To be annoyed that DH added sweet chilli to the pasta I cooked

[Sleepdeprived2]

DH wanted chicken pasta, so I spent my time today making it for him, adding lots of spices to it as I know he likes flavour. It was exhausting for me to cook as well as look after our baby and toddler. He came home from work tried the pasta and went and put sweet chilli all over it and started to eat it.

I am abit annoyed as what was the point in me spending time cooking if he drenched it in sweet chilli. He doesn't seem to think there's anything wrong with it.

Aibu

He did try it.
“He came home from work tried the pasta and went and put sweet chilli all over it”

I hear you, OP. My ex husband did that too. Even worse though, he had a knob of a work colleague who used to carry a bottle of chilli sauce around everywhere with him, and used it in restaurants too.
It was embarrassing. And kind of an insult to the person who cooked the meal.

How is chicken pasta going above and beyond and exhausting to make!? I think there must be something else going on here to make you that upset about a bit of sweet chilli sauce!

With kindness you're getting way too worked up, this is not a problem some people have actual problems. My DH adds chilli flakes to everything I cook, who cares it's his food!

It doesn't mean he didn't appreciate that you cooked but he clearly has weird preferences if he adds sweet chilli sauce to chicken pasta so I wouldn't try to please him by making a beautiful ragu or anything. Just throw a few things from the bottom of the fridge in a pan and let him put his weird sauces on to his hearts content.

He did try it first.

It's a bit of a non issue but maybe you don't feel appreciated generally?

He did…

“He came home from work tried the pasta and went and put sweet chilli all over it and started to eat it.”

Anyone else paranoid everything is a wind up atm?

Sweet chilli sauce is a truly disgusting syrup, you have ever right to be irritated

Mayonnaise on the other hand

Mine is a masher , spend time making everything look nice and depending on the dish it all gets mixed up but it’s his food so doesn’t bother me at all and similarly he’s not arsed if I add condiments to things he makes

It’s just chicken pasta. If that needed that much effort, what do you normally cook.
Besides that, I don’t get why you’ll get worked up because someone wanted to enjoy the food you made them so they’re adding condiments to match their preference. I know I’m a very good cook but even I add spices to my food after it’s cooked because I can’t add much when cooking as DD2 and DH only eat minimal spice. It’s not a big deal to me

I don't feel appreciated, for me even cooking is difficult. I am recovering from a c section so things are tough at the moment for me.

‘Pasta’ isn’t the meal. It can be an easy meal with a far (thorough I find them unpleasant so wouldn’t be here) or can be an accompaniment to a sauce which takes ages.

Wind up surely

Pasta does. A decent sauce often takes much longer.
OP is daft to be upset though.

I'm sorry you're going through that at the moment, c section recovery is no joke! Im
Certain he didn't mean to offend you or dislikes your cooking. Does he make you feel appreciated in other ways?

There’s obviously more to this than just the chilli sauce going on… talk to him. You need to give yourself a break. Your hormones will likely be all over the place recovering from giving birth. If you found it that tough then just stick to easy options for now and take care of yourself.

So why don't you speak about THIS with him instead of blowing up over a complete non-issue. He is hardly going to take you seriously if you overreact to something so trivial...

Seriously?!? 😂

In what way would him enjoying his food less make you feel more appreciated?

@TheTigerWhoCameToEatMyArsehole

Why so nasty?

she's recovering from a C-section, has a newborn & feels unappreciated by her husband. Did you feel good sticking the boot in?!

nasty.

This isn't about the pasta op. It's about you feeling under appreciated. But by making it about pasta, which is a nonissue, you lost your chance to talk about the actual problem. Sleep on it. You get the lie in if you're not breastfeeding, or he at least gets up with the toddler so that you can go back to bed when new born does. Have another try at talking about the actual issue tomorrow.

Wooptie fucking ping.