To feel quite upset - just got told by a stranger to get out of his fucking way

[Acapulco12]

Was walking badk from the shops this morning and swerved to avoid a puddle on one side and another walker approaching me on th other side.

Whilst doing this, I was pretty much neck and neck with a guy who told me off for walking in front of him. I apologised and said I hadn’t meant to but wanted to avoid the puddle and the other guy. He then said, ‘avoid me!’ and then ‘get out of my fucking way’.

i know this is a tiny thing in the grand scheme of things but it upset me. I’ve never ever had this. It was like road rage, but between walkers.

I understand I shouldn’t have been in his way and walked in front of him and changed direction, but I explained why I did it and I didn’t deserve for him to speak to me so rudely. I said to him that he’d been very rude and he just strode off without saying anything.

Obviously he thinks he’s completely in the right, and maybe he’s also having a bad day, but it gives him no right at all to speak to me like that.

Like meercats? Wow! I've never seen this. That's awful. I think I'd have to say something if I did.

Let's not pretend that men and women behaving in the same way doesn't solicit two very different emotional responses.

mrsdineen2 · Today 10:21
I have to tell my 6 year old to watch where they're walking and be mindful of others. My 8 year old has gotten the memo. How old are you OP?

Haha always one on these posts hiding behind their keyboards anonymously acting the fool. Fingers crossed your 6 and 8 year old don’t take it after you 🤡

Men are programmed by society to take up space - they are loud, large and spread themselves out. Women are programmed to not take up space, and to make accommodations for everyone around us.
Take up space, and don't feel bad about it.

It's a 'man' thing

Some of them are just cunts.

It's not you, it's them

Be thankful you don't have to wake up next to it.

Yes and I would have told them to fuck off too

That is truly shocking. I know people on here are saying she should have have told him to eff off but if he’s that verbally aggressive who’s to say he wouldn’t be physically too.

It’s not nice way to behave and shows him up to be an ignorant jerk, which is why I keep those impatient thoughts to myself in similar situations.

It happens! If you had walked in front of me in that way, and apologised, I would be absolutely fine with it. It’s such a tiny thing and the weather is shocking today we are just trying to get by aren’t we???!!!!

I’m sure you have had many occasions of waiting for the other person. We all do it, it happens. Completely out of order for that wanker to behave as he did.

i hope the rest of your weekend is wanker free. I can’t guarantee it will be puddle free!

We used to have a mantra as cabin crew regarding rude customers -
someone has to live with him, luckily not us, we’ve only got to spend a short amount of time with them!
it comes in quite useful in everyday life too! It doesn’t matter whether you stepped in front of him or not. You didn’t do it on purpose and you apologised. He’s just an impatient, rude man who’s going to give himself a heart attack one day if he over reacts to simple situations all the time! Let it go over you.

What a bully! He obviously has deeper issues but that doesn't mean the way he treated you was right. I'm sorry.

If this ever happens with me I just smile and stop for them. Takes 2 seconds, doesn't need to be a big deal.

Try not to give it another thought OP ❤

Just feel sad for him. He must have such a miserable life to behave like that.

Just be happy that you are not like that.

https://www.refinery29.com/en-gb/2017/08/169441/manslamming-experiment-personal-story

Rude.

which is the problem of the one responding, not the problem of the "swearer"

Many of us manage not to have emotional responses on non-events, don't insult us all, thank you.

He was obviously in a hurry to get to his penis enlargement appointment. Don't give him headspace.

Weird how I've got through life never swearing at other pedestrians

but then they would have started their own thread about being upset because someone use the word "fuck" 😂

"fuck off" is a personal attack, get off my" fucking" way just someone swearing... 😂

Very good advice.
He's such an important person, he shouldn't have to look where he's going or use his eyes to stop a blockage on the pavement that people will have to walk around. He's on a par with the President, everyone should make way for him and not delay his magnificent progress for a single second.

I know how you feel, I was once in the park with DC and eldest was attempting and failing to climb a tree, just hugging it really. An agressive drunk came up and started shouting right in my face (with spittal) that my very small DC was damaging a tree. I grabbed the DC and exited asap, but was really shaken by the unexpected aggressive shouting, and it stayed with me for a while after, worrying about what could have happened.

But people are right, feel what you feel and try to forget about it. He probably has a horrible life if he treats people like that.

Both pretty much the same

Absolutely!

OP. I'm sorry this happened to you. Even though it was about him, I would have been upset too.

Clown emjois? Who invited the Reform bots?

Agreed, OP was rude.

Thanks @@macaroniandcheeze that article was eye opening!

It can be hard not to take these insults personally, OP. I tend to dwell on things like this. Maybe get satisfaction from imagining this person walking off swearing to himself and dropping suddenly down a manhole?

I was sworn at out running with my dog, when a pelaton of cyclists came down the hill after us. I was well ahead, so waited for them to get closer before moving onto the grass verge, and had 'get that fucking dog out of the road!' yelled at me when the men were still a good fifty metres away (it doesn't take THAT long to get up onto the verge). Clearly training for the Olympics... I did dwell but took much pleasure in imagining a) what his fellow cyclists said to him after the ride (all the others were politeness personified and called 'thank you' to me for moving over) and b) him falling off his bike round the next corner. Slightly mean, but it helped.

oh god lord.. why on earth this something a random stranger say in the heat of the moment upset you? does it matter? but ofcourse it was a man wasn't it! if it had been a woman then you would have just shaken your head and walked on!