Dramatic response from sons GF

[Chrisia]

DS is 26, we live pretty close to him. This week he got the results or an exam he had sat for work, it is notoriously hard and he passed. Last night after work he went out with his colleagues to celebrate. Apparently he told his GF (doesn't live with her) that it wouldn't be a late one. The rest is what I've been told, but according to her she messaged him at midnight and told him to go home as she has work in the morning. He claims he didn't get this so went back to hers at 2am, waking her up. He then asked her to order food for him, she did but he was sick before it arrived so she told the delivery driver to eat it instead, he then apparently shouted at her for doing this.
Apparently he was sick on himself so she had to force him to shower.
This morning I got a call at 5.45am, from his GF, telling me she was bringing him to ours in a Taxi as "If he wanted to act like a teen he could come stay at home" and she had a workout class to go to. I asked why he couldn't just stay at hers and sleep it off while she was at work and she told me he had already been sick on the bedding, was being moany and she didn't want to leave him home alone.
DS came in, he was clearly in a state, so I got him to bed, he has been sick but not too bad. Also before she left she took his bank card out his pocket and said to me she would be using it for her taxi back (this girl has a trustfund and lives off her dad so this seems unfair!)
Now AIBU to think this a very dramatic response, no need to give the food away as he did want to eat it and she is meant to love him, could she really not have just let him sleep it off? DS is quite upset with her and I think he is right to be!

(this girl has a trustfund and lives off her dad so this seems unfair!)

None of your business where she gets her money, she incurred this cost sorting out your skanky puking Son, you think her dad should be funding her sorting out your Son's fuck up? She already ruined her nights sleep and probably her Friday.

8 months is nothing, she didn't 'sign up' to be a looser's mummy.

Don't give your Son a pass because he studied hard, it's unrelated to how he treated this girl last night, that benefits him not her, she doesn't need to pretend she doesn't mind him waking her up, shouting at her and puking at her house because he did something that will benefit HIM.

She was not dramatic in the circumstances, but you may be misogynistic branding a woman with decent boundaries as dramatic.

So she went running to his mummy? I'd be bloody furious if my son's girlfriend phoned me at 5.45 am. They are adults, sort their own issues out.

He woke her up, threw up everywhere, asked her to order him food and shouted at her and you think she’s the one being dramatic and unloving?

She’s done nothing wrong at all. She had to go to work so dropped him at yours as he chose to get so drunk he’s incapable of looking after himself. Your son needs to grow up.

I think she reacted like this because it's probably happened so many times before and she's absolutely sick of it.
You might not be aware of it but it's highly likely he has form for this.

Good on her 🤩

I am in my 40s, a wife and mother to 5 children and yet I totally want to be your sons GF when I grow up!

She did exactly the right thing and frankly I am in awe of her healthy boundaries and I applaud them 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

Only because OP painted GF as awful.

Who else should he have called? He's not her responsibility and from the sound of it he was ungrateful for her help.

Well I guess that's true.

This woman is a keeper.

She should have put him in a taxi to yours at 2am.

Then she wouldn't have had to help him shower or have a pile of pukey bedding to wash.

How fucking selfish of your son to turn up at hers at 2am instead of going home.

8 months in, he should still be on his best behaviour. Trying to impress.

Most people (at least these days) wouldn't be married after 6 months. It's way too soon to know someone enough to make that kind of commitment.

"Also think it is very very wrong to take his bank card, that is fraud!!"

Bollocks. Use a dictionary.

GF sounds like a really good person; stop making excuses for your DS

Did you miss the part where he was actually shameless enough to be upset with her? Had he apologised for his mistake and thanked her for helping, that would be a different story.

I guess I feel like if it were my husband I'd look after him as that's what I signed up for.

1. He’s not her husband, so no, she hasn’t “signed up for” this.
2. I have a husband myself, and him coming in at 2am blind drunk and puking all over our bedding is most certainly not what I “signed up for”.

He’s a grown ass man. Time to wake up and stop behaving like a drunk frat boy.

How was it the OPs fault? The GF has every right to be disgusted but she has no right to insist the OP deals with it.

"If he wanted to act like a teen he could come stay at home" Well why didn't she take him home, you know the place where he lives?

What a hero! 😂

(The GF, not your son).

Well this is the point, many of us are raising our daughters NOT to sign up for behaviour like this.
And the girlfriend has done a wonderful job in showing what she will and will not accept.

could she really not have just let him sleep it off?

She did though didn't she?

They’re not married. They don’t even live together. He turned up hammered at HER house in the early hours after lying to her about what time he would get home, then puked all over HER bed and shouted at her and kept her awake all night. Why the actual fuck would she ‘look after him’ in return for him treating her with complete disrespect in HER home?

Your son is a complete arsehole and a giant baby and if this what you think is normal, I can see how he’s ended up like this. He’s absolutely horrible and I’m pretty sure you’re part of the problem if you and his father have brought him up with the notion that this is what a relationship is meant to be like.

Hi OP, I think your son's GF acted in his best interests. He could have been sick again and choked on his own vomit. Dealing with drunken behaviour is truly horrible and your son's GF has every right to be angry. His GF probably took his bank card to make a point and I don't see why her having a Trust fund has anything to do with it.
PS, I am pleased that your son passed his work exam
Best to not mention episode again.
I hope your son is apologizing to his GF

Fraud....lol

He's an adult, not his mother's responsibility for some years. She let him in so more fool her.

Waiting for the inevitable deletion message when the OP has a hissy fit that the thread has not went her way

Good for the gf
Let's hope she dumps him sooner rather than later