To be annoyed that DH added sweet chilli to the pasta I cooked

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DH wanted chicken pasta, so I spent my time today making it for him, adding lots of spices to it as I know he likes flavour. It was exhausting for me to cook as well as look after our baby and toddler. He came home from work tried the pasta and went and put sweet chilli all over it and started to eat it.

I am abit annoyed as what was the point in me spending time cooking if he drenched it in sweet chilli. He doesn't seem to think there's anything wrong with it.

Aibu

You've just described every day in my house 😂 Annoying isn't it!

On his own pasta? Yabu

I put sweet chilli sauce over my own cooking sometimes. I just fancy it. Your DH fancied it over his pasta. It's his food to eat as he wants to.

Life is waaaay to short to get upset about things like this.

I've told him next time he can cook for himself. Don't see why I should go above and beyond if he is going to fill it with sauce anyway.

I can relate OP. My husband pours condiments over every single thing I cook for him, often without tasting it first. Drives me mad

My DH does this with cheese. I'd be less annoyed if he at least tasted what I'd made first.

My DH does this with things. It used to really hurt my feelings. 18 years later I’ve stopped caring. It’s his food. I cook for my palate ( and him obvs) and then he can do what he wants with it. I change things he cooks so 🤷🏼‍♀️

Unless he made you eat it, you're wasting way too much emotional energy on something that really doesn't matter. It's his food, he can eat it the way he likes it.

wow this is extreme. I'm sure he was still pleased you made the pasta.

Don’t go above and beyond next time if it’ll annoy you when he adds stuff to his own food. I add chilli flakes to almost everything I eat, regardless of how much spice there is already in it or who has cooked it (wouldn’t do it as a guest in someone else’s house though). I also really can’t be bothered if people choose to do the same with what I cook.

Why did you go to all that effort for pasta? Pasta in my house is a lazy meal slapped up with a jar of sauce.

I love sweet chilli sauce on everything too.

You are lucky he tried it. My DH pours chilli on top of everything before tasting. I just spice and flavour for me. And don't take it personally!

Mine never puts anything on the food I put in front of him unless its salt and vinegar on chips. If he cooks himself something he’s all about the black pepper, tabasco and mustard, which I can’t stand.

I think his mum trained him well. I would be insulted if I’d a cooked a proper pasta dish and he put chilli sauce on it after tasting it. Yanbu, OP.

This is what condiments were made for. They allow people to adjust the taste to personal preference. It is a normal thing for people to do.

My rule is that they have to try one mouthfuls then they can adulterate it how they like

Above and beyond? It’s pasta. Give over. He can have his food the way he wants it. The only thing that matters is does he pull his weight? Does he cook for you, do chores without having to be told? Does his half of parenting and running around? Is he a good partner?

Exhausting? Come off it.
YABU and taking this personally when it really isn’t. If it upsets you so much let him make his own pasta next time. Takes 20 mins.

Some people like sauce on their food.

I think you're a bit too upset by this.. My husband is a Chef and I add the oddest stuff to what he cooks me. I have it with ketchup, Worcestershire sauce, redcurrant jelly etc or
I add cottage cheese or something. He thinks it's funny and before we eat he brings out the ketchup for me. It's nothing personal and I love the food I just the extra tang from comfort condiments! Sometimes I just crave them and I should be allowed that. When I cook and my husband adds his own sauces I don't get upset either, it's nice he's enjoying the food

You have to have tried it to know the taste you're adjusting

I couldn’t be bothered to be bothered.

Really controlling, he can eat it how he wants.

Chicken and pasta is hardly difficult or time consuming to make. What do you normally cook? As long as you enjoyed it, don't let it bother you how he chose to enjoy his.

Seriously it's chicken pasta, it's a quick meal even with looking after little ones... its a non issue.