ExDH new GF posting photos of children

[Pixie378]

AIBU to ask my ex to ask his GF to removed the photos of our children from Facebook?.
Her profile is public and I do not know her or anyone she knows.
I have not given permission for the photos to be put on her social media and feel that this is disrespectful.
I have asked nicely.

This. Start doing this now. She should not be posting photos of your children in this way.

I love my husband and child so much and I’d we broke up and he got a new GF seeing her posting pictures with my child and ex would make me sick!

However, as mums, we always need to do what’s right for our kids. I know you don’t want any weirdos getting their photographs but do you list pictures? Do school post pictures?

I completely understand why you have a broken relationship with them both but you need to show your children how to be civil. Your children clearly aren’t going to learn it from them. Our children become what they see, hear and feel. 😊

Exactly. If I was you I’d make it very clear that the photos must come down now.

YANBU. And Facebook will remove these photos if you contact them as you have a right under GDPR to “be forgotten” which you can assert on behalf of your children. I have friends who have done this in similar circumstances- was easy to do

You can try reporting.

The sad part of this is she could end up being your kids step mother and you're not making much effort with your Tit for tat silliness.
The photos are on fb....if you out photos of your kid on fb then you've lost the argument completely. However I do wish people would stop saying they dont know what weirdos can see the photos. Your neighbour could be the weirdo, or that person sitting 3 meters away at the beach. Your kids are fully clothed, no big deal.

No it isn't applicable as a parent gives permission. Facebook isn't an arbitrator between parents.

The profile the children are on is public anyone can see them

I can’t understand why she would want to be share photos of children that aren’t hers. All for likes no doubt - what a sad world!

Gosh a lot of meanness here. If i was helping raising a kid as i was looking after them feeding them ect as dating their real parent i would also be loving that child including enjoying time and taking pictures.

the crap factor here is the public profile. Should be between friends and family only.

unfortunately both parents don’t get on so unless she takes him to court and wins not a lot she could do, same would apply if dad didnt like something mum did.

OP you didn't answer this question

I post pictures in private albums that only family members can see. I have family overseas and we all share photos of our families.
The albums are closed off to friends and only for family.
My profile is private and no photos of my children are on my walls for others to see

Aw OP I completely feel your pain, this would be my worse nightmare. The world is an awful place. We've said only we can post pics (and we only post a couple a year) because our profiles are very private and we have been through friends list and deleted people we don't know and have settings for photos that only show them to close friends and family because both our mums have every Tom and Harry they've ever met or spoken to on their friends list!

I think the relationship you have with the GF and xDH isn't helping. Such as having her blocked, you're just automatically creating that negative relationship when you want to try and co-parent.
I would approach her via message and say 'hey, it's great to hear from the kids thst you're all making memories together, I'm sure xDH has explained I can be funny about what we post online. I wondered if you'd consider changing the privacy settings on photos of the kids to just be friends and friends of tagged, just so only people we trust can access the photos? It's just for the kids safety.' Or similar.

You can't stop them, you can try and make it work.

Pardon?! OP is the child's mother whereas this woman is not!

Of course it's 'to do with' op they're her children who are being put at risk ffs!

OP I had this exact same issue (even the arsehole ex) so I reported them to Facebook and they were removed. After a few occurrences, Facebook suspended their account temporarily.

I hear you, but not sure you can stop it? Don't react, it's what he wants.

I understand that you’re annoyed but there is literally nothing you can do. Nothing at all. No legal route, as there is no law stating that a private individual (not a school) needs permission to post a picture of someone. You will just be delighting your ex by getting wound up about this. Ignore it and move on. Given the number of people who post pics of kids on the internet, yours won’t be placed at any risk from this so be the bigger person here.

They’re not being placed at risk by appearing in a photo posted on someone’s facebook unless there’s a stalker after them or something. And yes it’s to do with her but there’s no route to stopping this and family court genuinely would not be interested.

Maybe the other parent has given permission.

Yes he clearly has but he doesn’t even need to. I could take pictures of your kids in the park and put them all over my social media and you wouldn’t be able to do anything about it. You don’t own their image.

I think that's a bit odd. I wouldn't post pictures of dp's kids anywhere and he wouldn't post pictures of mine.

If we happen to take a nice picture of them, I have sent to their mum before but I wouldn't put it anywhere public!

If this woman doesn't have kids, maybe she's just not thinking like a parent would do