Partner won't try my cooking or let me cook for him

[Tomanyflaws]

Partner won't eat or taste my cooking basically but will eat another women's cooking for instance his mates wife's ig they are making food this maked feel unattractive ugly and no trust worthy he says jid love should be enough am i being unreasonable to be so jealous..

I was going to ask if he had ocd relating to contamination or something but, as he eats other peoples cooking obviously not!

Do you have pets/messy kitchen/low hygiene standards he might be avoiding without wanting to offend maybe?

I would demand a reason for his refusal to eat your food.

I think he's playing games with your head.

He sounds odd. Is he?

Do you have pets?

Weird.
I wouldn't be i a relationship with someone who wouldn't eat food I prepared. Feeding people lovely food is my primary love language.

Unless you are known to cook without washing your hands having previously been picking your nose/scratching your arse. Then it would be fair.

How long together? Do you live together? Does he cook for you?

He's had freezer meals like pie chips etc but nothing that involves actual cookibg like chopping onions veg potatoes or cooking meat im very insecure in other ways i don't like the way i look i think he fibds other women prettier than me im starting therapy sessions on the 30th.

He's definitely playing games with you and trying to destroy your self esteem. Big red flag IMO.

Do you live together?

14 years and yes he does but he hasn't for a while now i can't remember the last time hed cooked for me and our girls..

I wouldn't have a serious relationship with someone who didn't enjoy the food I cooked.

Has he just refused to eat your food and with ho reason given?
How long has this been going on? And how long has he been your partner?

Why do you think he finds other women more attractive than you?
Have you been together long?

So you have daughters?

He says im full of jealousy and him loving me should be enough and shouldn't need to involve cooking i thinks it all my fault iv accused him of looking st other women and finding them better looking than me..

Wait you've been together 14 years and he's never eaten or tried your cooking? That's batshit! What reason has he given?

Just seeing you've been together for 14 years. Has he said what's changed? Is he unpleasant in other ways or is there something he believes justifies this?

I think it’s really weird. Im coeliac and absolutely nobody cooks for me, but he hasn’t even got that reason.

Yes we have 3 daughters together he will make them tea when I'm working and feeds himself when he decides to eat and the odd time he'll cook for us all il enjoy it but im not given a chance to make ud anything or if i do he wong even taste or have a plate from me his friends mrs makes food he will try and even enjoy it but wobr entertain mine im clean wash my hands i ain't a dirty unhygienic in the kitchen person..

Does he feel you're unclean in some way or is he scared of cross contamination because he's seen you do thinks like use the cleaning cloth to wipe a chopping board with raw chicken on it and then clean the taps with the sand manky cloth or something?

Does he think your food tastes bad from some issue when you were courting or something?

What's at the root of this?

You gave two problems. Not one. The woman thing is a whole other problem.

What reason does he give when you ask him why? What happens on special occasions like Christmas Dinner?

Controlling behaviour, he is messing with your self esteem. When Nigella Lawson was married to Charles Saatchi he famously wouldn't eat her food, it's not your hygiene or your cooking it's him.

He had said things similar to that but how does he knows these other women are clean he isn't around all the time watching them for all he knows she doesn't wash her hands or she's scratched her itchy fanny who knows bur ro trust another women over me id very upsetting i feel so insecure and jealous and upset and like i have no purpose in life if nobody wants anything from me..

Surely it's because he doesn't like your cooking, especially since he eats the cooking of others. My aunt was a god awful cook but her children ate it anyway.

It's very difficult to understand your posts. I don't understand why how attractive you feel is impacted by your cooking?

However, unless there's some backstory - you're a notably terrible cook, massively unhygienic etc, I really can't see why he wont' eat anything you cook. I also don't understand why he doesn't cook for you.

Sseparately, if you feel unattractive, is that something that you feel because he has told you that you are? Or because of your own issues?

Overall, it certainly doesn't sound like a happy relationship.