Curfew for 16 year old during summer

[oliwiagrzeda]

I am 16 years old (girl if that makes a difference) and my curfew is currently 10:30pm. I find this quite unreasonable as when I am out, the buses are either at 9pm or 11pm which means I always have to get the 9pm bus. I understand during school time, but it is currently the summer holidays so I feel like I’m missing out on a lot as most people my age that I know either don’t have a curfew or have a later curfew of around 1 or 2 am. I want to know if people think this is resonable or if my parents are being too strict about this.

@oliwiagrzeda

At that time we wouldn’t be out anyway we would be at someone’s house most like so I could charge my phone there

Also consider investing in a good power bank for those, hopefully, infrequent times your phone runs out of charge? 🌹

I think 11 is very sensible. As long as you are safe on your journey home. If not, can parents collect you some of the time?

It’s a pity the bus isn’t at 10.30pm. I can see that your parents would be more worried about you when the pubs are coming out at 11pm. But if your boyfriend is walking you to the bus station and waiting until you get on the bus and the bus stop is next to your house I think that’s really okay. Maybe tell your parents you’ll sit near the driver? It does seem a bit harsh to effectively have a 9pm curfew at 16.
(and get one of these btw.)

You are luckier than the others.

Yep, I used to live in Scotland and I'm aware sunset is later, I just don't remember it being light past 11pm. Sorry 🤷🏻‍♀️ it just seemed like there were a few strange things being thrown out as counter arguments - obviously I'm wrong, no biggie!

On the fence as my teen is 16 in couple of months and I wouldn't want him getting a bus at 11pm.

For me, it wouldn't be the time you wanted to stay out from home until, but how you were getting home. For instance, if there was a party that finished at around 1am, if you were getting a lift home or being collected, that would be fine. It's about safety because, even though it shouldn't be this way, you are more at risk being a lone female at night.

It looks as if you have to leave your friends half an hour before the bus, if you’re leaving at 8.30 for the 9pm bus. I would not want my daughter alone on the street between 10.30-11 pm on the way to, or waiting at the bus stop.

@MarjorieStuartBaxter I love the mumsnet idea of rural. Get an Uber 😆

OP is 2 1/2 hours from Glasgow so quite far north. It will be light till late there just now.

I'm a mum to a 13 year old girl, she is too young to be out this late now but when she's 16 I would let her get the 11pm bus in the holidays (but would be happier just going to get her myself) and would at least want her to let us know when she's on the bus so her Dad could meet her at the bus stop.
1/2am would be a no until she's 18!

I had to be home by 8pm and I was 18 and very sensible! I had a job and was starting uni the next summer too! I think 10pm is reasonable sorry

Circumstances would differ, but in my house we are all up super early and I wouldn’t be able to settle if my 16 year old was out so yes unreasonable, rules are rules

I'd say be on the 11pm bus rather than a curfew to be home 🏡

I was lucky in that I never had a curfew as such but my mum always knew where I was and what time I would be home. When I was 17 I used to go out til a bit later but I was.also working full time so my parents treated me like an adult.

So what happens with older teenagers?

1/2am is far too late for a 16 year old unless they are going to a specific event like a concert. I’d say that’s a more reasonable time for an 18 year old who might be going to pubs and clubs and in fact by that age I’d guess most teenagers don’t have a curfew.
Is there really no other way to get home except for a bus that only comes at 9 or 11?
Where I live the bus from the city at that time of night is only every two hours, but there is also a train.
I’d say on weekends and holidays it’s reasonable that you should be allowed to get the 11pm bus.
You sound like a good kid.

Too strict, it’s the sumner holiday and you’re old enough to leave home / get married for Gods sake. ( Yes I know she can’t afford to / under parents roof their rules etc.)
I wouldn’t have wanted my son roaming the streets at all hours but as long as I knew where he was, at a friends house, I wouldn’t have expected him home so early. I wanted him to have fun.

In that case, I’d insist on 10 for midweek visits but the later bus for special events.

The 11pm bus sounds fine and I’d like to know what your parents reasoning is for not letting you. You’re 16, not 12. I had parents who were strict and didn’t let me do what my friends did. I just started lying to them.

In Scotland you could be married at 16
but then you wouldn’t be living of your parents
they coulmake it the later bus return though the holidays

I'd suggest the following:

1. Buy a portable charger

1. Suggest to your parents that you come home at your curfew time if they pick you up, OR if you're getting a bus, they allow you to get the 11pm one, OR your boyfriend gets the 11pm bus with you. Suggest the options in that order and see if they'll go for any of them.

More importantly what are you doing that you need to stay out so late? Shouldnt need a curfew but staying safe and being responsible is your area not needing to have to obey an order. Its your home not a prison. Think about it from another perspective.

Jakers, did you ever have children and pass down those rules of 8pm.

My mother strict Catholic, wait till you're married to have sex wasn't that strict at 18 @RachTheAlpaca

DD 17 didn’t and doesn’t have a curfew but that circumstance arose out of a number of situations. She cycles everywhere and isn’t dependent on public transport, we live in The Hague, she rarely stays out, when she works late she finishes at 12 am, she’s sensible and her behaviour has never given any cause for concern, she texts when she’s on her way home, has find my on (I only remember to check if she isn’t home when expected) etc.

It’s not a case of 16 years old + summertime = 12 am. The variables matter, the type of parent and parenting style is probably are even more influential factors. DD is going to Madrid for five days to see Metallica next week and I know some parents think I’m mad for encouraging/ allowing it. Then again, I went on a gap year to Europe and SE Asia just before my 18th, which probably explains my ‘laissez-faire’ parenting style’.