Partner didn't drive me to my C-section appointment

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He decided he would go to work on the day of my C-section, and decided it would be okay for me to get on 2 buses to go to the hospital with my heavy suitcase, even though I'm walking gingerly at 39 weeks pregnant. He said he'd meet me there once the action starts, (but not a second before, what with the epidural injection, the prep and checks, he doesnt want to see all that) so no emotional support, nor help, not even help with packing from the day/night before. Instead he was hanging out with friends last night til 12midnight.
I decided last minute to get an Uber, £17 to the hospital, and I've taken a screenshot of the fare so he can pay it. I don't see why he couldn't give me a lift instead, and then come back with public transport himself. Am I being unreasonable?

Does this mean you're not together/on and off?

This isn't a partner. That would be the end for me.

1. I don't believe you. 2.In the unlikely event of this being true, you also have/had a shite partner. 3.There's is no such word as "brang".

He's with me now, on hand to help out with the post-op side of things. He doesn't understand about emotional support for the build up to the procedure. He is just sat here, silent, as I've as had a go about him letting me down this morning.

"Iffy"? It's downright mean and disrespectful. He doesn't give a damn about you I'm afraid. And out until 12pm last night? He's an utter disgrace.

wtf did I just read

even Co parenting he should be bloody driving you and staying with you through it all

He is no good. Todd him back. CMS and raise your children without his sorry ass

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Why are your standards so incredibly low of a partner?
To have one child is a mistake but two ……?
Madness.

You deserve much better than this awful sperm Donor.
I hope you and your baby are safe & you find the strength to recognise to leave him

Which part of the OP did you read that made you think this was something that hadn't yet happened?

Summerhols26 I agree with birthday rainbow.
fwiw, call woman’s aid and get advice. For your twins if you can’t do it for you xxxx

Yes, he said he would take a holiday from work. Not sure how long though. But I will demand the help if I need it. I just wish he would naturally know that I require lots of his support and not be looking for the first opportunity to rtn to work. Feels like I'm inconveniencing him big-time. That's the main reason we have zero relationship, just co-parenting.

Selfish piece of shit. You’ll be in it alone with the baby. Dump him so you don’t have two babies to deal with. His actions have actually made me so angry! How could he treat you like that?

Ah Chic - you need a reliable help at this time. Start making plans to have a better life for you and your babies you deserve so much more.

Whatever you do, don't give the child his name in case his selfishness is contagious. Best of luck today!

Make sure he isn't on the birth certificate! You don't want him making trouble for the next 18 years. Selfish useless git.

Relationship ended during this pregnancy. No on and off. Just strictly have him round to see his 2 yo and to help out with child-related duties/costs.

And again 👆
There isn't much to add.

Why is he calling it a holiday? It's paternity leave and I think it can be as much as 6 weeks now. It's his job to support you and baby during pat leave. Is he self-employed?

I'm so glad, good for you.

I guess if he's an ex, then technically he doesn't really have any obligation to support you - he should, obviously, but really good obligation is to the children rather than you now. Stop referring to him as a partner, he isn't and he won't be.

Line up other support for when you need it.

You've got this.

That was quite a vital piece of information to leave out of your op, you said your partner which implies you’re together. That said, it’s still awful behaviour not to drive you.

Waiting about for them to take us into theatre.
Good question, I often wonder if any of this is to do with his fear of becoming a dad again.
Yes, we have split up midway through this pregnancy as that is when he started acting out more than ever before. I am already planning a life without him. Just want my kids to have a chance to know their dad.
My own dad was not husband material for my mum, but he was a great dad to us, so let's see what the future will look like.

This is so sad…what a wanker he is. Like you need this extra stress at this time of your life!

I had a planned section and my now EX husband caused an argument the day of the appointment. Refused to drive me there or attend. Locked himself in the bathroom until I begged him to come with me. When people show you who they are believe them because it will get worse.

You’re calling him your partner but say you’re not together yet you keep him around for your 2yo and now for this new baby too - this is where the confusion is coming from.

I just wish he would naturally know that I require lots of his support and not be looking for the first opportunity to rtn to work

Of course he naturally knows that you require support, he just can’t be arsed giving it to you because he’s a selfish prick.

I know men who would drive a pregnant stranger to a hospital.
The absolute least he could have done is dropped you and your luggage off.

I’m glad you’re not together and I hope you remember this feeling and never take him back.

Did you break up with him?

He’s either punishing you for breaking up with him or he’s already moved/trying to move on to someone else.

Good luck with your c-section 💐

I am an extremely sensitive and anxious person with a fear of hospitals and anything hospital related. I would hyperventilate. I have vasovagal syncope and would literally collapse and experience diarrhoea and feelings of nausea. I would be extremely worried about the birth. I would be in no state to drive. If he is anything like me, I can’t blame him for needing to take his mind of things and not be there for the birth.