Partner didn't drive me to my C-section appointment

[LoopyDays]

He decided he would go to work on the day of my C-section, and decided it would be okay for me to get on 2 buses to go to the hospital with my heavy suitcase, even though I'm walking gingerly at 39 weeks pregnant. He said he'd meet me there once the action starts, (but not a second before, what with the epidural injection, the prep and checks, he doesnt want to see all that) so no emotional support, nor help, not even help with packing from the day/night before. Instead he was hanging out with friends last night til 12midnight.
I decided last minute to get an Uber, £17 to the hospital, and I've taken a screenshot of the fare so he can pay it. I don't see why he couldn't give me a lift instead, and then come back with public transport himself. Am I being unreasonable?

I again find myself without the medles! Can the person with them please hurry up and start handing them out before any other champions of womanhood arrive!

Is this your first DC with him @LoopyDays

Yes I was thinking the same: bigger fish to fry now OP. You can worry about the invoice later. And I promise you will be totally taken up by your new arrival and probably won’t have a moment to waste on thoughts of dp’s behaviour. He’s lost out not being there for the whole journey. Xx

I have no words. I really hope you can throw that utter disgrace out of your house & your life
Honestly, How do you move on from that much disregard, both for you as his partner & mother to his child.
No, just No.

I am so sorry OP. I really hope this isn’t real.

I hope you have a good support network? A mum/sister/aunt/best friend? Take a deep breath, you’re about to meet the love of your life. That waster isn’t worth a second of your time going forward.

I’m so sorry.

I have never posted on SM in this way before but I’d be posting on FB that you’re in the Uber on the way to the hospital to meet your baby. Let the world know he’s a piece of shit.

Has he always been like this or has he steadily got worse during your relationship.

Useless piece of shit. If it were me he could either buck his ideas up or he’d be on his merry way.

You have been waiting 9 months to meet this little baby. Do not let this take up any head space! Although hard i know. This wonderful day you will not get back this is your baby and they will mean more than anything when they come in to this world. I would be the same and upset but maybe dad is having some nerves too he's going to be there for birth and today is about you staying as calm and as positive as possible and you deserve that after all the hard work growing this baby. I really don't find other posters helpful as surely the nature of the site means we all know how overwhelming the day our babies are born can be. All you need to be worrying about is what snacks ur demanding dad to bring in. What beautiful outfit he or she is wearing first and making sure that your comfort and peace is paramount. I made mine buy me a slap up dinner after having hyperemesis it was the least he could do. All these conversations with your partner can wait i think you are completely valid in your feelings. I wish you well for your delivery.

In case this your first I had a wonderful experience with my planned section and the whole day was like walking on cloud 9. You will feel really in control of everything and my advice to you is mobilize as soon as you feel up to it. It will really help with not getting too sore and stiff. And Do not be shy to press your buzzer as soon as u might need some pain relief it's great stuff and no need to get sore. Also say yes to the PR medication it will really help. Do you know if you are having a boy or a girl? What names do you have? I promise when you see their little face none of this matters. Just you and them.

Are you joking? There’s no way I would have gone on my own at that stage. DH at the least should take you with Dc in the car and then drop DC off and then come back.

Raise your standards and get rid of this waste of space.

Get him to fuck? Out last night til midnight the night before your section is one thing, working is another and then not taking you?

this isn’t a domestic argument, this is just sheer neglect of you, and my god it’s gonna be a million times worse with a baby

I wouldn’t let him in the bloody hospital. Start as you mean to go on

You mean your soon to be ex-partner, right?

What is wrong with him? He’s just thinking of himself, not his pregnant partner about to give birth. What’s he going to be like with a child to prioritise.

Another heroic mother. You get a medal and a cannon salve.
You realise this is not a pissing contest? Not every woman has an easy pregnancy and birth. I couldn't have taken a public transport because I managed to tumble a flight of stairs two weeks before I gave birth. I could barely walk and till now I only have use of 60% of my ankle power because I never had a chance to recover properly. I don't talk about it as an heroic act because it was extremely painful and made the time after the C-section even more painful and difficult to go through.
But hey, every time a woman says how difficult it was for her, you get the trolls crawling from underneath their rocks who were throwing little humans like a sheep birthing a lamb, effortlessly and barely in need of assistance. Well done you!

Oh dear. This won't end well. Heck, it's not even started well. I wish you all the best in your new single life op.

Sounds like something from call the midwife in 1954

You have to explain this because it can't be that you're blaming the OP.

Time to start planning for single parenthood.

Yes, he is a piece of shit.

Not a great start to fatherhood! Hopefully he pulls his socks up when the baby is born but if not don't be scared to leave him.
Do you have anyone else who could be with you for the birth? Mum/friend? Just that you're going to need support and it doesn't sound hopeful that you're going to get it from your partner

My exh did similar shit.

I can't tell you how wonderful leaving him felt.

I hope all is well with you and baby and you're given lots of support, physical help and love from family and friends. 💐

You have picked a winner there.

Yes it is his baby. Second one together. We are co-parenting obviously due to his iffy behaviour towards me.

Please don't stay another minute. Your twins see you taking shit and they'll do the same.

Just click the right one.