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To hope all the reform voters take a hard look in the mirror?

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Tukmgru · 05/07/2024 23:23

I have to wonder how you live with yourselves. It’s like you know you’re awful people, not just filled with spite and hate but also motivated by it. I genuinely am so baffled how you can sit here on this forum that is largely about supporting others through difficult times - perhaps you’ve found help and comfort in the various threads MN has to offer, and then you go ‘yep, fuck everyone else’.

My aunt was a BNP and then UKIP supporter, and a grifter par excellence throughout her life, and all of her arguments were the same as the arguments I’ve seen on here by Reform voters here. 4 million people went out there to declare ‘I’m a complete dickhead to everyone around me but want everyone to hand everything to me on a spoon’

Just fuck off.

(I’m not even a labour or green or whatever voter, I just think you’re awful people and deserve nothing but contempt)

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Devonbabs · 06/07/2024 08:59

sleepyscientist · 06/07/2024 08:55

Reform is the reason we can't have proportional representation to prevent another Hitler which is what Nigel is.

Those who voted reform don't want to blame themselves for their problems rather the people fleeing absolute poverty. The only change in my eyes needed is the ability for them to work immediately whilst their claim is being investigated so they can integrate quicker. The majority near us work cash in hand and are exploited by that, it's them I feel sorry for.

There is a reason the Lib Dem's have the most educated vote and exist in middle class areas.

Ah the Lib Dem’s, the party who tell women to shut up when they don’t want to strip naked next to a strange man. Women voting for the shit show that is the Lib Dems clearly aren’t that educated.,

The Lib Dem’s are popular in those areas because there is a detachment from reality for a lot of the voters

Mummytotwonow · 06/07/2024 09:00

Devonbabs · 05/07/2024 23:47

I think you really need some kind of help. You also need to start understanding that other people have different life experiences to you. Your post is basically everything you are crudely arguing against.

it’s extraordinary how lacking in self awareness you appear to be.

This poster is spot on!! You’re the one that needs help. You sound like a very unhappy soul

DoreenonTill8 · 06/07/2024 09:01

Devonbabs · 05/07/2024 23:47

I think you really need some kind of help. You also need to start understanding that other people have different life experiences to you. Your post is basically everything you are crudely arguing against.

it’s extraordinary how lacking in self awareness you appear to be.

Absolutely, when will the 'tolerant and caring left' wake up to the fact that telling people "look you ignorant, pathetic evil fuckers, stop voting for who you want, and having your own stupid opinions and voting for things that matter to you is stupid and evil. Do what I tell you and fuck you if you're negatively affected. No one cares, you're scum"
doesn't actually work and thats why reform got so many votes?

Whatafustercluck · 06/07/2024 09:02

Iffx · 05/07/2024 23:47

I doubt anyone who voted Reform is ashamed.

If I need to vote Reform to get Starmer out next time, I’ll do it.

What has he done in his 24 hours since becoming PM that's so heinous that you've made up your mind about who you'll vote for 5 years in advance? Odd. Very odd.

ConstantRain · 06/07/2024 09:02

I don't blame Reform voters. They're just looking for hope and an answer to their issues just as much as everyone else are.

People are really struggling currently and people are experiencing different struggles. Some are influenced by social media and the clever but harmful algorithms, others are fooled by social factors without looking deeper and others are just looking for a saviour.

It's better to address the issues as these people often don't feel heard so go to the person who appears to be listening.

turnipsarelush · 06/07/2024 09:03

Fargo79 · 05/07/2024 23:29

What's the point of this? I am not a Reform supporter and am entirely ideologically opposed to almost everything they stand for. But insulting and shaming people has never been an effective tool for changing their mindsets. Do you think that anyone who voted Reform would read this and recognise themselves in your description? Or care about the opinion of someone who is speaking to them like that? Or be motivated to change their opinions or world view?

If you genuinely want other people to share your outlook, this isn't the way to achieve that. If anything, it will have the opposite effect.

Yeah this. Everyone who has a right to vote should be able to vote for whoever they want. Otherwise what's the point.

Iwantitidontwantit · 06/07/2024 09:03

Ah "those people", but you're not racist right? 🤣🤣

I live in a very working class area, surrounded by people of different races and skin colour. Like my white britsh neighbours some are nice and some are not.

Of course uncontrolled immigration is an issue that needs dealing with at source. But this country is on its knees due to corruption from our shit tory government.

Our NHS is broken and reform have made it totally clear they want private health care, you want that too?

Butchyrestingface · 06/07/2024 09:04

You and your aunt sound pretty similar, @Tukmgru. Neither able to tolerate difference.

ageratum1 · 06/07/2024 09:05

The places that returned a Reform leader, like Boston, are the places most affected by Immigration.Maybe their experiences are different from yours OP.
Last year there was 685k net migration.Our infrastructure can't cope as it is! Someone has to say when enough is enough!

Flowers4me · 06/07/2024 09:05

RatHole · 06/07/2024 08:50

If we’re sleepwalking into fascism it is in part due to the holier than thou attitude of the left. The constant insults and lack of discussion have contributed to this.

If we had a government and opposition that weren’t incompetent the hard discussions would have been had.

In some areas of the country immigration is a problem, but no one can talk about it or they’re immediately called racist. This has paved the way for Farage to come in, and he has appealed to Tory voters who are jaded (understandably) by the state of Conservatives but can’t bring themselves (also understandably) to vote for Labour.

Farage has been able to take advantage of the lack of discussion to talk clearly about three big things - the NHS (as it stands it cannot continue much longer, and a French style private system seems inevitable), women’s rights (other parties cannot say what a woman is, Tories can but have fudged the issue for over a decade), and immigration (remember the Rotherham scandal?). If other parties had given air time to these issues maybe Reform wouldn’t have had the opportunity to get on the ladder.

Unless Labour magically starts discussing these things I predict that by the next election either Reform will have a much bigger following, and/or conservatives will move harder right to meet them. I can’t see Labour being anything other than disastrous after a brief respite and that will contribute to a harder right trajectory.

Before Brexit (another holier than thou shitshow) I read an article showing how history repeats itself, and it basically predicted what’s happening now, and that for the most part humans are too tribal and closed minded to make the changes to stop it.

I’ve always considered myself a lefty, but Labour and the sanctimonious behaviour of their supporters have lost me this time. I’m now genuinely politically homeless.

Well said.

EasternStandard · 06/07/2024 09:05

I didn’t but 4m did vote which is nearly half of Labour’s vote share

They may have disproportionately fewer seats but I think we’ll see more pressure still. Especially since Labour’s policies are the opposite to what they’re after. Eg increase in trafficking

midgetastic · 06/07/2024 09:05

Perhaps if people listened to each other and tried to understand why instead of ranting off and being rude about people who have different opinions the world would be a better place

Burntout101 · 06/07/2024 09:05

I agree but we need to look at the issues that got us here and address them. If it's based on misinformation and false beliefs this also needs addressing.

Aliciainwunderland · 06/07/2024 09:06

Fivebyfive2 · 06/07/2024 08:55

You think Farage and his lot care about women's rights? Seriously??

This is exactly my point!! Why are you having a go at me when I specifically said I did not vote for reform.

JFC it’s like talking to toddlers. Ask the question in a way that creates discourse and not division. Ask a woman why she voted reform in a way that is not mud slinging.

DoIWantTo · 06/07/2024 09:07

@TroysMammy i think they were trying to say that those on minimum wage are too busy slogging their asses off to make ends meet to have the time to volunteer, not that they were lazy.

sleepyscientist · 06/07/2024 09:10

@Devonbabs that really isn't a big issue right now! I've got a hen party next month my underwear covers more than the bikini I have been given, not making a drama out of it like some people are over changing rooms and toilets! I'm more interested in how we are going to pay off the COVID borrowing and protect our kids from the country going bankrupt

marmaladeandpeanutbutter · 06/07/2024 09:11

I think the problem is that people see Farage sat in the pub pretending to be like them and they don't believe he'll shaft them, and they do t believe private healthcare will mean they barely ever see a doctor. They don't believe the USA healthcare model includes a much larger proportion of untrained nurses and that you have to be rich or very ill to actually visit a real doctor as opposed to an assistant to one. They don't realise that a large proof Americans can't afford health insurance and that we'd be told endless lies or given a cheap initial insurance deal to get the policy through.

And yes, Brexit was a fucking disaster, and people don't seem to realise that it caused the majority of people who immigrated here to actually be invited. So we should get over it, or care for ourselves in old age. Or trudge of to dignity, as much hinted recently.

Megifer · 06/07/2024 09:12

"Reform is the reason we can't have proportional representation to prevent another Hitler which is what Nigel is."

I can't even with this comment. Are you seriously comparing Farage to Hitler? Do you often downplay the atrocities of the holocaust?

Devonbabs · 06/07/2024 09:12

Hellostrawberries · 06/07/2024 08:51

This! I've lived with uncontrolled immigration and like a pp got pushed out of my local community. Everywhere I went - the local shops, buses, GP waiting room, I never got chatting to anyone, never had the feeling of being part of a community because I was surrounded by non English speakers.
It was fucking miserable and we eventually decided to move. I voted Reform and won't be fucking off anywhere. I'm entitled to my opinion.

Exactly, I think unless you have experienced the effects of uncontrolled immigration and lack of desire to integrate its hard to understand the effects.

One of the Reform policies I liked was the Patriotic education. It all seems to be how awful Britain is/was, learning about other cultures whilst simulating ignoring our own traditions.

British education should primarily be about Britain, about British culture etc. We should expect people living in Britain to act in accordance with British traditions and norms. If people want to celebrate a different culture on top of that fine, that’s up to them. But when the school allows kids to drop out of PE and disrupt the lesson for a month because they’re fasting (which they don’t need to do), what message does this give for work environments?

Whatafustercluck · 06/07/2024 09:13

Op, on the basis that I'm an eternal optimist who tries to see the good in most people, I have to assume for the sake of argument that 4 million of my fellow country men and women are not all racist, nor indeed stupid - though I accept those types may be over-represented by Reform. I agree with some others that you can't just dismiss the feelings of 4 million people who have been moved to vote for a far right party. Perhaps they see it as a protest vote against the mainstream parties. Perhaps, in a similar way to Brexit, they truly believe that uncontrolled immigration is the root of all their problems. They wouldn't be the first in history to have their heads turned by a charismatic leader telling them there's only one way to put things right.

I believe that Nigel Farage/ Reform is absolutely ad abhorrent and odious as you say they are. But the only way we can make 4 million people (well, the ones that aren't racist and/ or stupid) understand the threat from the far right is to engage them in constructive discussion and by creating a political environment on both sides of the political fence that is about cohesion, unification and collaboration.

Devonbabs · 06/07/2024 09:14

Megifer · 06/07/2024 09:12

"Reform is the reason we can't have proportional representation to prevent another Hitler which is what Nigel is."

I can't even with this comment. Are you seriously comparing Farage to Hitler? Do you often downplay the atrocities of the holocaust?

Oh it’s ok, this poster is (pseudo) Lib Dem which apparently makes her more highly educated and accepting (as long as you think like her) than the rest of us.

MsJinks · 06/07/2024 09:14

There is no quick solution to any of the issues faced by the U.K. Farage gets votes by pretending there is - if he were in power and failed then he’d blame someone else or some other country.
Regarding small boats, I would prefer a party that gets asylum applications processed rather than either sticking folk in hotels or ignoring the backlog - and much rather that than declaring war on France by towing them back there or tipping human beings into the sea. We should remember that a number of people in hotels are from Afghanistan whom we promised to resettle because they fought alongside us - most of these were flown in by the RAF - what’s the solution for that?
Regarding legal migration I am happy enough that students pay incredibly high fees to help maintain our universities and workers are filling shortage areas where employer can’t fill role from inside U.K. and also pay for privilege. Happy enough neither route is taking them to settlement, and is paid for including NHS use additional fee, and happy enough they can’t bring their mum on these visas - all of this is already in place and perhaps needs better administration rather than just stopping and crashing our services and economy. Seems reasonable that to reduce this, if desired, is addressed by upskilling at home, and making occupations such as care more viable in terms of wages and conditions. We perhaps also would have had less of a problem if we were still in EU with free movement where people could come and go more easily to do short term work in shortage areas, and/or recognised and addressed this issue that was ignored by leavers prior to exiting the EU.
I think NHS needs looking at - the only way to get waiting lists to zero is to turn it private overnight- not practical and very costly for all both financially and in health terms. Farage would choose US style.
Farage is selling a ‘vibe/dream’ and can’t deliver any of these most desired policies - definitely not overnight and legally and definitely not to the benefit of most of the U.K. - maybe the other parties won’t but at least their solutions are potentially workable and humane.
I see Farage has already outlined that he will need to be on the national stage as leader rather than hanging around Clacton - less than a day to more or less say he won’t be doing the actual job he got in Clacton - why do we think he’d do his job if in power?
Edited to correct some dreadful typos.

peanutbuttertoasty · 06/07/2024 09:15

I am not a reform voter either, but this is what happens when valid concerns over immigration get swept under the carpet and nobody listens.

Startingagainandagain · 06/07/2024 09:17

I think there is a lot of naivety on this thread about what Farage and his cronies really stand for.

Farage is not a 'straight talking', anti establishment man who genuinely wants to address illegal immigration to improve the lives of working class people.

Farage is a wealthy man with racist, xenophobic and sexist views with some questionable backers and alliances to other countries who does not give a damn about other people.

This is a man who thinks Trump and Andrew Tate have something worthy to say.

Reform's hatred of immigrants/non white does not stop at those who come here illegally. It extends to British people who are not white and immigrants who are here perfectly legally.

It must be absolutely awful and worrying for people from non-white backgrounds in this country to wake up on Friday and find out that millions of people voted for this party.

We should not show any complacency when parties embrace extremist views.

You don't turn a blind eye to dangerous people with dangerous, divisive ideology. This is not what democracy is about.

Do you think that Trump or Farage care about democracy?

The media have a lot to answer for because so many outlets have constantly platformed Farage but failed to call him and his candidates on their dodgy views...

Just like Brexit was a disaster, and Farage was one of the main reasons why this disaster happened, no good can come from Reform.

Most decent people can see that and should not remain silent.

spuddy4 · 06/07/2024 09:18

@TroysMammy I'll volunteer in the community on my 8th day of the week because I'm busy the other 7 working full time and running a house whilst raising a family. So fucking patronising, it's people like you that will make sure Reform do well.

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