Feeling pressured to take DS' girlfriend on holiday

[SandiAndi]

Some background first. DS is 17, just finished Y12, we moved his school after GCSEs as he was having a rough time. We live rurally and options for a good school with good sixth form options were very limited so we have stretched ourselves and gone private. We also have twins who are 11 and will be going to the state school after summer.
DS settled in well at the new school but still doesn't really have much in the way of friends, he's quite introverted. However he does now have a girlfriend of about 8 months. She's lovely and has really brought him out his shell (they were the only two taking A-Level Latin so I think he felt more confident around her).

In 4 weeks we are going to Greece, we have an Airbnb. DS came in a few days ago saying that his girlfriend's family have offered to take him to Italy with them on holiday next week. He asked if it was ok and said her dad was happy to pay for the flight etc. obviously he will need spending money but he works so has some of his own and I'm happy to tip it up.

Now DH thinks we need to invite his girlfriend with us, I'll be honest I don't want to! She's lovely, very sweet and kind, but I never feel truly relaxed around her. We have also had well let's say issues with the volume of their recreational activities should we say!! And
I imagine it will be worse in a Airbnb! I could do without hearing that on holiday.

DH thinks it will be great, twins will entertain each other, DS will go do things with his girlfriend and we can relax, plus they can babysit a few nights. He also thinks it's really rude not to.

So AIBU to not want to invite her? Should I just suck it up?

They r going to do it regardless of whether u allow it under ur roof. It's legal. Better than off in a car park somewhre or something! Just should be respectful and keep it down.

@Every1sanXpert sorry but just no, legal or not allowing it in the house is just encouraging it.

Trust me 17 year olds do not need encouraging to do it. They will just find somewhere else to do it

So you would rather your daughter was having sex in cars, other people's homes, parks, etc, instead of in her home where she was safe and in control? Seriously?

@tillytown my daughter would never be in that situation. she goes out to the mall once a month if that she's just a kid. she's not been brought up to go in cars and what not.

Hard no from me as it's more of a home environment than a hotel and I'd want to completely relax.

She’s not just a kid, she’s a year away from being an adult. If she’s only socialising once a month I would be fairly worried about that

She's almost an adult. She can drive a car, work, move out if she wants to. Will be at uni soon.

Thanks, I didn’t know they changed it. Still think a gf or bf at 17 is perfectly reasonable

Only since 2023! Before then you could marry at 16.

And I note it’s 18, so presumably they are expected to date before, which would be 17 or even earlier ☺️

I agree. A 'partner' is a more serious deal, implies commitment.