Favour for a friend

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I have a friend, not super close but we share a hobby, see each other once a month on average.

She asked me recently if I could look after her dog for a couple of nights; she'd messed up some dates for boarding him and would have to cancel plans if I couldn't look after him. I said yes (her dog is easy to care for).

This was a couple of weeks ago - it was fine, dog was very happy, but I admit I am a bit surprised that she didn't offer anything like a bottle of wine, or chocs, or even a card to say thank you.

My DH thinks I'm unreasonable as you shouldn't expect anything from friends, that you do favours and that's that. It's not that I expected it, but in her place I would 100% have bought something to say thank you.

I feel a little differently about her now - just a bit used, but hopefully I'm being daft so please tell me if I am!

Exactly this. I wouldn’t expect a friend to give me something for doing a favour for them. I’d think it was lovely if they did, but I wouldn’t expect it at all. A handwritten thank you card made me lol. So British. People in other countries think we’re nuts buying gifts and writing long heartfelt thank you messages in cards and that there’s an expectation. Surely as friends you help each other out and that’s a gift in itself. If you think the relationship is one sided and it’s always you being put upon, then that’s another thing.

It will be interesting to hear an update after the two week unpaid dogminding job, - sorry, favour. I wonder if she will expand her "Cheers for that" or will she go with a plain "Cheers".

I'd have bought you a gift from the dog to say thank you.

Wow two weeks dog sitting for free. What will it be next? A month? What if she asks you to walk her dog everyday, for free? Cheers for that indeed.

Oh dear.

Please update us after the next dog sitting experience!