Schoolgirls spiked my daughter’s drink with laxatives.

[Halfordscarpark]

This is more of a WWYD I guess.

My daughter has been bullied recently at school, some physical, some verbal and this week the bullies poured laxatives into her water bottle at lunchtime and I had to leave work to collect her.

I’ve not heard anything more from the school or the parents and the children are still in school.

I’m interested to hear what you think and what you would do in this situation as this is not acceptable.

I am disgusted by what I am reading. A strong overdose of laxatives could kill a 13 year old child. They would have had a manslaughter charge hanging over them. These little shits need the book throwing at them.
Is your daughter ok?

Follow process but do do something @Halfordscarpark. If this happened last week something should have been done by now. Tell police, tell school you have told police. Look up safeguarding, behaviour and complaints policies on school website. Ask school how they have applied the first two policies. You follow the third policy.

Time to get back into the school op and demand answers.
How are they going to keep dd safe? How did under 18s get hold of stimulant laxatives (illegal to sell to under 18s)

I do wonder if the bullies are saying dd volunteered to take it to be part of their gang. No communication is totally inappropriate.

@Halfordscarpark I understand why you might be hesitant - you don't want to rock the boat or be 'that' parent. You don't want your daughter to suffer further because the school staff might be upset with you talking to the police and hold it against her. I have felt that way too when there was a safeguarding incident involving my DS. In the end everyone benefitted because school policy was changed and new protocols were implemented. The biggest thing though was that my DS knew I had his back and that I stood up for him and advocated for him when he needed me most. Please don't hesitate further, what has happened in unacceptable. Pick up that phone and call the police.

Was it movicol? If you give 4 sachets of that without enough water you're risking overdosing on salts. Could make you feel very unwell and a lot of pressure on the kidneys.
I'd involve the police too.

I’m so sorry for you and your daughter @Halfordscarpark.

There is absolutely no doubt in my mind that I would be contacting the Police for what these vicious young people have done.

Please also consider a school move - your daughter needs to know that she isn’t going to be subjected to this when she returns to school after the summer holidays. There is no benefit from making her face these vicious little shits. It will destroy her self esteem and confidence.

Does she have any friends in school?

If someone did this to my daughter I am not sure I could trust myself not to do something I would regret. I know this view is frowned upon, and I know me getting in to trouble would make things worse. I am a calm and measured person but this is outrageous and so harmful to your daughter.

As it happened in school I would expect an exclusion.

It really could in the right circumstances. So dangerous.

Absolutely abhorrent behaviour from those girls. Dreadful non response from the school.

Escalate it.

Is moving schools an option?

@Halfordscarpark You can bet your life if they'd done this to a staff member, they'd have been kicked out by the end of lunch.

I have just read all of your responses. Now that I know they have been found with the laxative on their person I would lose me fecking mind. I would call the Gardia immediately. I would go to their homes, I would cause an incredible scene and they would never, ever forget me.

I know you shouldn't and won;t do that but I tend to be a loose cannon!

Definitely report to the police. If you don’t (and together with the school’s lack of action) your DD could internally absorb the messaging and become that person who is always bullied and targeted wherever she goes, even when she becomes an adult. Please do stick up for her at this critical time of development.

If someone did this to my daughter I would file a police report! That is horrendous, I hope she is ok.

Sounds like your daughter is terrified of them if they forced her to drink it. Can't believe you're afraid of 'making a scene'. Make the biggest scene imaginable please. File a police report.

This is awful, your poor dd. Please report to the police, don't wait any longer.

You haven’t responded to any of the numerous people saying you should call the police. Surely you have contacted the police by now? This is shocking.

I’m actually surprised that the school hasn’t reported this to the police themselves.

My son was mugged by an older boy in the same school. This happened during the holidays. We obviously reported it to the police. When we reported it to the school, as it was a criminal offence allegation, they also reported it to the police as part of their policies.

I would go to the Police. Then local MP, then to school governors and then the head telling them. Then I would go to press and I would not stop until I was satisfied that remedial action had been taken.

Police definitely I don't think I could stay as calm as you sound OP. The schools response would be making me even angrier.

Very difficult to believe

Whatever you do remember their names, once they're 18 you can act on it, revenge is a dish best served cold.

This is exactly what I would do. If they don’t respond, you do have to follow through and contact the police as someone needs to be protecting her.

But think carefully what you want to achieve. It’s cathartic to go straight to the police ( you haven’t) but ultimately what you really want is the school acting in her best interests and reporting to the police will inevitably, to some degree, alienate them. That doesn’t mean that isn’t worth doing if they aren’t going to respond appropriately.

Tell the police and definitely kick up a fuss! This is beyond bullying, it's a criminal offence!

I'd be going nuclear if this were my DD.
Straight to police.
Demanding immediate meeting with the head.
This is poisoning! They literally poisoned your daughter!!

That is absolutely shocking Op. I would not have left them a week to get back to me. I would expect them to be suspended immediately and also their parents called in to advise this won’t be tolerated. If nothing was done report to ofstead. Police yes that should have been done on day 1. Do you know who their parents are? I couldn’t not speak to them about this I would be warning them to keep their arseholes away from my child.

Go to the police.

As a teacher in a secondary school, I wish more parents would contact and involve the police with incidents like this.

What those 13 year olds did was vile.