To think a lot of men aren't that bothered about women being ultra slim?

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From what I've seen around me, men seem to be happiest with average-sized/curvier women.

A colleague of mine is a football player and very into fitness and his girlfriend is quite overweight, they've been together 6 years.

A man I liked who is quite thin, he wasn't interested. His ex is at our workplace and is significantly overweight.

I know this sounds nasty and rude, it probably is. However I feel like on the whole men aren't that bothered about women having figures like Victoria's Secret models, and personality is more important.

You’re right. Most men don’t really care about body type except for a vague preference. It’s the ones that are obsessed about it that do you need to worry about.

Do men go more for face then I wonder?

I think both men and women do care until they are emotionally invested then that trumps what they say or think they want at the single dating stage.

for example I wouldn’t want to date a man with no hair or I didn’t when I was single years ago but if my dp lost his hair it wouldn’t matter now as I’m invested I love him.
he might not have dated me at this weight but 20 years on it’s not a problem.

What I mean is if people really didn’t care then loads of people wouldn’t be not wanting to date 90% of the ones they see on the apps

DH had always dated thin sleek shiny haired blondes, when we got together I was a size 18 with pretty wild naturally curly and red hair, it only matters when there's not much else in the relationship/connection

Its just biological programming not to be attracted to someone already pregnant with someone elses child, that is all. slim waist just confirms that

Man here. A pretty, curvy lady is 1000% more attractive than a skinny lady. Just my opinion! However personality and connection trumps both.

If you minus the boobs and add scoliosis and self injury scars I do more or less have a Victorias Secret model figure.... But I spent puberty through to early twenties wracked with insecurity and shame about being flat chested and never wanting to be seen naked and thinking no man would ever be sexually interested in me. Turns out, they don't seem to care about that either. I don't think they're anywhere near as fussy as our younger selves imagine!

I remember at the height of "heroin chic" when everyone wanted to be size zero, most of my friends were starving themselves but I had one friend who was probably a size 16. All the boys fancied her. All of them. I thought she was very pretty but her body type was absolutely not the beauty standard at that time.

My DH says you think you want model type bodies when you're young and then you grow up and realise thats not what it's about. Luckily I didn't meet him until he'd grown up lol.

I don’t think it’s personality having had a recent stint old last year I had so much bloody confidence with my body after meeting a few guys. Im curvy size 14, boobs hips etc and I was shocked how much guys seemed to love a curvier woman. I was so self conscious about not being thin and they were not arsed one bit and a lot said they liked curvy women. Also I know they were trying to get into my knickers..but I mean they weren’t repulsed!

Why would anyone care what some random man prefers?

I've been a size six, all the way up to an 18. Two years ago I was a size 14, now a size 10. All I've learnt is men are attracted to confidence. It's not your size, it's the attitude.

A radical idea, but what if we gave less of a shit altogether about what men think is the "right" kind of woman's body?

They arent as bothered as youd think. Perfect 10 by Beautiful South sums it up.

Personality may be more important, but give men a choice between two women both with nice personalities and they'll go for the more physically attractive one. Sometimes the more attractive one will be slim, sometimes heavier, depending on how she carries her weight and whether it suits her. There's no rules really.
I get that you want to be positive about heavier women, which is great, but there isn't any need to make unfavourable comparisons with slim women to do that. Also, it really doesn't matter what men want. We are what we are and they may take us or leave us.

My experience is the opposite.

The number of times over heard from men I've been dating that my personality is great but if I could just lose a few kilos...

I've never been bigger than a 14 🤷🏻‍♀️

I've only dated one man who genuinely preferred bigger women.

happy is attractive and also men like female curves. Not saying obesity here but not waif heroin chic

I am naturally slim, I have never had a problem with attracting men that find me attractive but I don't give a second thought to men thar aren't interested because they prefer more meat on the bone, why would I? I have the body I have, if they don't like it they can crack on and it makes no difference to me

Women on women are the problem, when my cystic ance flares up at the age of 42, men don't care, they still smile, talk to me normally but women? It's like they have met an alien.

It would be a much happier world if people just respected what people liked as long as they weren't unkind. We can't always change without throwing money at it. Would I like clear skin? Sure, am I prepared to spend thousands for the privilege? Fuck no! The people that love me for me are the only ones that matter

Well I'm striking (apparently) with great hair and I'm hilarious, but I'm also a short size 20-22 so I'm way past "curvy". That makes me invisible to men, but luckily I have a large but ruggedly handsome DH of 25 years snoring at 60db on the couch.

I'm losing weight though, so when I'm a haggard size 16 again I'll be fighting em off I tell ya.

My husband was always very gym-y, very muscular and 6 pack etc - he likes it best when I'm a 12-14. I prefer myself at a small 12. Though he would never tell me what my body should be like, I know for him when I was a size 8 at my slimmest it was his least favourite.

I think men like curvy women, with a nice shape. Definitely not stick thin. I think women are the ones who are into that catwalk model level of skinny. But yeah, overall I'd hope personality and the fact the woman fancies them would be the more important factors!
I've been curvier and very skinny and curvier I think is more sexually appealing to the average bloke.

This.

Many women seem to be bizarrely mistaken about all this, I don't know why. While they wear themselves out competing to be thinner and more athletic than each other, men just ignore them and go to what actually attracts them - big tits and curvy hips/arses.

I think it's what your confident in.
I've been a size 4 (partner hated it) to a 12 and he prefers me the largest I've been cause I have curves (I don't because I have hold weight in my face)

This is a bit shitty really. I'm not invested personally as I've been all sizes and think I'm very attractive at times regardless of my weight.

But you can appreciate curvy women without having to be disparaging towards more slender women. Men aren't one homogeneous being and they all like different traits.