Wearing a skimpy bikini around teenage son

[Behappyandbehave]

I'm late 40's and have recently lost alot of weight. I have treated myself to some new bikinis for an upcoming beach holiday and some are thong styles. I did originally buy the thong ones for when me and DH go away later in the year alone. But every holiday I go on abroad there is so many people younger and older than me showing all their bums! When I was a teen it was rare, but not anymore. Just not sure I'm brave enough or if it would be a massive no with adult/teen children! Wwyd?

Well, too bad teenagers are easily embarassed by everything their parents do, so one might just choose themselves as well. They'll be judged - by their kids or society - either way.

But why would you PURPOSELY do it? I think it's a really immature mindset to say fuck it I'll do what I want and never mind what my child thinks.

Hahaha!! I just choked on my tea!! This in spades...brilliantly put 🤣🤣🤣

Wow some of the replies on this post are awful!

Realistically, inciting a bunch of strangers to spew out their opinions on what other people (specifically women) wear doesn't really answer the question.

Ask your son what he thinks, then you have your answer!

I wear a thong every day of my life, and pretty small bikinis when I'm on holiday. My children have never said a word about it. None of their bloody business!

On a recent holiday people were wearing bikinis that left nothing barely covered and then they wrapped themselves in a towel to cover up and got changed 🤣 bearing in mind that apart from a few bits of string everyone on the beach had seen it already!!

I think there is a point when you wearing so little you really ought to choose a naturist beach. Wearing a thong in public is indecent - no one wants to see someone elses arsehole whilst they are on the beach.

What a grim view, so only young women should be showing their arse cheeks... yuck.
No-one should wear them, they are unhygienic. You don't see men in them.

LOL!!! if he isn’t going to see the bikini on you, he’s going to see it on someone else. And chances are, he’s already seen it all.

better to have a pretty sexy mum than the one who isn’t comfortable in her body 😏

@poshsnobtwit

yeah until they want you to buy them something.

I don't like seeing the bottoms! Nope.
A few years ago my friend was on a beach holiday wearing a thong bikini and ended up doing CPR on a lady on the beach. I wasn't even there but I'm scarred by the image!! Who knows what the other people on the beach thought. Keep your pants on (and not the thong ones!)

When it's normal for men to show their entire arses to the world then I'll consider it too.

Indeed. All we have here is the age old message, that if you have the sort of body men might admire, show it to them so they can enjoy it. The repackaging of this as 'empowerment' to square the inevitable conflict with feminism is very manipulative.

"Purposely" isn't exatly the right word here, because you're hardly wearing something in order to spite your kids. At least OP certainly doesn't.
However, when you want to wear the clothes that you know would make you feel good about yourself, there is nothing wrong with it. This one would be on purpose, yes, and purposely making yourself feel great with a nice item you enjoy wearing isn't a crime. People would have opinions either way, I don't see why it should matter in the context of socially acceptable clothes (and bikini is socially acceptable, whether you like it or not).

That is the truest comment on MN ever!

Those tiny ones mem wear look just as bad except thankfully there is less backside on show, if I am sat eating my fish and chips last thing I want to see it bits hanging around or out from men or women

Men wear shorts with nothing else (self conscious men will wear a tshirt too). Some men wear speedos but tend to get the piss taken out of them for it even though they are far more practical.
Women generally have to keep their top half covered though some choose to go topless. We can wear board shorts with bikini tops/swimsuits, just bikinis or just swimsuits. We can wear a swimsuits with swim leggings if we choose. We have so much more choice. My personal choice is whatever easiest to get off if I need a wee. So normally a bikini. And my body is not banging, I just put comfort before anything else.

@Beezknees

she isn’t purposely doing it though, she’s just wearing a bikini that she likes. Believe it or not, not every single choice a mother makes is centred on her offspring!

Well, I actually do value my child's opinion.

I have no problem with thong bikinis as a whole, but I would not wear one in front of my DS if it made him feel uncomfortable.

I’d feel just as uncomfortable if it was my son’s very lovely gf. As another pp said, it’s for the spectator not the wearer as they don’t get to see their own peachy derrière.

Thong bikinis seem very statement to me and that statement is look at meeee! Fine if it’s aimed at your partner but not for anyone else thank you.

Of course I’m sure there are lots of people who very much enjoy getting an eyeful of all the female bums on display (but I’m not one of them).

Nay, nay and thrice nay.

I wouldn't unnecessarily embarrass my child if I could avoid it.

Realistically, nobody wants to see your flabby arse-cheeks. It is poor parenting to subject a teenage boy to that sight.

Floss might tangle them up and accidentally whip them off. Could be an unexpected win!

I’m going to have dinner tonight wearing a basque and stockings because apparently according to some on here any items of clothing are acceptable in front of family if you feel good in them.

I think children's opinion about their parents' wardrobe might be taken under consideration but this is not a must. After all, a parent is still their own person first and a parent second. As others said, not every choice, especially personal/style-related one should be centred around the kid. It could be, but it doesn't need to.