To think a lot of men aren't that bothered about women being ultra slim?

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From what I've seen around me, men seem to be happiest with average-sized/curvier women.

A colleague of mine is a football player and very into fitness and his girlfriend is quite overweight, they've been together 6 years.

A man I liked who is quite thin, he wasn't interested. His ex is at our workplace and is significantly overweight.

I know this sounds nasty and rude, it probably is. However I feel like on the whole men aren't that bothered about women having figures like Victoria's Secret models, and personality is more important.

You sound insecure OP. Who cares?

It's mainly women who judge other women.

I get the impression other women think ultra slim, less boobs & hips is attractive. Basically underweight.

Whereas men all seem to prefer women of a healthy weight or a little overweight. The biggest thing seems to be boobs, hips and bum size to them

Obviously everyone's different, but this is what I've noticed. Women care about thinness a lot more than men do

I think a lot of men don't have a strong preference either way aside from not preferring very underweight or very overweight / obese. I think they find a specific woman attractive regardless of her body type. I suppose a lot of men seem to be very keen on larger breasts which might tip them into a preference curvier women.

In a sense this is true but its also true that women regardless of looks and amenability seem to find it hard to find a suitable man these days which seems counterintuitive if men are so easy to please.

Ah, another thread where contributers make out that size 16 plus is 'curvy' and 'normal', definitely not fat or unhealthy, whilst insinuating that anyone with a healthy body habitus is somehow 'heroin chic' and unattractive to men.

Keep trying.

I think attraction is personal and different for everyone male or female.
I have male friends who prefer slim women because they do crazy ultra running things and so do all of their wives so it's more a shared interest thing.

Personally I have lost weight for me not my DH he doesn't care about my size more that I'm happy and healthy.

Most men don't want obese women any more than vice versa, but few are into the superskinny thing; they don't care about, or even usually really notice, the difference between size 12 and 10, or 10 and 8. That's about women and fashion and stupid female competitiveness. Never heard a man say "Phwoar, look at the bones on that. You could count EVERY ONE OF HER RIBS, mate!". It's not a thing, or if it is it's a rare one.

All the research shows that the waist-hip ratio is the thing most likely to catch the male eye, if it's "ideal" (0.7) or close to it. The hourglass shape is key and the actual size of it comes second.

Men aren’t homogenous.

My idea of an attractive female body is tall, very slim and small busted. My husband admits he finds fat unattractive (and so do I), but that’s about it.

I loathe this 'bones are for dogs' rhetoric. You can be happy with having a fuller figure without slagging off women who are thinner.

It's hard to tell though.
Men definitely can be very looks oriented.
But also men neg. It was a huge thing a while ago and very annoying. So it's genuinely impossible to tell whether they actually meant that or if they would also tell a slimmer woman she had a great personality but shame about her tiny boobs/bum.

Yes, this.
Whether we like it or not.

Yeah I think this is the sad reality.

If you're an hourglass shape you could probably be underweight, healthy weight or overweight and still be considered very attractive by men. I think it's about the ratios.

I think a lot of women have a competitiveness about thinness though which I don't really understand (and don't think men have about women)

Gay men and straight women are most interested in fashion. Both would prefer to look at a male body so no curves

For what it's worth I MUCH prefer curves than thin. That said, I'm more attracted to intelligence and a sense of humour than anything else.

No, I definitely don’t think most men prefer thin women. I mean, to be fair, if you are ever in a changing room with women of different body types, have a good look around. A thin body isn’t actually all that attractive naked. It’s the curvy women who tend to look better without clothes.

I think any man worth having is more interested in your brain than any other part of your anatomy.

Hourglass/ curvy figure and a pretty face gets you a very VERY long way.

I have had all kinds of figures from size 8-16 but not the best face, and my personality has had to do a lot of heavy lifting. I had a lot of men who wanted to sleep with me, but didn't want a relationship, when I was bigger.

I think all men have different preferences but confidence, a pleasant face and a warm personality will get attention from most men regardless of weight.

Personally I have fluctuated between a very skinny size 6 and a curvy size 10 - I haven't noticed any difference in attention from men except that I am getting less attention now I'm older, less friendly to strangers and less receptive to the male gaze.

However, I did notice that I got lots of compliments and attention from other women when I was a very unhealthy (for my own body type since I was starving myself t) and skinny size 6. I think it's mainly other women that place value on being super slim.

Jesus who cares? Some men like slimmer women, some like bigger women just as some women like slimmer men etc etc

Putting everyone into one box of who finds what attractive is dumb. And again who cares? We are who and what we are and some people will like us and some not. We should all try and like ourselves a bit more though. I'm several stone overweight and very happy with myself. Feel no need to compare myself with other women or compete for male attention. Why? Well I'm a grown woman who should have grown out of all this shit after leaving the teenage years.

There is nothing wrong with being 'skinny' or 'fat'. Stop pitting women against other women all the time. It is pathetic.

That’s your opinion and, personally, I disagree.

This thread is turning cruel.

Whats the piint in saying anything? It generally just attracts more criticism. I just dumped them.

By far, the worst were comments were made by men when I felt the most comfortable with myself. I've never understood why women say men are attracted to confident women. When I've felt good about myself, that seems to be when I've attracted the most criticism.

My weight has never really varied that much. The smallest I ever am is a 10 and largest was a 14. I usually hover around a 12.

I've had negative/critical comments at all sizes. A lot of men are uncomfortable when a woman isn't being self critical.

I don’t think men mind a few extra pounds, but morbid obesity is a no no.

Or maybe they would prefer the curvy 21 year old 😁. I agree with PPs, women are conditioned to think that they need to be something which is attractive to other women rather than men! I am curvy (maybe even “curvy”) and certainly have never struggled in the men department.

My experience as a fat woman is the best men see women as people and are attracted to people as a whole. It's the shallow ones and the ones who see women as objects who are keen on women looking a certain way. Nice men who want a partner are nothing like that.