Dramatic response from sons GF

[Chrisia]

DS is 26, we live pretty close to him. This week he got the results or an exam he had sat for work, it is notoriously hard and he passed. Last night after work he went out with his colleagues to celebrate. Apparently he told his GF (doesn't live with her) that it wouldn't be a late one. The rest is what I've been told, but according to her she messaged him at midnight and told him to go home as she has work in the morning. He claims he didn't get this so went back to hers at 2am, waking her up. He then asked her to order food for him, she did but he was sick before it arrived so she told the delivery driver to eat it instead, he then apparently shouted at her for doing this.
Apparently he was sick on himself so she had to force him to shower.
This morning I got a call at 5.45am, from his GF, telling me she was bringing him to ours in a Taxi as "If he wanted to act like a teen he could come stay at home" and she had a workout class to go to. I asked why he couldn't just stay at hers and sleep it off while she was at work and she told me he had already been sick on the bedding, was being moany and she didn't want to leave him home alone.
DS came in, he was clearly in a state, so I got him to bed, he has been sick but not too bad. Also before she left she took his bank card out his pocket and said to me she would be using it for her taxi back (this girl has a trustfund and lives off her dad so this seems unfair!)
Now AIBU to think this a very dramatic response, no need to give the food away as he did want to eat it and she is meant to love him, could she really not have just let him sleep it off? DS is quite upset with her and I think he is right to be!

Yep. More than once. I've never turned up at someone's house uninvited in the early hours though, nor demanded food, nor thrown up everywhere, nor shouted at them.

Would I look after and eventually forgive DH for going overboard like this? Probably, if he were apologetic enough. But then he's not a boyfriend of 8 months like OP's son is to this Woman. She owes him nothing.

I could think of nothing worse for my daughter than having to deal with a drunk vomiting idiot, because she’s “supposed to love him”. That doesn’t give him an excuse to behave however he likes. Her parents should be proud she has such good boundaries and won’t be taken for a mug. You should be embarrassed he’s ok to treat his girlfriend this way. Hope she dumps him.

I go to the gym around ‘that ungodly time in the middle of the night’ because it works well for me.

Then again, not having a man works well for me too, let alone one who thinks it’s acceptable to behave like that to his partner. I hope either he apologises profusely & makes it up to her or she moves on.

Why is it excessive?

Aren’f you supposed to love him with the fire of a 1,000 ☀️ s?

They're not married.
If he had been sick because he was ill, she may well have had more sympathy, but maybe not.
It's her home not his.
Does he live with you or does he have his own place?

I hope they never get married- for her sake. He's behaved appallingly.

Puking over her and shouting at her and demanding food.

You need to have a word with your son- he's a shit.

HIs girlfriend on the other hand is awesome- bloody good for her

I wouldn’t worry OP. It’s never going to be a problem long term. Either she’s going to dump him tomorrow or she’ll dump him if he ever does this again.
It’s ok to decide cleaning up after your partner because they got so drunk they were a danger to themselves is not something you are willing to do in a relationship.

#TeamGirlfriend

If he's throwing up on himself and not even making it to the bathroom then he drank more than a little too much which is how you described it op

Don't be such a wet flannel. You didn't not sign up for cleaning up another humans pile because they can't handle their drink

Well done to the girlfriend on shoving him in a taxi and bringing him to you

I have a son a similar age and if he did that and she turned up on my door with him I would have kicked his bloody ass for it.

He's a grown up ffs.
Nothing wrong with going out to celebrate but to get in that state is not on to them expect someone else to sort him out.

The fact he puked on her bed is also shocking

You should be giving him a bollocking and her an offer to get the bedding cleaned and he pays.

Her living off a trust fund has fuck all to do with your sons behaviour

Your attitude is exactly why there are so many hideous men children out there ffs

Mumsnet has a new poster girl and it’s the (hopefully, for her sake, STBX) girlfriend.

She can totally do better!

I think if he was that drunk still he was unsafe to leave then dumping him at yours not at his flatmates was for his safety.

Same - I'd be so proud of her if she was my daughter.

Your son is a disgrace.

This has got to be a reverse

Yes but the difference here is they’re not married… they’re 8 months in, and if this is his behaviour now, I dread to think what 10 years of marriage would do. Girlfriend knows what’s coming and she’s not up for it. Good for her.

But why wake his mother up at 5.45 am? He's a grown man, she's in a relationship with him, nothing to do with his mother. I bed all the people congratulating her would be running him down if he went to his mother for something, mumm's boy - cut the apron strings etc. Works both ways.

Oh give it a bloody rest

She's a keeper.

Your son's an eejit.

Oooh it makes me happy hearing about women not putting up with grown men acting like children.

#teamgirlfriend

Probably because she was worried he was going to choke on his own vomit. She sounds eminently sensible.

Good for her!

I don't think the GF was being precious at all, but I do have to agree with some of the pearlclutching going on here. It's like posters trying to outdo each other to be nasty to and berate the OP!! I can't believe how many people must never had ever got plastered and stupid!!

He was a complete PITA but maybe this was a one-off? He's clearly an intelligent young man and to diss his entire character for a stupid drunken night is awful.

What a girl! 10/10.

Good on her for not putting up with your entitled, selfish son.

LOL YABU!!!

I love the fact she had the balls to deal with this the way she did

Congrats to your DS girlfriend

Is it excessive because you don't want to be dealing with an adult man who got so drunk he's still throwing up in the morning?

Because neither did she. She loves him so she looked after him until she had to go to work and then brought him to his parents because, act like a child, get treated like a child.

And just because she has a trust fund and "lives off her dad" doesn't mean she should pay to sort out your son's mess.

Talk to your son and tell him to respect his girlfriends. You should have raised him to respect women. He seems to think they exist to look after him.

Your ds sounds like a selfish idiot who takes women for granted - enabled by you.