Husband thinks boob job using inheritance is dumb

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I received a small inheritance from my grandmother. Dh and I have agreed a couple things it will go on ( mutually beneficial). With the remainder I said I will look into getting a breast lift. Dh has stated how much a waste he thinks this is but equally said it’s your money.

For context, I like my boobs but ONLY when they are in a bra (so that’s why dh considers it a waste). I’m 130 pounds but wear a 32 e. I just hate the way they hang. But it is easily solved by wearing bras. So I do kind of see the point. With the size of my boobs it’s not like I could wear a tight top and go braless. That’s not the goal.

I’m 31 and just want to love my entire body I guess. DH suggested I go to Turkey but I would rather stick to a UK surgeon.

We are not in debt and own our house. Of course there are loads of things that the money could go on.

Is it silly? I guess I am concerned my judgement is clouded and I am being controlled to a certain extent by an insecurity.

Do it! Life is too short to be unhappy in this way. You have the money. You can't take it with you. I had implants 18 years ago, and I love them (I was an A cup which I hated). I have also had a facelift, neck lift, upper and lower bleph (I am mid 50's). It's given me a real boost. It's only money. You'll make more!

Doesn’t matter, this money is a gift and apart from household money

32E boobs are never going to look perky frankly and you won’t be able to go braless. If you are determined to have surgery then why not have a reduction. As someone with big boobs I regret not having this done. Doesn’t matter how much weight I lose I always feel matronly.

Very easy for people to say it's a waste but it is hard living with something so visible that you really don't like about yourself and sometimes all the counselling in the world won't help.

I'm similar in that I'm petite (5 foot) but always been top heavy (Ds), spent school years being called all sorts of names, likened to Babs Windsor in Carry On, etc, etc. I'm already planning to have a lift once I'm done with kids. If you have the money and the stomach for it then it's no-one else's business.

Just time it for a school term where the kids are mostly out of your hair and your husband can be on hand for pick ups/drop off. You are allowed to do things that will benefit you and your view of yourself. I think this comes under the bracket of 'your body, your choice'. Good luck!

Of course it matters 🤣🤣

Op may not have a single penny to her name, and we have no idea how much she's been gifted

If it will make you happy and give you confidence then it's worth 10 holidays or new kitchens! Oh and your husband is an absolute dick to suggest going to Turkey to save a few pounds.

It's your money and your body - I think you should absolutely do it. You already know it will make you feel happier and more confident.

Wise words. This is absolutely true. If you need your body to look a certain way to be comfortable with it, I think you have to accept comfort may allude you. Because the closer you get to your idea of what you want to look like, the more you notice the other things you will think 'let it down'. And as you say, these things increase with age.

Get it done if it means so much to you. But I'm the UK. Good luck and happy new boobs!

Yeah me to... It's just part of what feels comfortable

This isn’t just vanity the OP has back pain and fungal infections as well it sounds as if a well done breast reduction would be a really good idea for her physical heslthit is something you could in theory get on the NHS with her criteria

Nah, go for it. It’s your money and if it will make you feel better then it’s money well spent. Life is too short, if I had the money, I’d 100% do the same!! 😊

Your husband sounds amazing! 🤩

One of the things I hate is that when I wear a t shirt at home without a bra all you see are these 2 flat pieces of flesh and the gap between them. I always wear a bra because of that. It would be nice to schlob around and not care about seeing that part of me. As a result all sleep my t shirts have incredibly high necks.

Go for it. I spent some redundancy money on a tummy tuck and it's transformed my life.

My husband was unbelievably supportive.

I’m 50 - I had a reduction and uplift 20 years ago. Best thing I ever did and genuinely no regrets. I paid for it myself with money I’d had saved for a while after I’d lost some weight.
I had baby in my 40s and since gained and now
lost a lot of weight again and they aren’t as perky as they were post-op but they are STILL so much better than they were.

A lot of people don’t understand what it’s like to feel like that about your boobs, to have the discomfort and drooping and not everyone can come to terms with how they look, so I totally understand. I wasn’t with a
partner then, but my parents didn’t really understand either. Recovery wasn’t easy for a few days, so it would be good to have your husband on side to help if needed, but if not maybe a friend?

Breastfeeding didn’t really work out for me - may have been for lots of reasons, but even if it was only the reduction that affected it, I still have no regrets.

I agree with previous posters about not having it done abroad, if I was to ever consider anything again, I’d do it in the UK again - complications are rare with a good surgeon but it’s worth it for peace of mind. And do your research!

Good luck with whatever you decide to do x

Same. I know a couple of people who have had it done and love the results.

Dh and I are both decently paid professionals.

I couldn't spend my grandmother's money on a boob lift, feels wrong to me. Unless she specifically said it was ok I suppose.

I relate completely to what you are saying. They just get in the way. I don't think mine have sagged all that much over the years, partly as I always wear a good, underwired bra. Getting ready for bed, there's maybe 20 seconds of being braless whilst I swap my day bra for my night one. Its a personal thing because plenty of women hate bras regardless of their size. I've fantasised about a reduction but mine are just about puttable uppable with. I'd go for it, especially if you don't have to have implants, which would worry me

Go for it op.
I should have had a nose job years ago and really regret not doing so.
My nose is all I see in photos.

It's up to you what you do with the money, just make sure you do plenty of research. IMO, life's too short to be unhappy with your body. If you know that your boobs are saggier than "normal", and it really upsets you, book a consultation. They will be able to give you an idea whether it's something that would benefit from surgery, and perhaps have some counselling too.

If I had the money, there are certain things about my body that I would change without even having to think about it.

If I had the means for a boob reduction I would do it in a heartbeat. If it’s something you really want OP, don’t let anyone talk you out of it.

I’d be more concerned about your DH thinking more of the money than of your health.

If you want it and it's something you'll regret if you don't do it, book that appointment now

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