Is this dress a bit “much” for a wedding?

[Northerngirl345]

Dress code for the wedding is cocktail/black tie. I think it suits me (size 10/decent boobs). SIL thinks it’s great. MIL asked if I would be comfortable. DP said it’s very “different”.

YABU - it’s not appropriate
YANBU - wear it

I think it's a fabulous dress and will be perfect for the theme. Wear it with confidence and own it

That's a horrible dress for any wedding. If it had a pencil skirt-yes. But the frou frou skirt is awful.

Just my opinion though.

@Northerngirl345

How tall are you?

What colour is your hair?

How much would you be happy to spend on a dress?

The whole wedding is taking place in a hotel, isn't it? No church at all?

Which season of the year?

Noooo. Items of clothing aren't 'suitable' just for certain ages. What fallacy. With the exception of sexualising people too young, I'm very much of the rule 'if it feels good, wear it'. I hate the idea that only a certain body shape/age can wear that. Fashion is for everyone.

It looks fabulous on you OP, beautiful dress (and I'd keep it!)

However...the focus at a wedding should quite rightly be on the bride. The décolletage on this dress is such that ALL attention would be on your boobs...at least from the attending men! And that's really not the effect you'd want, I'm sure.

Love it but prefer this one it’s a bit less frilly.

The photos of the teal version give a clearer idea of the shape and finish.

Looks fab on you.

I agree with all of these points. If the couple gave agreed black, I still think it's way too low cut for a wedding.

Definitely far too much flesh on show for a wedding. Plus it looks more evening than cocktail.

After seeing the dress on you @Northerngirl345 I have to say it looks terribly attention-seeking, and very 'look at meeeeeeeeee!!!' Especially with the flesh at the front showing (and the cleavage.) And the way you talk about your 'decent boobs' definitely comes across as rather arrogant and showy, and yes, a bit attention-seeking. Why would you want to show off your 'decent boobs' at someone else's wedding? Do you want to be the centre of attention?

Don't wear this dress for someone else's wedding FFS!

As pps have said, this would suit one of the Kardashians more. It looks a bit 'low-rent.'

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I agree, I think it looks cheap and nasty.

Blonde, 5’6 so quite tall in heels. Bigger on the bottom half than the top (small waist, big arse).

Wedding is registry office, then restaurant, then club.

Autumn. I’d spend up to £500.

Only mentioned the decent boobs because, like all of us, we all have things we like/don’t like.

I like my boobs/collar bones/arms. I don’t like my wobbly tummy, my hips or my feet.

I'm going to go against the grain here and say to me it looks like what you'd wear to a wedding if you were the volatile and vampish ex-fiancee of the groom in a Brazilian telenovella.

Or a flamenco themed toilet roll cover.

Totally took the above description of the dress as a compliment.

Don't apologise for liking your boobs btw @Northerngirl345. It's not arrogant. We don't have to hate our bodies and say sorry for liking them.

I wouldn't wear black if I were you, lots of women will wear black and you won't stand out.

Something like this?

https://www.johnlewis.com/adrianna-by-adrianna-papell-halterneck-mermaid-maxi-dress-green/p111283615

Gosh this is unnecessarily nasty and not at all how you come across. Ignore it OP - it’s low cut but not overly revealing.

I think it looks lovely but if you have reservations you might not feel comfortable on the day. Go with your gut.

This is a lovely colour but the shape would do nothing for me.

Do not explain yourself. You look amazing and no doubt will in anything you choose. The nastiness comes from a horrible place so just feel sorry for them then ignore.

It’s literally black, it’s not bridal at all!

I think it’s fabulous and you look amazing in it.

You have a really great figure and you'd look stunning in most things.

The dress though is really cheap looking - the fabric on the skirt looks polyester and flammable and in need of an iron (on a cool setting). The cutting looks haphazard. I'm not a designer but the sections of skirt fabric are not proportioned well. There are much better options out there for you.

Are you lot always this nasty? It's a perfectly reasonable question and not at all 'look at me'. I think it's the invite that's confusing... the dress would be too much for a normal wedding and not too much for a black tie event, so it's hard to know where the balance lies when the two are combined (which is the dominant theme?) By saying 'black tie' presumably they are assuming everyone will dress to impress, so it's not really about upstaging the bride, not wearing black etc. Personally I think it looks great and your MIL had it right all along - if you feel comfortable in it and you will have a good time wearing that dress, then wear it, if you won't then don't and go for something a bit safer.

I think the black tie/cocktail dress code is slightly confusing, since these are different dress codes. Plus it's a wedding and there are certain 'codes' that come with that e.g., don't wear white, don't upstage the bride.

That said, I think the dress looks a bit cheap. Sorry.

With your budget I would probably be looking at Rixo.

Your MIL and DH comments are definitely trying to be diplomatic but both mean no.