Dramatic response from sons GF

[Chrisia]

DS is 26, we live pretty close to him. This week he got the results or an exam he had sat for work, it is notoriously hard and he passed. Last night after work he went out with his colleagues to celebrate. Apparently he told his GF (doesn't live with her) that it wouldn't be a late one. The rest is what I've been told, but according to her she messaged him at midnight and told him to go home as she has work in the morning. He claims he didn't get this so went back to hers at 2am, waking her up. He then asked her to order food for him, she did but he was sick before it arrived so she told the delivery driver to eat it instead, he then apparently shouted at her for doing this.
Apparently he was sick on himself so she had to force him to shower.
This morning I got a call at 5.45am, from his GF, telling me she was bringing him to ours in a Taxi as "If he wanted to act like a teen he could come stay at home" and she had a workout class to go to. I asked why he couldn't just stay at hers and sleep it off while she was at work and she told me he had already been sick on the bedding, was being moany and she didn't want to leave him home alone.
DS came in, he was clearly in a state, so I got him to bed, he has been sick but not too bad. Also before she left she took his bank card out his pocket and said to me she would be using it for her taxi back (this girl has a trustfund and lives off her dad so this seems unfair!)
Now AIBU to think this a very dramatic response, no need to give the food away as he did want to eat it and she is meant to love him, could she really not have just let him sleep it off? DS is quite upset with her and I think he is right to be!

Lololol

she is putting up with his BS and so she’s delivered him back to the woman who made him this way. Good lass.

I 100% do not believe that your son didn’t see the message, I think he just fancied going there instead. And otherwise she is absolutely right, it’s really bad form to turn up at someone else’s house in that sort of state especially if it’s a shared house. It’s different if you’re married or it’s his house, of course he would have to go there, but she has 100% not signed up for this (and for the record my DH would definitely be in the dog house if he pulled this stunt at home regardless of whether he’d passed an exam). She sounds switched on.

He should be grateful he’s not been dumped already, and should be buying her flowers, new bedding and paying for a cleaner. I also think if you want a relationship with her you need to respect her boundaries even when they are not the same as your own (thankfully many young women these days have higher standards across the board on lots of things).

I’m fascinated by marriage vows that include ‘when my husband can’t handle his drink, it becomes my problem’.

All I'm going to say is she has better boundaries than you if thats "what you signed up for". He doesn't even live with her, why should she responsible for him in that state! Trust funds and "a low paying job" are completely irrelevant.

If you just want people to agree with you, you might aswell leave the thread now because as you've already seen, you're going to get a big wake up call

It is not.
You raised a son that cannot handle drinking,shouts and vomits in bed.
She is right not to want this idiotic manchild dumped on her.

She sounds very sensible. By taking him to yours she has ensured he is being looked after whilst she is at work. The danger of inhaling your own vomit when you are drunk is a risk and can be fatal. He should be grateful that she is looking after his welfare.

Well, she didn't marry him! I'd not have let him in.

I hope she has the sense to dump him.

I'm with GF. Grown men barfing everywhere after too much beer?
No ruddy chance!!

A high five to the girlfriend - that girls going to go far

At least she cares enough about him to drop him
to yours and not just boot him out the door!
Good for her - she’s not his mum nor his babysitter…

Ooh you don't like the girlfriend much do you.

She's an early riser and she works, I'd be really pissed off if someone woke me up at 2am during the week, and then proceeded to vom everywhere.

Good on her for having boundaries.

I wouldn't have let him eat either if he had already been sick. As she needed to go out early, she was unsure of leaving him alone. Maybe she hasn't been used to this behaviour, so did what she thought best for both of them.

It's even worse that he's got his own place but still chose to go to his girlfriends place drunk at 2.30am in the morning when he knew she had work in morning etc. Incredibly selfish.

Judging by your reaction you've obviously indulged this awful behaviour before so he can't see how wrong it is. If she were my daughter I'd be encouraging her to rethink things and consider ending the relationship. He behaved appallingly and the fact you don't see this says a lot about your family tbh 🤷‍♀️

Your sons GF is an absolute legend. Your son has acted like a twat - woke up his gf in the middle of the night. Kept her awake all night. Put her in a position of having to look after him. Ruined their planned celebrations the next day. And left her to clean up his bodily fluids, which is absolutely revolting. And your son is upset at her, for being angry with him!? Unbelievable. And he didn't have a 'bit too much to drink', he gave himself alcohol poisoning to the point where it would have been dangerous to leave him alone given how common it is to choke on vomit when you're drunk. So she absolutely did the right thing leaving him at yours. Unless you also expected her to take the day off to 'look after him'. Yes you sign up to look after each other when you get married. But they aren't married, and I don't think that promise extends to something self inflicted and completely preventable.

Oh dear. Another thread where it’s not going as the OP hoped! Unless it is a reverse.

If you are the GF then good on you. If you’re the mum, well I think it’s clear what we all think!

She's spot on.

He behaved like a drunk teenager and so she treated him like one.

You wanna hope this one stays around to teach your ds a thing or 2 about adulting.

Good for her. Setting down a marker now that she won't accept such behaviour.

Reverse!

Do you always defend your son? Only drank a bit too much etc, if so you're part of the problem
Would you have started a thread if it was the other way round?

He went to her place at 2am when she’d told him not to, woke her up, asked her to order food for him at 2am (what the hell?), puked all over her house, and despite what everyone has said here you still think she’s in the wrong because she’s supposed to “love him”?
Good on her for not taking his nonsense. If you think men should be free to behave like this and women should meekly tiptoe around them, you’re no doubt the reason your son is such a boor.
I hope she doesn’t marry him because you’ll be the MIL from hell, defending your precious boy however badly he behaves.

She handled it amazingly well, and your son was a dick.

This. I can’t imagine anyone would think your son was reasonable.

If she’s posh she’s probably had her fill of Finance bros getting wasted with the lads…