Exactly! A bad menopause is not going happen to every woman. And I did not say that anybody was weird @OptimismvsRealism Get your facts straight! I just said that suggesting it's going to be 'a full decade of sorrow' (as YOU did!) is a weird thing to say, because it's simply not true. It may be true for you, and it may be true for some other women, but it's not true for every woman. And suggesting it is, is not a nice thing to do, because it's filling young women with fear and dread!
I know a number of women well into their 60s and 70s now who barely even noticed the menopause. I'm in my mid 50s myself and stopped my periods about four years ago, and I've barely noticed anything. Just a few hot flushes and low moods now and again.
I think it's a shame if some women have really dreadful bad menopauses, but taking it out on women who do have quite an easy time (or a moderate menopause,) and are happy past the age of 50-55 with no more childcare or periods or worrying about getting pregnant (and who just have an easier life than when they were younger,) is just not on! Blowing out someone else's candle does not make yours shine any brighter.
Being so rude towards others who have a different and better experience, and are chilled and happy in their life, is just so unnecessary. . As several posters have suggested, I think you really need to see a doctor, because you clearly need some help. (Like maybe HRT.)
I won't be responding to you again on this thread, because I have said all I need to say to you now. I just suggest you think before you post in future, because you have not come across on this thread very well, and are clearly very angry. And that's a shame because a dialogue could have been opened here. You snapping at - and insulting posters you don't agree with has put paid to any decent debate.