To be annoyed that DH added sweet chilli to the pasta I cooked

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DH wanted chicken pasta, so I spent my time today making it for him, adding lots of spices to it as I know he likes flavour. It was exhausting for me to cook as well as look after our baby and toddler. He came home from work tried the pasta and went and put sweet chilli all over it and started to eat it.

I am abit annoyed as what was the point in me spending time cooking if he drenched it in sweet chilli. He doesn't seem to think there's anything wrong with it.

Aibu

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I can't believe you think its ok to tell your husband what he can and can't eat! If this was a man doing this to a female it would be classed as abuse!

Yes, but I’m the Queen in my own house. If I serve Boeuf Bourguignon and he wants HP sauce on table, he’ll end up under the patio.

1. Pasta with chicken isn't above and beyond
2. You shouldn't be cooking much right now - HE should be looking after YOU
3. Sweet chilli sauce is fucking gross anyway
4. They're his taste buds - leave him be - and let him cook his own fucking pasta

But it’s incredibly naff to slather everything with HP or ketchup. You show yourself up and look like a complete ignoramus. Do you eat in a restaurant and ask the waiter for a bottle of HP? 🤮 How embarrassing would that be?
at home, do what you want.

I really couldn’t care less what anyone else puts on anything I’ve cooked. Pick your battles. This isn’t one of them

I do pick my battles and this is one of them.

@Ilovecleaning 😀

My mother would always get annoyed if anyone seasoned food she'd made. It's petty, immature and controlling behaviour.

Anyone judging others for how they like their food to taste is the real ignoramus.

I was just thinking this.

Even with a home made arrabiata or cream sauce then I wouldn't have chicken with pasta.
Sweet chilli sauce shouldn't be any near pasta.
But I really couldn't care less. I make a tomato sauce from scratch, giving it a good hour to simmer. It's to my taste so that I enjoy my dinner. I don't care what anybody else wants to slop on as long as the food gets eaten.
Daughter loves her sweet chili sauce, but will only put it on stir fry dishes or use it as a dip for chips. Other than the cost, she's welcome to slather it over a tuna arrabiata.

No. People should know how utterly naff they look when they slather their food in ketchup or HP; or pour a gallon of gravy all over their food; or automatically sprinkle salt all over their meal before tasting.
Ar home, do what you want. Otherwise, at least don’t show yourself up.

@Ilovecleaning at least don’t show yourself up

The irony.

I understand OP. I once spent ages making a fancy Spanish omelette, chopping peppers, onions, potatoes etc and DH went and smothered his in ketchup. I wasn't best pleased at the time but I couldn't be bothered getting het up about it nowadays.

He ate ut, he didn't complain. Choose your battles would be my advice!

Explain the irony.

So? My husband used to make bolognaise and I confess I always added ketchup to it!

If my husband threw a strop because I ate my food however I wanted to eat it he'd be getting told firmly to wind his fucking neck in. It's my dinner, I'll slather it in whatever I want. I don't care if it makes me look "naff" @Ilovecleaning , it's my fucking food, if I want to blend it up and drink it through a straw while making intense eye contact I will do so and that's my business.

Of course.
I did say in my posts in your own home, do what you like.
So carry on telling your DH to’ ‘ wind his fucking neck in’ and carry on eating your ‘fucking food’ and enjoy it, whether it’s using a fucking knife and fork or sucking it through a fucking straw. As long as it’s your fucking business, it doesn’t fucking matter.

Presumably you want him to enjoy it? I get you might rather he enjoyed it without the sauce but we cant control other peoples tastebuds so surely the most important thing is he had a dinner he enjoys, that’s why you cooked for him, right? If so who gives a toss what he chucks on it after. I’d probably not bother with all the spices next time though.

however, if are recovering from a c-section surly he should be cooking for you?

To be fair I make my own sauce for pasta and it doesn't take hour. I'm not Heston!

My husband puts sweet chilli sauce on pretty much everything. It's his food, he can eat it how he likes 🤷‍♀️

I mean, if he hadn't tried it and put sauce on then YANBU but he did dry and and it was bland enough that it needed some extra flavour. He hasn't criticised you or suggest you eat it another way so really there's not much to be angry about. Have you tried cooking classes ? DH and I went on one and it really helped both of us appreciate flavour more when cooking and improve our technique.

There’s a poor widowed 70 year old on another thread whose roof is leaking and it has flooded her bathroom. Noone to help her.

Enjoy your sweet-chilli-loving spouse and quit being so precious.

If anyone did this is my family then any pasta dish I made them would be made with a jar sauce. Essentially adding chilli sauce, ketchup, hp sauce etc is adding sugar to food. You might as well be sprinkling a teaspoon (or more) of sugar onto your food. Pre-prepared jar sauces are full of sugar.

I don't want to eat sugar so I make my own tomato pasta sauce but I'm not wasting this sauce on someone who thinks it's tasteless and wants to add sugar to it.

We all have different tastes, it's easy to meet your DHs taste buds with processed food from the supermarket so give him prepackaged food.