Dramatic response from sons GF

[Chrisia]

DS is 26, we live pretty close to him. This week he got the results or an exam he had sat for work, it is notoriously hard and he passed. Last night after work he went out with his colleagues to celebrate. Apparently he told his GF (doesn't live with her) that it wouldn't be a late one. The rest is what I've been told, but according to her she messaged him at midnight and told him to go home as she has work in the morning. He claims he didn't get this so went back to hers at 2am, waking her up. He then asked her to order food for him, she did but he was sick before it arrived so she told the delivery driver to eat it instead, he then apparently shouted at her for doing this.
Apparently he was sick on himself so she had to force him to shower.
This morning I got a call at 5.45am, from his GF, telling me she was bringing him to ours in a Taxi as "If he wanted to act like a teen he could come stay at home" and she had a workout class to go to. I asked why he couldn't just stay at hers and sleep it off while she was at work and she told me he had already been sick on the bedding, was being moany and she didn't want to leave him home alone.
DS came in, he was clearly in a state, so I got him to bed, he has been sick but not too bad. Also before she left she took his bank card out his pocket and said to me she would be using it for her taxi back (this girl has a trustfund and lives off her dad so this seems unfair!)
Now AIBU to think this a very dramatic response, no need to give the food away as he did want to eat it and she is meant to love him, could she really not have just let him sleep it off? DS is quite upset with her and I think he is right to be!

OP says she’s the son’s gf not wife but then OP says she would have helped her husband as that’s what she signed up for. Not really two statuses you’d confuse. Why say that when you know blatantly well gf didn’t sign up for anything?

It happens to the best of us. We’re human! I’m sure she’ll get in a similar state at some point

It's never happened to me or my husband.

Is this a reverse?

Seriously, no wonder your son is behaving that way at 26 with your enabling.

I’m also 26 and I’m by no means perfect, but if I get myself in a state I go back to my own home and don’t bother anyone else.

I actually cant fathom that he has the audacity to be angry with HER?

Well done, girlfriend.

Mothers and their precious sons ….. and we wonder why MIL’s are often out of favour ! He behaved dreadfully and you should be angry with him not her

Maybe in the future, he will meet someone who is more on his level. He got pissed and threw up. So what.

So long as it's not all the time and the rest of their relationship is good.

Absolutely agree, rather dramatic response. Hope he's feeling better and good on him for passing his exam.

I would think she was OTT too.

Your son is an idiot and you seem to think it’s ok.

Getting in that state is what you do in your late teens/early twenties- throwing up on bedding and being a general drunk idiot.

Yet you seem to think the GF is in the wrong?

DH is my best pal but I ain't cleaning his drunken sick. If he was sick due to illness I would.

Needs to grow up does your ds, why does he need to get drunk like that?
What a horrible time to start ordering food as well.

You’re missing the point. They don’t live together and don’t have the years of foundation of a long term relationship leading up to a lapse of judgement.

She told him clearly not to come over. He still did. He demanded she sort out food. He puked all over the place. And he was cross with her. He ignored her requests and simple boundaries, and that’s not ok.

And his mother is disappointed with the behaviour of his GF?! That’s the kicker!

Good for her! Why should she tolerate your son’s awful behaviour. I admire her for asserting her boundaries like that. She wasn’t dramatic at all. I’m also #teamgirlfriend !!

Love her boundaries. Fabulous, well done to her.

When you get married you don't sign up to accepting anything of the sort. This thread worries me in that respect.

Does he live with you?
if it was me, he’d be on the street I wouldn’t have driven him anywhere!

God you sound like the MIL from hell, awful I’m sorry and I never comment on here.

He might be a clever boy to pass a difficult exam, but he is still an absolute twat. Hopefully the GF is brighter than him and dumps him pronto.
He was lucky she was kind enough to take him back to mum to be looked after and kept safe.

She’s totally correct. Send him a clear message she won’t put up with this behaviour . Why should she or her dad pay for the taxi ? Your son created the issue and sounds like he left his dirty laundry for her to deal with

When my sons are old enough to (hopefully not) behave like this I hope they have girlfriends who treat them exactly like your son’s GF.

if she’s been the drunk one vomiting over your son’s house I bet you wouldn’t be so blasé about it?

Cheering on the girl friend here! Your son has been an asshole.

Good on her

Mumma not coming back I guess.

You’re overthinking my post. I’m quoting what op said, they are her words not mine.

Why do you need to get so drunk just because you've passed an exam.

Hasn't done him any favours?
He's fallen out with his gf and his mums had to post on a public forum.

Good on her for having boundaries.

She looked after him, even ordering food. She was entitled to go about her day, she couldn’t leave him in that state on his own, couldn’t shove him on to his flat mates. Why shouldn’t she send him to his mothers who obviously thinks he can do no wrong and whilst legally she shouldn’t have taken his card, morally she should.

A lesson learned for everyone I think.

The OP said she would look after her husband in this state 'because it was what she had signed up for' pp are merely pointing put that the gf hasn't 'signed up' for anything. Of course it wouldn't be OK if they were married but you are missing the point.