Rich ‘friend’ harassing me

[Brunchclub]

A few weeks ago a ‘friend’ asked me to go for some drinks and I told him I didn’t have the money to do so. He offered to lend me some money as he really wanted to get out and enjoy the weather. I told him if I did then I couldn’t pay the money back until around the second week in July. He said this was absolutely fine.

Fast forward to last night, he asked for the money. I said I didn’t have it until when I had stated, he had 2 more of his friends (also male btw) message me throughout the evening claiming he needed the money to be able to eat and I was being unfair.

This morning somebody I know told me they saw him out watching the England game and was out until 4am. He owns his house, paid for by his parents, his car Is paid for by parents and he doesn’t actually do anything except basic admin tasks for a few hours a day as his parents own the company. He is very very comfortable.

AIBU to be upset he had several friends message me late at night claiming he was going hungry when In fact im say with rolled up toilet paper in my underwear as I can’t afford sanitary towels and I’m on my period, I have 2 meals in my freezer but nothing for the rest of the week until I get paid on Friday and my bank is wiped out from vet bills just so he can ask for money that wasn’t due to be paid back yet because he wanted more for buying drugs and drinks?

@usernamealreadytaken Not when it's a piss poor effort to make someone feel worse, when they've already actually explained all the circumstances. And also when it's a repeat of what some others have already, pointlessly said. No. But thanks anyway.

@eightweeksuntilseptember @m00rfarm FFS RTFT! OP DID have money for sanitary products when they went out! She has since had unexpected expenses that have left her without money for sanitary purposes.

JFC 🤦‍♀️

How on earth did the OP end up being the villain here?

Neither a borrower nor a lender be

She's not the villain and I don't think anyone is suggesting she is. What a lot of commenters are saying is that it's a bad idea to borrow money. Ever. Especially from friends and family. Especially for "luxuries".
Sure, a drink with friends sounds lovely but if you have to borrow money for it then don't go. 40 pounds is a lot of money.

Exactly!
Try to ignore all the sanctimonious judgmental posts, OP. The situation you find yourself in is not all that unusual.

And only an asshole would suggest you rehome your pets.

Exactly. Remember, it's a fairly new trend to find fault with the OP no matter what.

Omg what a horrible individual, he used you to suit himself and then went back on his word, I hope you drop him as a friend no real friend would do such a thing. What an awful thing to do to someone let alone a friend. I feel so bad for you and your situation, drop him, honestly fake friends that use you to benefit themselves are not worth it and to tell other people about a loan you had both agreed on to suit him absolutely despicable. Move on

Not sure if this has been mentioned but look up period poverty, they should provide you with some sanity products x

Toilet paper is more expensive than supermarket own brand sanitary towels.

@SusieLawson you are determined to make the OP look bad as one of the undeserving poor, aren't you? Common sense informs one that the OP in the absence of money to buy sanitary pads used what was to hand, not that she went to the supermarket and decided to buy toilet paper in lieu of pads!
OK Susie, you reckon you are better at organising a budget than the OP, well show some compassion and say something positive

@Brunchclub - I know you’ve already responded to the poster who said he should have paid for you if he wanted a drinking companion but I’m repeating it because it’s such an important point. You were doing him a favour so there should never have been any question of you ending up in debt to him. It’s great you’ve taken it on board. And you’re right that only a very nasty man gets other male friends to hassle a woman for money. I hope you have other friends because this guy needs to be out of your life.