Anyone else hate sundays?

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I find Sundays so hard- lone parent work full time in very demanding job

Sunday is 8 hours plus of non stop chores, prep for the week. Everywhere ( parks, woods, shops, etc ) is filled with families /
Couples enjoying each others company.

I push on and crack on, try not to look and ignore the crippling loneliness. Try to look away and count blessings. I cry every sunday at least once. I am desperately lonely. There is zero capacity to see anyone with the list of relentless chores.

I know i should be grateful for what i have. Does anyone have any tips for the crippling loneliness?

Bit random but did you have a parent that was weird around Sundays? I did and have had funny feelings about them ever since. There was always a feeling of doom and gloom Iin the house on Sunday, even down to the theme tunes of programmes that were on on a Sunday night during the seventies. Try and reframe it as a positive thing, new week etc. time to face it, rather than sad

You're not alone but I have an elderly parent to care for too. My weekend involves all the above plus cleaning her house, making sure she's enough food for the week and also small errands for her as she's pretty much housebound. I've no siblings, she won't allow a cleaner or anyone in the house and I also work Saturdays.

My only consolation is nothing is forever and one day I'll be able to spend my weekends doing the things I love. Hopefully I don't drop dead from overwork before then

When did i say it was physically exhausting looking after a 14 year old? It is relentless is what i said. Yours obviously isn't the same as mine. Horses for corses.

Thanks everyone else for the nice comments.

Yes i have a cleaner once for 3 hours every 2 weeks.

My DD cleans her room and does homework on a sunday. We do go to the gym together once a week as a hobby.

I am often late from work so i batch cook on a sunday so she can heat things up.

I have no time for cleaning or cooking during the week.

Parenting takes up my evening, picking up from clubs, dinner and organising lunch for the next day

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I've been there, if you're ok with not having help ok ,but don't let her dictate if you're not. It made me very ill looking after my parents both dictating what they did and didn't want with no sibling help, if you're not ok get help whether they like it or not.

Why shouldny my life be this busy with a 14 year old?

I work full time long hours with a long commute. Why shouldn't it be this busy?

I have no family, no partner and my son's father is not in the picture in any way.

You know what, I did. And I am also a single parent, who works, so of course I do my chores on the weekend (like everyone else). And of course I see couples doing stuff, although the truth is they are mainly not frolicking joyfully through the wood hand in hand. And I will be working through the summer holidays too, and that won't bother me greatly either.

OP my advice is to see friends, talk to family, do something fun. I agree with the posters saying one child in their teens shouldn't make those things impossible.

Get yourself into a sport, like archery for example. You can meet people at the grounds and sports usually take place on a Sunday.

Is working from home sometimes not an option? Or looking for a job nearer to home? WFH has been the best thing for me as a lone parent.

I’m not single but my OH does drop offs and works till later so I do the evening clubs etc and make dinner almost all nights. I basically get the kids to help, share drop offs/pick ups with other parents and pick really easy things. I batch cook bolognese, Chilli, Napoli sauce (can be used for pasta or pizza or as sauce over chicken/fish) & curry or similar once a month and we have those type of things Mon-Thurs. If you are batch cooking anyway may as well make loads and reduce how often you have to do it.
Kids (7/10) make own breakfasts/lunches and sort own rooms out.
We also let a lot go. If cleaner misses a week we sweep downstairs & clean kitchen/bathroom but pretty much ignore everything else. If we could only have her fortnightly we’d just let things get a bit dusty in-between before we’d lose our Sunday every week. Can you bear to just do a bit less?

Unfortunately not, in the role im in. Would love to though

I would do but there is no time with the chores

Also maybe get your daughter doing a bit more? My 10/7 year old do their own lunches already and will make ours too if we need one. Also own room tidying, breakfasts etc and load/unload dishwasher.

She does her own lunch, and washes up her stuff. No dishwasher sadly.

She could do ironing

I used to despise Sundays when I knew I had either school or work the next day. I had anxiety throughout the day increasing until I would be unable to sleep, making Monday morning even worse!
I'm so sorry you're feeling lonely. Could you try and spend time with a friend instead of doing so many household tasks? Or take your child out to the park, for a pub lunch, or just invite someone round to chill out over a couple of drinks?
You deserve some time to relax and once you've done a couple of chores you should try and have some nice chilled time.

Wow, some of these replies are harsh. A full on full time job, plus a commute plus being the only adult in the home IS hard. It doesn't matter if the 14 year old does all their own ironing, and does all their assigned chores, OP is taking on the full mental load here as well as keeping everything done around the house, it's managing the household money, getting the shopping in, thinking about what needs to be done for the week, a teenager about to go through GCSEs and not all 14 year olds are easy. Would she get more support and sympathy with more than one teenager? Or a man in the house doing nothing? I'm with you OP, it's hard work and Sundays aren't usually as fun as you try to get everything done. I have been there, and can say it does gradually get better, I'm just out the other side with an 18 year old about to go to uni. Hang on in there, and you're right, it's knackering and a bit shit. Don't forget to carve out a little time for just you.

Nothing like people on mumsnet to kick you whilst your down.

Thanks for recognising its hard work.

Id love to know the set up of these people who don't think what i have going on is hard.

Thanks for making me feel more isolated, invalidated and lonelier still

Omg OP, I hate Sundays too. Solidarity. I've always disliked them, even as a kid. But now I find them such a long day, trying to entertain the dcs and they always seem to play up more on a Sunday for some reason. I feel really defeated today with their behaviour. Maybe they can feel vibes from me, I don't know. Everything seems worse on a Sunday too. I'm really looking forward to bedtime today. I feel completely exhausted & drained. Tomorrow will be a better day for us.

Sunday is our favourite day of the week

Don't feel BAD OP, I have always hated Sundays, I was a single parent, I also worked and hated the thought of going back in Monday.
I am retired now, and still hate it, hate the smell of the dinner, and the overall ambiance if it. The thing is I don't know why I gave these feelings now.

Why? How? Whats your set up?

That sounds awful, OP. Afraid there are always a load of vultures hanging out on AIBU waiting to stick the knife in, whatever your situation. Relationships section should be more helpful, but even that's not a given lately.

When you ask for tips to ease the loneliness, you'll surely have to let something slip domestically to allow you can do one thing that involves others on a Sunday? Something that is sociable but brief - Parkrun?

I think I overhead Justin Welby say that it really mucks up his week - working on a Sunday.

It wasn't clearly stated in the Job Description and consequently he feels rather aggrieved (although he has forgiven them now).

Yeah I used to call them suicide Sundays. Dragging out depressing as hell 😔