ExDH new GF posting photos of children

[Pixie378]

AIBU to ask my ex to ask his GF to removed the photos of our children from Facebook?.
Her profile is public and I do not know her or anyone she knows.
I have not given permission for the photos to be put on her social media and feel that this is disrespectful.
I have asked nicely.

Send him that video of the girl who begs her parents to keep her Internet profile down. I've forgotten the link but its harrowing. There's all sorts of creeps online

Ah this one.

This is a really concerning attitude.

No one should be positing photos of other people’s kids without permission. No one.

Really no one should be posting photos of anyone else without permission, but that’s the unfortunate society we live in today. But kids are not fair game. No.

I did the same with my exh new girlfriend who posted my kids as her profile photo after 3 months of them being together! I wasn’t polite and I don’t give a shit that I wasn’t. They are my kids, they don’t belong on a new gfs Facebook page after such a little amount of time

Yanbu I have never posted a photo of my sd, she isn't my daughter and neither of her parents have social media so I assume they don't want her picture on there

You’ve let an ex who will do anything to upset you know that something has upset you? Of course he’s just going to egg her on to do it now. Honestly I wouldn’t choose this hill to die on, just let it be.

However if you are desperate to get them removed you’ll have to unblock her and report the offending photos to Facebook, confirming that you are the child’s parent and you haven’t given permission. Prepare for some comeback though.

He has not egged her on at all, she is a reasonable girl and if I asked her direct she would take them down.

I know if it was the other way round I would receive non stop harassment from my ex to take them down, I've been nothing but polite to him.

I don't want to unblock her as she is constantly messaging me for validation of her relationship with him and reassurance because he is a natural liar and as far as I am concerned she made her bed she can flipping well deal with her own insecurities.

I have not been in love with him for a long time and the only thing that upset me when he was left is how I was to manage on my own financially and with 3 young kids. But I have found I am stronger without him and ok with the co parent thing as long as it's good for our kids - he has never been the best dad although he's doing a good impression for the rest of the world right now

Morally no but legally not much you can do.
if the OP tries to appeal to her horrible ex, he will just laugh in her face. It’s better to not let him know that she’s bothered.

She doesn’t sound that reasonable if she keeps messaging you to the extent you have to block her. But yeah if you think she would take them down if asked, just ask her to do that. That seems the obvious solution.

Exh's new gf was posting pictures of our kids years ago , I went to see my solicitor as we were in family court at the time. There wasn't a thing (legally) I could do to stop it. He was on to the next girlfriend soon enough , the pictures were removed at this point. Very frustrating times.

The kids are grown now , but I'm convinced exh allowed this to upset me as I don't post images of my kids on sm. He's petty like that.

Seriously? I know you have no right over your own photograph, but surely when it comes to children you have a legal right? Certain children, adopted for example, have rights not to have their photos posted, so surely other children do too? I mean, their parents consent.

I could be in my local park and take a photo of it with children visible in that photo and I can legally put that on FB. As far as I'm aware, people, including children, who are photographed in a public place do not need to give permission.

I live abroad and the law is different here...

Is that a legal right or safeguarding policies for school? Can you link to the law that says people can't post photos of children without permission?

I see what you're all saying , but if the dad gave permission then that's enough. Just the same as if mum's friend posted a picture of the child in question. Literally nothing you can legally do unless there are other factors protecting the kid's identity. Got this information from my solicitor.

No I can’t because I’m asking the question.

Their dad gets an equal say! Unfortunately OP doesn’t get to dictate to him what she wants. ( well she can, but he doesn’t have to listen!)

She does need permission. Not her kids to post!

Yes, I know that. Some people on here think it should only happen with the mother’s permission, I’m saying, the father is also the parent of the child, he has an opinion on the matter too…in this case, sounds like he doesn’t object.

But they’re her partners children, sounds like he’s happy to allow it or do think, as their father, he shouldn’t be allowed to have an opinion on it?

Unfortunately if her Dad has given consent then there’s nothing you can do. I agree with you though! I post my DSD occasionally but I’ve helped raise her for 7 years, have a private account with family and close friends and my DH and his ex also post and we are all friends on social media. I wouldn’t have posted at the beginning of our relationship or without knowing her Mum’s views on social media.

If the photos were taken with consent in a private home or public place there is basically nothing you can do legally. Schools ask for permission for safeguarding reasons eg LAC, DV, situations where a photo could cause risk.

To post public pictures of someone else’s children? Of course she does!

She does not need permission. Anyone can take pictures of anyone else including children and publish them online. Whether she should be doing this or not is another matter but as far as the law goes she is within her rights ad the owner of the photo to publish it online.

In the eyes of the law she does not.

What if they are taken without consent e.g. I am taking a photo of the park, but there are people there, including children? Obviously, I don't ask their permission.