Anyone else hate sundays?

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I find Sundays so hard- lone parent work full time in very demanding job

Sunday is 8 hours plus of non stop chores, prep for the week. Everywhere ( parks, woods, shops, etc ) is filled with families /
Couples enjoying each others company.

I push on and crack on, try not to look and ignore the crippling loneliness. Try to look away and count blessings. I cry every sunday at least once. I am desperately lonely. There is zero capacity to see anyone with the list of relentless chores.

I know i should be grateful for what i have. Does anyone have any tips for the crippling loneliness?

What chores do you have to do that can’t be spread through the week? I try to do a fair chunk of them on Friday night when I’m in a better mood generally. Also I always make sure I have a nice dinner and pudding and ot glass of wine to look forward to on a Sunday night or something good to watch etc but basically something nice to look forward to.

Cooking, cleaning, lunch preps, ironing, dinner preps, food shop. I work long hours and long commute. When i get home I parent until bed time then go to bed. Theres no time in the evening to more than cook dinner, clean kitchen and parent. I often work at night too.

I think this is just how it is it is just very depressing

How old is your child?

Stop ironing and do less cleaning.

14

I only iron my DD school uniform and my work clothes. I do as minimal cleaning as possible

That does sound really hard - hugs OP

Chill for a bit then

I hate them, always have. Just that feeling of the week ahead and the boredom that the day seems to bring. Can't properly enjoy it as conscious of going to work the next day.

Can you afford a cleaner?

Yes I hear you
sundays are a day of catching up with housework, food shopping, washing etc
I try and do some of it during the week but often don’t either have the time or just don’t want to.
I don’t have answers, just want to sympathise

I’m on my own too

Can your 14 year old share some of the jobs. My 12 year old is capable of a lot. I know teens are hard though! My 15yr old probably more useless than her sister…

In your position I would try and find a hobby you can do together so that you can actually start to look forward to Sundays?

You need to teach her to iron her own clothes. At this age she should be helping with cooking etc.

Your life should not be this busy with one 14 year old.

I barely iron. I iron my child's school uniform quickly before school each day. Why does it take so much time? Do the basics and spend time on yourself

I am very good at filling My weekends with chores. It's the only time I really get to do it. However I have started carving out time for fun stuff. I still manage to squeeze the chores In anyway. It's very easy to fill the time you have with chores. But if I blanked some time out I just shuffle things around etc.

What kind of things would you & your daughter like to do together? Maybe you could go for walks, swim, window shop, cinema etc every other weekend. Then do you have any friends or family you could meet with once a month? Have them over for a coffee and catch up, pop to there's, go to a beer garden or something. I know friends and family always seem busy but if you're seeing them once every 4 weeks they would probably love to have time with you out of their busy lives too.

It sounds really hard and you have my sympathy. I really hope you manage to find a way to carve out some you time because as your daughter gets older it's going to be nice for you to feel confident making plans and living your own life. The current situation for a lot of people at the minute is absolutely crap. We work so hard, come home and work hard and don't have much time or money left for the fun stuff but we only get one life and we must learn to enjoy what we can when we can. Sending you hugs. Life is one big rat race and if you have no one to moan to or laugh with it's even harder. Be kind to yourself and get something booked in soon for one of the weekends as something to look forward to, you owe it to yourself x

Yes, this person does:

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I 💕 LOVE 💕 Sundays.

When I was growing up Sunday was mass, followed by a walk (at adult speed in an adult chosen location) followed by lunch and the afternoon at a grandfather's house. I loved my grandfathers but I found the suburbs they lived in depressing, and it was EVERY Sunday. Then after a spirited three hour discussion of GAA or the hurling and watching the antiques roadshow or Road to Avonlea we would go home and it was bath and hair washing and homework and then That's Life and bed and then Monday.

I have very fond memories but...the freedom to do whatever I want on a Sunday feels like winning the lottery every week.

14? I thought you were going to say 4!

I'm a lone parent with a full time job and a 16 year old, I don't relate to this at all sorry. The type of parenting required for a teenager isn't physically exhausting. I don't iron his clothes, he's perfectly capable of that himself. I've done zero chores today, put a pasta bake in the oven for us for dinner and that's it.

Take it you didn’t read the OP 😬

Op do you have any single mum friends? Could you get into a little tradition of meeting on a Sunday afternoon at a park somewhere, or for brunch in a cafe (if your kids would sit still for that)

Her child is 14.

I hear you but I’m not sure what to suggest as have just had a melt down and good cry myself.

I worked 65 hours over 6 days last week including yesterday, took 20yo DD to the airport at 2am this morning, got back at 4.30am and went to bed for a few hours.

Have spent the whole day doing cleaning, laundry and meal prep (to be fair I was on better form this morning and did have a good dance round the kitchen)…back into a 13 hour day tomorrow and 55 hour week ahead.

At least the summer holidays are within touching distance!