Curfew for 16 year old during summer

[oliwiagrzeda]

I am 16 years old (girl if that makes a difference) and my curfew is currently 10:30pm. I find this quite unreasonable as when I am out, the buses are either at 9pm or 11pm which means I always have to get the 9pm bus. I understand during school time, but it is currently the summer holidays so I feel like I’m missing out on a lot as most people my age that I know either don’t have a curfew or have a later curfew of around 1 or 2 am. I want to know if people think this is resonable or if my parents are being too strict about this.

@oliwiagrzeda can't you do sleepovers, then you can natter all night.

16 is to close to 15 for me to have agreed to a one am curfew right of the bat but by 17, the arguments for being as strict as my near jerk reaction would have been, were less defensible.

Hang in on there. At your age everything's a privilege and not a right in your parents eyes. We’ve all been there.

Your parents are not likely to be able to fall asleep til you're in safe. So current curfew sounds reasonable. However I'd still hope they'd do an occasional later curfew for special occasions only

Depends where you are, where you live and what you’re doing!
At a friend’s then I think 11 is fine. Late night cinema, fine. Hanging out with a group on the streets/at the park until 11 is too late. The bus at 11pm coincides with pub kicking out time. I’d not be happy with my 16 year old son travelling alone at that time, not because of him but because of the potential actions of others. I actually think I’d collect him, even at a friend’s to be honest.

Your legally an adult. Do what you want

I used to collect my sons at this time. It wasn't worth the worry.

I think its a reasonable curfew. If it upsets yoh so much, get a job and pay for alternative transport so not relying on the bus

My son is 16 and doesn’t have a set curfew. It depends where he’s going, who he’s with etc. Do your parents never come and pick you up? It seems unfair that they’ve said 10.30 when the bus times don’t match up with that

I think that getting the 11 pm bus once a week during the summer holidays is fair enough, maybe on a Friday or Saturday, but going back to the old arrangement once school starts again.

My 16 yo doesn't have a set curfew, it depends where she is, who she's with and what she's doing. If she's at a friend's then it can be later, if they're hanging out in a field then I want her home.
To get your curfew later, prove your are responsible, show that your friends are responsible and hopefully your parents will respond accordingly.

Having watched Euphoria, I'd want you in at 10.30.

Once you hit 18 you'd be able to get whatever bus you wanted.

I wouldn’t want my 16 yo dd travelling alone on the bus late at night. The latest bus she has taken from town with a friend is around 9.30. But that’s been in town rather than at someone’s house and she then has a little bit of a walk. I really don’t understand why your parents aren’t ok for your boyfriend to go on the 11pm bus with you. I’d be trying to negotiate that along with getting a portable charger.

I’m sorry to say I find it reasonable - as a mum of 3 now grown up sons it was difficult for me to go to bed without them being home, knowing that they were home, the door was locked and everyone was ‘in’ - meant there were no night time dramas.

On occasions I would let them
stay out later but then this involved me going to bed later or as did happen, being woken up with drama - middle son was known to throw up if he drank - eldest son didn’t have an indoor voice even at 2am … youngest son was out celebrating his 18th when a gang attacked his friends with tyre irons, he was the only one not in an ambulance to give a statement.

When I was 16, I was working in a bank, paying board to my parents, and doing my own thing. Befor going out, I did some chores, such as washing up etc. they hated how late I came home but to me, if I’m old enough to go out to work 40 hours a week, I’m old enough to choose the times I some home and go to bed.

kids these days are not given the freedoms we had, due to how more aware we seem to be of kidnapping, mugging, spiked drinks etc..it’s a really difficult one, and each 16 should be judged on their own merit.

if I was your parents, I would come collect you at around 11.30/12 but again it’s all individual.

It’s too strict. My children are around 20 now, but I can’t see the point why another 30 minutes matter so much to them. It’s summer holidays. You should be able to be out and make memories with friends. It seems they are up at that time anyway, and the bus stops right outside your house. It would be different if you weren’t at someones house I think.

To me it’s a give and take with my children, they stayed out of trouble etc so I had no reason to be strict just because.

But get a decent powerbank.

As someone who never stuck to my 9 p.m. curfew when I was 16 and was out at all hours miles away, I would say your parents are being reasonable. My children both had to be in at 9 when they were 16. The world isn’t the same as it was when I was a teenager. 1-2am is ridiculous. I would see that as their parents not giving a stuff what their children are up to.

I think it depends on the circumstance and the trust relationship you have with your parents. At 16 my curfew was 11/12, but I lived where there was nothing to do so it wasn’t an issue. At 17 we moved to a country with a great nightlife and my parents were happy with 3am on weekends and holidays. However, I ALWAYS told them where I was going, who I was with, answered my phone and called when I said I would etc. I also didn’t drink or take drugs and they knew my friends really well. My advice is build a trusting relationship with your parents, don’t be tempted to lie, and the trust will come.

I suppose it depends but personally I think an 11ish curfew is fine. You’ll be a legal adult in about 18 months so it’s about having a sensible build-up and gradual widening of boundaries.

My kids had to be in at 10.30 at 16. Once they left school and went to college though I didn't really give them a time but they still came home same time by their own choice. My daughter always came home by 9 pm. Her choice not mine. Tbh your parents just want to keep you safe. When you are a parent you will understand

When you are a parent you will understand

I wish people would stop saying this to their nearly adult children.

Your curfew isn’t unreasonable but the bus timetable sucks.

what happens if the 11pm bus in cancelled or you miss it? Can parents collect you?

As a mum, I think getting the 11pm bus would be fine in school hols/weekend as the bus stops at your home. Could you have this conversation with your parent/s ?

I've never had to give mine a curfew, but if I'm expected to give a lift (buses run until 7pm here) then it has to be before midnight. My 16 year old is mostly out and about in the village and surrounding fields, most nights comes home around 10/11pm, very occasionally later. Don't think it's been after midnight yet.
Tonight he's out in a town about 30 mins away, but getting a train back to the nearest station so I'll pick him up there about 11:30pm.

However, I don't go to bed until midnight, if I was the kind of person who went to bed at 10:30pm I'd be wanting to know where my teenager was before going to sleep. That may play a part.

Midnight for when my son was 16.

If mine when older, home from uni were out till very late they usually drove or got a lift. However, I always left cash on the kitchen windowsill telling them any signs of trouble get out, get a taxi and come home the money is there.