Partner won't try my cooking or let me cook for him

[Tomanyflaws]

Partner won't eat or taste my cooking basically but will eat another women's cooking for instance his mates wife's ig they are making food this maked feel unattractive ugly and no trust worthy he says jid love should be enough am i being unreasonable to be so jealous..

I wouldn't mind but they don't invite me over very often also they could order a takeaway or go out somewhere i want him to appreciate me not her..

But I'm seen as the bad person here anf that im wrong for being upset over him enjoying another woman's cooking over mine he might as well move in there since he likes her so much...

It’s not about the cooking though, really. The food has just become something competitive as you view it as a sign of his affection: if he rejects your food, you see it as him rejecting you. If he makes it clear that he loves you, and you felt secure, you wouldn’t mind so much. It’s odd behaviour from him. What man won’t eat a bit of home cooked food EVER?

He has eaten mine but not for a very long time he seems to say she's s good cook but never tries mine i don't like it crushes my self esteem i feel very jealous and like a no option to him she's more important and worthy to him than i am she has an husband but she's obsessed with trying to please mine why??

Him wanting to sleep at her house and have her breakfast while me his partner and 3 kids are at home because he wants to spend time with she never invites me always my partner iv been there twice last time she wanted to go out alone with him for drinks acting like a couple sat together 🤢

She's not specifically trying to please your husband, she's being a nice host and feeding people in her house.

He doesn't even take me out anywhere but wants to spend time with her fking disgusting but im beinf unreasonable really???

Well she could invite me as well then..

True, she could and that would be nice. But if you give off vibes about her like you are here, I can see why she'd rather not.

Back to the cooking for a second, could you try Gousto or Hello Fresh so he knows there's flavour etc but it's easy for you to do and would build confidence?

I haven't i get on with her she just doesn't invite me..

Wev had from those places hes cooked it all he wouldn't let me make any of it :(

He thinks its to expensive to keep it up since our kids won't eat any of the meals they are very very fussy eaters..

It’s very hard to judge because we can’t see your cooking. He might be an abusive asshole or you might be a terrible cook, like my mum. I always had stomach issues as a child and was dragged from doctor to doctor never getting a proper diagnosis. It completely stopped once I moved out. Whenever I visit I have about 50% chance of getting the shits. My mum gets very offended when I refuse to eat her lovingly prepared food but I don’t always have the luxury to spend the night in the bathroom.

Because he's asking her to make food so hes enjoying it not eating it to be polite

Then maybe you have to come to terms with the fact that he just doesn't like the type of food you cook or the way you cook it.

Maybe he goes there as he knows he's can enjoy a meal and not going to be scrutinised while eating it.

This woman and her cooking is irrelevant, I’m not sure why you’re so fixated on it.

It would annoy me if my DP never let me cook for them but it’s more fool them.

As an ex chef, he is going to be fussy with his food and want to be the one to cook - just let him.

If it’s one less thing you need to do then just see the positive in it.

You obviously have a lot of issues and you need to deal with them yourself.

It’s not fair you are putting your insecurities on him and you are going to make him leave you if you carry on.

OP, please remember that people here only know the facts you share. There will obviously be more detail but people don't know it if you haven't shared.

You are coming across as unnecessarily sarcastic and rude towards people who are trying to help you if they make a suggestion you disagree with.

Clarify by all means but do so appropriately.

So you've been together fourteen years, so presumably lives with you and co children, and every meal he just goes and makes his own food unless he's at his mates wife's dinner table?

I want to cook for us though it means something to me to do things for my family i don't want him enjoying her food while refusing mine.

Yes or a takeaway.

Do your kids like your cooking?

Because People are saying it's ok for him eat to enjoy another women's cooking over mine im upset by that.

You sound unhinged and nasty. Good luck with your therapy.