Dramatic response from sons GF

[Chrisia]

DS is 26, we live pretty close to him. This week he got the results or an exam he had sat for work, it is notoriously hard and he passed. Last night after work he went out with his colleagues to celebrate. Apparently he told his GF (doesn't live with her) that it wouldn't be a late one. The rest is what I've been told, but according to her she messaged him at midnight and told him to go home as she has work in the morning. He claims he didn't get this so went back to hers at 2am, waking her up. He then asked her to order food for him, she did but he was sick before it arrived so she told the delivery driver to eat it instead, he then apparently shouted at her for doing this.
Apparently he was sick on himself so she had to force him to shower.
This morning I got a call at 5.45am, from his GF, telling me she was bringing him to ours in a Taxi as "If he wanted to act like a teen he could come stay at home" and she had a workout class to go to. I asked why he couldn't just stay at hers and sleep it off while she was at work and she told me he had already been sick on the bedding, was being moany and she didn't want to leave him home alone.
DS came in, he was clearly in a state, so I got him to bed, he has been sick but not too bad. Also before she left she took his bank card out his pocket and said to me she would be using it for her taxi back (this girl has a trustfund and lives off her dad so this seems unfair!)
Now AIBU to think this a very dramatic response, no need to give the food away as he did want to eat it and she is meant to love him, could she really not have just let him sleep it off? DS is quite upset with her and I think he is right to be!

Also think it is very very wrong to take his bank card, that is fraud!!

Really? I think it is very, very wrong to shout at your girlfriend and vomit all over her bedlinen and house; that is vile behaviour and the shouting is abuse!!

Wow.

He turned up at 2am , drunk , in a right state by the sounds of it , when she had work the next day . Then he proceeded to make her stay up and order him food , vomited over her house and shouted at her……. And her having a reaction to that is the problem??

You are clearly one of those mothers that thinks her baby can do no wrong , I have met men with mothers like that before and they are so entitled and have such an inability to take responsibility for their actions that it’s unbelievable .

Both he and you ABU and I feel sorry for the GF. I don’t think she was in any way dramatic and I would have reacted much more “dramatic” . Do your son a favour and stop Molly coddling him .

No she's not.

Bloody good for her for having some bloody standards.

He doesn't even live with her and he took his drunken arse round at 2am uninvited, demanded food, chucked his guts up, yelled at her and she's the bad guy in your eyes? why? Because she should haven taken care of mummy's drunken likkle soldier like a good well trained domestic appliance?

Fuck that. He owes her a huge apology and to clean up the mess he left.

She's signed up for nothing BTW. They don't even live together.

And if she's got any sense she'll keep it that way until he grows up.

And you need to stop thinking she's got some weird duty to care for your pissed up son because they've been dating a few months.

Oh god yes. Have you read the just no mil subreddit? They walk among us!

I hope you don't become this young woman's MIL.
I can just imagine the threads she'd end up posting.

WHY ARE YOU EVEN MENTIONING THE TRUST FUND?

Sorry for shouty capitals but what on earth does this have to do with anything?

Why are you judging her, even with a trust fund she is making some money or her own. Why are you questioning her workout schedule? What does that have to do with you also?

The only thing she did wrong was bringing him to your home if he doesn’t live there.

She should have taken him back to his own home where he’d have to clean up his own sick and not get mummy to do it.

I don’t understand why he would go back to hers anyway, especially if it was going to be a late night.

Bah. It's just a casual way of denigrating her, isn't it. Just a little bit of mockery.

Take a wild guess.

Mummy's got pound signs in her eyes.

I’m a financial crime manager and no it’s only fraud if she uses it without permission. The fact she basically confiscated it to save him from himself is not an offence in any way

This morning I got a call at 5.45am, from his GF, telling me she was bringing him to ours in a Taxi as "If he wanted to act like a teen he could come stay at home" and she had a workout class to go to.

I must say I am extraordinarily impressed with this woman. If your son is 26, I am guessing she is a similar age - late 20s?

This is a perfectly fair reaction to appallingly immature behaviour and beautifully pitch because as her words show, it is a consequence directly related to the behaviour.

I wish I'd had half her sense of self- posession and dignity at her age.

Well done that woman.

And to answer your question, yes you are being unreasonable. It was not an overreaction. It was beautiful.

Well done!

What is the deal with men pissing in wardrobes? I've heard that before from my british girlfriends (that their partners did it when drunk). I'm not from England and I was quite puzzled when I heard that. Is it a thing here?

She sounds great 😄

I salute the GF! she’s showing she won’t put up with any shit. Hopefully he’ll reign it in a bit next time

Her son will be single by tomorrow morning I reckon.

@willWillSmithsmith lol! Yes, we live together, have done for 20 years. This kind of nonsense happens once every few years, for one of us. I’m actually trying to remember back to when it first happened and I genuinely can’t remember if it was him or me!
I am honestly the first to preach independence for women and taking not one iota of shit, but a pissed up vomiting night out isn’t a deal breaker, for me at least. I hadn’t read that the ops son is cross with the girlfriend though? If he is, he bloody shouldn’t be!

Because the thread isn’t going her way and we’re not all saying ‘aww what a big old meany she is to mummy’s poor ickle soldier’

So shes had to resort to throwing reverse snobbery sneers at the poor girl.

Honestly i wish the gf could see this thread and run a mile from this man baby and his deluded mother.

I agree her reaction was excessive. At the same time OP you should be grateful she is making it clear she won't tolerate your son getting into this sort of state under any circumstances.

She did exactly the right thing. You've raised a man child, you need to take responsibility for that.

This. With bells on!

Good for her and I hope you've given him a bollocking today.

I hope you're okay though op, it's always gutting when someone you love lets you down. It's not a personal reflection- he's an adult.

Your DS behaved badly and fair play to his GF for standing up for herself.

Just read the OP out to my DD.

Perfect example of how I'd want her to behave if she ever found herself lumbered with an irresponsible man child who was incapable of behaving like an adult.

@Foodaddict1

Another one! It wouldn't matter even if she was!

I think you misunderstood. She hasn't said any vows - for better / worse. I personally would have more patience if my husband who I've been with for 13 years turned up like this as a one off, than if it was a boyfriend of 8 months.

Probably wouldn't turf the husband to his mother's (however tempting) but would love to have the balls to have behaved like this idiot's girlfriend in her 20's. She's a legend.