Schoolgirls spiked my daughter’s drink with laxatives.

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This is more of a WWYD I guess.

My daughter has been bullied recently at school, some physical, some verbal and this week the bullies poured laxatives into her water bottle at lunchtime and I had to leave work to collect her.

I’ve not heard anything more from the school or the parents and the children are still in school.

I’m interested to hear what you think and what you would do in this situation as this is not acceptable.

Extremely dangerous ..

The school not keeping you updated as promised regarding such a serious matter (even if just to state that they would like another day or two) is incredibly poor form. You were not deemed worthy of 60 seconds of somebodys time. I’d report it to the police today and notify them of this on Monday morning, adding that their lack of communication is extremely unprofessional.

When you are a parent it is your responsibility to parent so you can cause a scene. Imagine if your work colleagues had done it to you or other similar circumstances. It is no less criminal because your daughter is at school.

This is really good advice.

School probably concerned that you go to the local newspaper and school reputation tarnished.

You’ll probably be doing the girls involved a favour reporting to the police as well. Next time they might really hurt someone through their probably TikTok inspired idiocy. A sharp dose of reality will do them good.

Reading this has made me feel sad. What vile little cretins. I hope your daughter is OK. 100 percent report this to the police.

OP I know it's already been said in many ways and I haven't read all the comments but this is kind of behaviour to poison a drink, to bully someone at that ate into drinking is criminal, it's outrageously dangerous. I think you should file a police report regardless of what the school says. My reason is that, you don't know if there has been previous incidents with these children. Nor do you know if the driver behind the behaviour is related to something like neglect or abuse. If you contact the police, they will be able to look into the matter further.

They've beed caught.
You are not being serious if you do not expect the Police to be involved. Inform the school how you expect them to proceed.

Remember the outcome that you want, in your negotiations..
For the girls to be genuinely sorry, and for their behaviour towards your daughter and others to change.

Can they do community service at school and learn some compassion? Can they see gaol? Can they see evidence of spiked drinks?

They need education, strict ramifications and time apart from each other.

I feel so sad for your daughter, what horrid mean schoolmates. This is so cruel. I was bullied around the same age and it still haunts me to remember how scared and low it made me feel. I've gone on to have a great life, but I never told my parents as I didn't want to "be a burden" and I wonder how different it would have been if I had someone in my corner who noticed and stood up for me. I can't believe how useless the school has been with something so serious so I don't see what choice you have except to escalate to the police / report the school and handling of it to ofsted. This is the kind of shit that really damages a kids mental health and if the kids doing this get away with it, imagine how much bolder and worse they will get. I hope you get to a good resolution where it's stopped and there is some consequence for the bullies.

Check out the school's bullying policy. Are they following it? Is it adequate? You've had a meeting with the school already. What were the next steps? What do you or your daughter want to happen? I don't mean in terms of punishments, more to keep her safe/ feeling safe at school. Ring the school first thing on Monday morning. If you are getting no joy, look up the school's complaints procedure. x

This is heartbreaking to read, your poor daughter.

Is moving school a possibility, if the current school isn’t taking this seriously enough?

If I ever found out my child had treated another child like this I would be furious and so upset.

Keep her off school for the last few days of term. Don’t send her back in September until school can assure you that they can keep her safe.
Awful behaviour.

I would call first thing Monday and ask to speak to the head. No doubt, you will get told they are in meetings, or will call back etc. Tell the person on the phone ‘in that case I have no other option than to call the police and log a report that my daughter’s drink has been spiked whilst in SCHOOL. I was hoping for some kind of response last week but I have heard nothing. There is no other option.’

I have a feeling you will get a call back quite swiftly.

Ffs you need to make a scene! Report to the police- what if it’s bleach or a corrosive substance next time? Or neat alcohol or loo cleaner?

Your daughter needs you to make a scene here! She needs to see that you have her back. She needs you to show her how completely unacceptable this is and that you won’t allow her to be assaulted.

Police.

Vile behaviour- report, especially as there’s evidence. The bullies surely can’t deny it?!
Hope DD is ok- she could have been really poorly

You seem so calm about this. I'd be absolutely incandescent and would have called the police that day and not left reception of the school until someone had spoken to me.

I cannot describe the rage and anger this post made me feel. I'm so sorry to you are your dd. The school are a total disgrace for not taking this seriously and should be completely ashamed of themselves on an individual basis too. How on earth have they just left this? 100% contact the police. If this happened to any child related to me I would go to ends of the earth to make sure they were dealt with suitably. Nasty, evil little sods. I hope their parents find out and have the right stance too.

YABU not to involve the police. Phone for advise.

I'd write a letter to the school outlining the course of events, but also lodge it with the Safe Guarding Team at the local council (assuming this is a State School) as if the school is not responding appropriately, then it needs to be escalated.

Call 101 and report.

You don't need to worry about them being criminalised, it's very unlikely to happen.

Did you read the updates- she explains what happened in details.

I have a feeling the OP is not going to do the right thing here. You must advocate for your daughter, if you don’t it will affect her life moving forwards. What would have to happen for you to create a scene ?

No, I did look but didn't see them. WIll look again, thanks.