To think a lot of men aren't that bothered about women being ultra slim?

[Voilafrancais]

From what I've seen around me, men seem to be happiest with average-sized/curvier women.

A colleague of mine is a football player and very into fitness and his girlfriend is quite overweight, they've been together 6 years.

A man I liked who is quite thin, he wasn't interested. His ex is at our workplace and is significantly overweight.

I know this sounds nasty and rude, it probably is. However I feel like on the whole men aren't that bothered about women having figures like Victoria's Secret models, and personality is more important.

I’m a size 6 with no tits and don’t feel particularly invisible to men.

If I were a bloke, I'd be attracted to a young Sofia Loren's body. I had similar measurements to her in my 20s but pregnancy ruined my lovely boobs. When I think curvy, I think slim with boobs and bum.

Hmm I’m definitely invisible now at a size 14 but honestly I’m not sure when that happened and whether it’s the being older or fatter or the combination.

Men are all different, some aren't even attracted to women.

Think it totally depends on the guy. I had a male flatmate who definitely preferred v slim women. But I knew another guy who said something v interesting that I'd never considered. He said that men only really notice the bits of Women that they like, boobs, butt etc and literally don't see the other stuff!

We can all say men shouldn't objectify women ( and of course they shouldn't ) but we all know that they do...

But isn't all attraction initially shallow? I knew nothing about dh when I first met him in a bar. The only I spoke to him was because I fancied him and I fancied my chances. I wouldn't have talked to him if I'd found him unattractive to look at. I wouldn't have seen him again if the sex had been shit or he'd had shit taste in music.

Ugh. This whole thread is exactly the sort of thing I hope my daughter doesn’t read while she’s growing up. Have a word with yourselves will you.

I think most men would prefer a slim but curvy woman but given most people are fat, it's not like most of them have a choice really is it?

Everybody looks good within a weight range. Too skinny (e.g. protruding ribcage) isn't sexy. Unhealthily overweight isn't either.

I have had a BMI ranging from 17-24 in my adult life, and definitely had more male attention when towards the bottom end than the top. That's probably a lot to do with my own confidence though - I think my body looks best with a BMI of around 21. Clothes hang better, and I just feel more confident around that weight.

Exactly this

My boyfriend is very gym focussed so has a great physique. I'm a 16-18. He really likes my boobs and belly of all things and is all over me all the time. I hate my belly!

I actually had this conversation with a guy last night. Tall, incredibly handsome personal trainer

He asked me if I liked food, I'm a very curvy size 16 so I laughed and said do I look like I don't like food

This led to him saying that he loved women who like to eat, and had a bit of weight on them as he likes something to grab on to. All the men then agreed they prefer a woman with boobs, big hips and a a big bum and weren't that bothered about them being a bit fleshy elsewhere

Totally agree!

@Vivfor60 i know I commented previous but agree. My comment was in context to OP saying it must just be larger women’s personalities that men are attracted to rather than looks, and I was surprised men found my body type attractive. But yes some posts are coming across that way with a nasty under current - both ways. I think most men are probably happy with any boobs in their face

Thankfully men prefer all sorts of body shapes. There are some men who prefer BBW, some like bigger, some like curves and some like thin.
I do think the average man likes someone who is content with themselves, confident with a sense of humour. I know that I always attracted more men because I smiled on a night out, compared to my friend who was a size 10 and didnt smile so often.

I think that most men prefer slim women - but I also think that what men think of as 'fat' tends to be a lot bigger than what women think is fat.

To a man, fat means that you struggle to fit through a regular size door frame. To a woman, fat means anyone bigger than her.

Men want women who are smiley and nice, and like them

I do agree, but I think it's only as men get older.
It makes sense as none of the men I know are as slim as they were at 18 (now 39/40) in fact many are significantly fatter, therefore they adjust their ideal!

Why don't we see more male celebrities and footballers, who presumably can have their pick, with more curvy women? Look at the WAGS.

When I mean curvy, I don't mean just in the boobs and hips, I mean all round like size 16+.

Well I am slim and have never had any issues with men not being interested, quite the opposite. Maybe I need to watch my DH around all the ‘curvy’ (does that mean fat? Because I am a size 8/10 with DD breasts so always considered myself ‘curvy’?) women since according to OP he will be off with one as soon as he gets the chance because personality doesn’t seem to come into it.

I mean my god OP imagine if I started an AIBU or do guys hate fat women? How fucking nasty would I be?

Social class does come into this.

Oh Christ I hate that song. But yes, good sentiment…

Take a lady who hates her body.

She is naked and all she can think is "My fat legs look awful, my belly is overhanging, my tits are sagging, I have cellulite....."

He is thinking "She is naked!!!"

Thats it.

Interestingly, those most eligible and desirable of men, William & Harry, both chose reed thin wives. Hmmm. They could have had their pick and picked slim.