Why aren't you Single?

[Aquarius1234]

I love a relationship debate.

So here's another.

Why aren't you single?

I'd be happy single, I don't doubt it

But I'm with DH because I want to be. I love sitting down at the end of the day, kids sleeping, eating dinner together, having a chat / gossip and then watching our guilty pleasure 90 day fiance together 😆 I wouldn't enjoy it as much on my own!

❤️

Oh @NotTooOldPaul thats both sad and lovely. 💐

I am. Have been for about quarter of a century. No desire for anything else.

I don't like driving abroad

Haha I've recently heard of couples that are 22/ 23/ 24 being engaged and / or looking to buy a house etc.
Maybe that's rare .
I was more thinking, how do 23/ 24 years olds already have a big deposit for a house!
When I was 24 and dating someone that was absolutely never even thought of .
But then I was born in the 80s and only met up at weekends at first.
Things are different now.

Because my husband hasn't had enough of my crap and divorced me yet!
If we did split I imagine I would be single for a good while possibly forever. I dont see the point in being in a relationship for the sake of it. I have no plans to split though, I love him very much.

That is very moving. Look after yourself xx

I am widowed. I married my first boyfriend and we were happily married until the day he died. If I hadn't met him, I probably would have been single, never dated or wanted to until I met him.

I was very happy (if slightly manic) after being widowed. Tbh if I could have stayed happy single that would have been ideal. But various drives led me away from that, and then I met dp with whom I am even happier.

💐 @NotTooOldPaul. I didn't move in with dp until I could imagine being his carer if needed. But I'm under no illusion about the fact that I was really not very good at caring for my late dh. I hope I will be better at it if required.

It's crazy that 22 year olds assume they will be with their boyfriend/ girlfriend for life.
I probably who knows if I'll still be with such an such in a years time.
Not cos I didn't really like them. Because people change and can easily change the way they feel about you!!

Not sure I understand what you're saying here

I don't know. Because I genuinely enjoyed being single. Can't make the final break. Because I can't decide if he genuinely can't give me what I need as he isn't capable (diagnosed ASD) or just can't be arsed.

Because he’s amazing. every man in my life has used me in some way and I can hand on heart say I know he never ever ever will. He’s smitten and usually that would make me run a mile but I’m as smitten back. He’s perfect. he’s sexy, hes trustworthy, he’s loyal, he’s an amazing daddy, an amazing husband and the sex is off the scale.

Because my husband is the one I’ve made my family with and shared our joys and pain with. He is the person I want to be with forever, my best friend, my absolute love. Our children are young adults and the way they look at us both being so happy together is worth everything in the world to us and them….to me this is what life is.

Wow you have found a real gem there. He sounds so lovely

I've been with DP for getting on for 15 years. I'm 34 now. We are like different parts of the same person.

We do stuff together, with the kids, alone. We can just be together, doing our own thing.

I couldn't imagine my life without him

I think I meant there is a pressure on some younger attractive people to be in relationships.
Just being single doesn't register in their brains. It's not a thought they really have.
This Is just from casual observation

occasionally.

My boyfriends at 16-20 were absolute arseholes (I see that now hah!)

I was single (but not ‘alone’) for 4 years from 20-24. Had my own house, half decent job etc, and then I met now dh (13 years ago) now I’m not single because I like him a lot and can’t imagine my life without him in it.

I am very glad no one encouraged me to settle down in those years and I got to enjoy myself, while also becoming happy with myself too.

Because he's an amazing father and a decent person. Sad reading that back that this is the reason we are together though.

Been with my DH since 19 - now mid-forties. Never really been a single adult.
Because we both get different things from each other.
We can turn around and say do you remember that time 20 years ago when…
I couldn’t imagine being with someone who didn’t love our kids as much as me.
He’s super practical and can fix anything.
We both know each other’s families (the good the bad and the ugly)
When one says ‘can you get the thing from what’s it called’ the other generally knows what we mean.
I hate being on my own too long and get bored
He was super keen on kids, I wasn’t. He helped me make best decision of my life (to have them).
We make each other laugh.
He was super handsome and is still pretty hot.
Sometimes he drives me mad (and vice versa) but it would be like imagining my life in a foreign language without him. It would just feel odd and unreal.

My husband is autistic. He hates all social interaction. We have 3 children, 2 of them have ND issues. I’m freaking hilarious to him. No one gets him like me and I’m adorable

Sex, and he’s good with my dogs! (I love him too, and we are best friends who make each other laugh, lol). Fully intended to stay single after my divorce and then this happened. I could live very happily single, I currently choose not to.

Lovely to read all these positive experiences of marriage/partnerships. I admit to having a slightly cynical view of marriage (backed up by alot of MN posts) and have been single for most of adult life (painful experience earlier on). Although I have fallen in love at later stage.
Heart warming messages on here

Wow, stuff of fairy tales. Lucky you!