Wearing a skimpy bikini around teenage son

[Behappyandbehave]

I'm late 40's and have recently lost alot of weight. I have treated myself to some new bikinis for an upcoming beach holiday and some are thong styles. I did originally buy the thong ones for when me and DH go away later in the year alone. But every holiday I go on abroad there is so many people younger and older than me showing all their bums! When I was a teen it was rare, but not anymore. Just not sure I'm brave enough or if it would be a massive no with adult/teen children! Wwyd?

Not quite the same as wearing a bikini on a beach holiday though is it.

Nope. My ds is 12 and I have quite a nice figure but I’m doing high waisted bikinis on holiday (I love that style anyway). I would never wear a thong one Infront or him, or just ever really…

Then where do you draw the line?

It's really not a big deal to wear a swimsuit with an arse in it, I find it weird that people would be happy to embarrass their kids to make some kind of "point."

Great and more power to you. In fact, many people in my office enjoy wearing corset waists on occasion, comes in handy with a lot of styles, haha.

Again, I don't think OP is going to embarass her child to make a point (then again, she doesn't, she already said she is going to wear something else), but the thing is, kids are embarassed by so many things. I remember being embarassed by my mom laughing loudly and my dad wearing colorful shirts with wild prints. When I grew up I realized that's just how they are, living life, being happy and embracing themselves. And it's great they've never listened to me whining about how "silly" they are. I was the silly one, not them.

So to answer your question, I'm drawing a line where I see fit. Depending on the subject and circumstances it could be various things and various behaviours. However, for me bikini doesn't fall into the "immediate no" category either way.

I think be saying thong bikini we are picturing a g string up the crack type bikini when in reality she means a cheeky bikini when more cheek is showing. On the last few holidays I've been on these have been predominantly what I've seen worn at the beach and nobody cares. To be honest full bum coverage was in the minority and generally worn by the over 60's and I felt like I stood out more for my big bikini bottoms than I would in a skimpier pair. Take the bikini and see how you feel when there. I really don't think your son should have a problem if it's the norm on the beach. A thong however is rarely seen and I would say that would be going too far on a family trip.

True but bleeding from the rectum on holiday is not 🤣

I have no problem with nudity but I absolutely hate those thong bikinis. On a nudist beach you'll see men and women of all ages and sizes with their saggy tits, bums and bushes out, not a care in the world. That's real body confidence and real equality.

That's a world of difference from women wearing something that looks extremely uncomfortable and straight out of a strip club with all of their hair painfully waxed off their bodies. Meanwhile the men are hanging out in board shorts and ogling the 17 year olds in their stripper gear. Yeah...there's nothing to celebrate here.

It's not about a fashion choice. It's about a teenage boy being forced to view his middle-aged mother in a sexualised fashion - because that is what this arse-baring trend is about.

Wow, there are some really prudish people on here.
I don’t think a child or a teenager should dictate what their parents wear, they can just get over themselves.
All the people up in arms about buttocks on show, what is actually wrong or dirty about buttocks? If you don’t want to see it, then don’t look. There is nothing dirty, disgusting or whatever about buttocks. They are just a body part. People wear thong bikinis it is good to expose the skin to sun and air. There is nothing sexual or exhibitionist about it. If you don’t get this, you need to get out more and see people all over the world in all sizes and of all ages enjoying their time on the beach. No one bats an eyelid at a thong bikini.

I agree with this - I hate a thong as find them very uncomfortable anyway - but the Brazilian cut shows just enough 'cheek' yet still covers the bits no one needs to see.

It's crazy to me that this is the part of the story that you chose to focus on.
Your friend potentially saved a life. Normal people around her will certainly not have been thinking about her swim wear, but rather worried for the Ill person and thankful that your friend was there will the skill and courage to act. SURELY!?!

Exactly this.

This.

I'm not prudish at all. But I wouldn't tell my DS to "get over himself" for not wanting to see my arse cheeks. I don't particularly want to see his either!

How close are you getting to these people to stare at their bums? That's more weird than wearing the bikini.

Up to you but is there a good reason why you need a bum tan?.
I have a 15 year old DS and I doubt he sees me as a woman with woman bits and his older sister has certainly worn a Brazilian bikini on holiday and he didn't seem too bothered, apart from when it got attention from men.
Men leering at his sister upsets him

I'm surprised how strongly anti thong this thread largely is. It feels a bit... shamey?

I find it sad that on a website where, usually, women encourage each other to not lose their whole identity to motherhood, or to assert themselves if their husbands were to dictate what they wore, will then say "don't wear the bikini you want to because your kids will cringe". It's a weird double standard.

Wear what you're comfortable and confident in.

A string bikini, yes. A thong, no.

Wearing a thong in front of your teen lad does not prove that you haven’t “lost yourself to
motherhood “ that’s a slightly tragic view!

Would you normally show your arse to your children ? If not why start now. Leave the thongs in the shop, nobody wants to see anyone's arse hanging out a scrap of material.

Go for it!
Your teenagers will be mortified - but at their age all parents are embarassing!

I find it sad that men are not encouraged to wear Borat style string bikinis to show they haven't lost themselves to fatherhood, or to prove how confident they are., or to show their wives that they are their own man, or to not let their kids dictate what they wear...

Why is that, I wonder?

Sorry, mankinis!

Would you consider it appropriate for your husband to have his arse fully out too?