I broadly agree with you @5128gap. A choice based on comfort and personal aesthetics is ideal. Fat or thin, young or old, whatever demographic we fit in, It’d be wonderful if we just chose whatever we like to wear. (Capitalist directives aside)
my post was an attempt to encourage the op to feel more confident in herself, no matter her size, age or shape.
And, in part, it was a response to the onslaught of comments along the lines of: as a woman in your 40s you’re “too old, too sexualised, not feminist enough, not considerate of others feelings, not a good enough mother, too fat, too thin, too much cellulite, too…....” to wear a thong.
it’s tiring enough being a woman in late stage capitalism. I prefer to support other people to make choices that feel right for them.
And I hear what you’re saying about her son’s response and take your point. Yet i do believe that if we embody a positive, body confident position, it will benefit our children in the long run.