.
loves me so
gave me two fab dc who are tall and good at math (I am neither)
loves to stay in so I can go out a lot when I want.
does all the laundry.

I think the reason I choose so well (and I had a fair amount of choice) was this short story and the book ‘yeah right get a life’ but Helen Simpson

https://www.teachingenglish.org.uk/sites/teacheng/files/weekend_text_0.pdf

I just never never wanted to be Martha. Now I am Katie but with 2 dcs !

I was very happily single for a long time, now very happily married to a man that loves me as much as I love him, he does all the housework and looks after me through thick and thin - as I do him too.

Oh, and the sex is out of this world!!!!

Because I love being a family unit. We have 2 children and I just loves us as a 4.. I can’t explain it better.

DH also does 90% of the washing.

I also, don’t want to ever have to take my car to a garage or pay for work on my car 😂

because my DH is the only man to ever allow me to be me..

Because walking away after 15 years is very difficult. It feels very selfish. Because the unhappiness and feeling of dissatisfaction is mixed with moments of joy. Because you can be happy together but it comes at a cost to you and you'd prefer to sacrifice your happiness, self worth and self esteem and walk on egg shell rather than see your kids crying for their daddy. Because, your a coward and scared to pull the trigger and blow. Because you haven't got the energy for the argument or the future arguments that divorce will cause.

A bit too honest. I'm off to name change.

Thanks for your honesty and take care