Dramatic response from sons GF

[Chrisia]

DS is 26, we live pretty close to him. This week he got the results or an exam he had sat for work, it is notoriously hard and he passed. Last night after work he went out with his colleagues to celebrate. Apparently he told his GF (doesn't live with her) that it wouldn't be a late one. The rest is what I've been told, but according to her she messaged him at midnight and told him to go home as she has work in the morning. He claims he didn't get this so went back to hers at 2am, waking her up. He then asked her to order food for him, she did but he was sick before it arrived so she told the delivery driver to eat it instead, he then apparently shouted at her for doing this.
Apparently he was sick on himself so she had to force him to shower.
This morning I got a call at 5.45am, from his GF, telling me she was bringing him to ours in a Taxi as "If he wanted to act like a teen he could come stay at home" and she had a workout class to go to. I asked why he couldn't just stay at hers and sleep it off while she was at work and she told me he had already been sick on the bedding, was being moany and she didn't want to leave him home alone.
DS came in, he was clearly in a state, so I got him to bed, he has been sick but not too bad. Also before she left she took his bank card out his pocket and said to me she would be using it for her taxi back (this girl has a trustfund and lives off her dad so this seems unfair!)
Now AIBU to think this a very dramatic response, no need to give the food away as he did want to eat it and she is meant to love him, could she really not have just let him sleep it off? DS is quite upset with her and I think he is right to be!

I’ve been married for 15 years, and would still be absolutely furious if my husband behaved this way. Your son’s girlfriend was incredibly kind to put up with his shitty behaviour and even bring him to yours, which is more than I would have done, and more than your son deserves.

I would be mortified and devastated if my son behaved this way, instead of trying to blame his partner. The fact that you are upset with HER instead of him says a lot about you and the way you have brought him up. I guess it’s easier to blame her than to take an honest look at your own son and your parenting.

Christ yet another thread where a woman criticises another woman for having boundaries.

OP please stop setting the bar so low for your son. His behaviour was appalling.

If she takes more than a taxi fare from his card you may have a point about fraud but why should she either put up with him vomiting in her home or pay for a taxi she wouldn't have taken if he hadn't turned up, invited, in such a state.

If he was a mess at 6am imagine what he was like at 2am.

Why or how often she goes to the gym is none of your business and she shouldn't have to change her plans because your son has behaved badly.

Do him a favour and tell him he owes her an apology.

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We've all been there. Too drunk, made a fool of ourselves etc. But I know for sure my Mum wouldn't have come on the internet to defend me for it.

No, I’ve never turned up at someone’s house when they’ve told me not to, woken them up in the early hours on a work night, had them order me food, thrown up on them and on their things, then yelled at them because they’ve denied me the opportunity to throw up some more.

Seeing as you think she should put up with his behaviour, it’s no wonder he has turned out the way he has.

Glad I have never consulted any Financial Advisor! Did the exam not have any questions on how to ''present themselves and behave''? - it seems not.

She sounds incredible 😍

Oh dear.

I don't suppose she will be his girlfriend for much longer.

Next time he might think twice before he rocks up to her place in the middle of the night and chucks up everywhere.

The negative reaction is mainly sparked by mammy's ridiculous indignation. The son acted the arse, GF had every right to be annoyed. Mammy then comes here in the hope she'll be told Diddums did nothing wrong and gf is a callous bitch. So naturally, OP will be eaten alive. Nothing wrong with that.

I applaud her. Act like a child and get treated like one. Hopefully she dumps his sorry arse and gets herself a bloke who doesn't vomit all over her house and get aggressive with her. You should be embarrassed you raised a son like that tbh not crying to Mumsnet how unfairly she's treating your ikkle pwince. But if you think this is acceptable behaviour from your husband then it's really no wonder you're having conniptions about it.

She didn't want to leave someone who has been sick on their own. He could have choked on his vomit. I think you should be bloody grateful

It's sounds like the GF may well be sharing the title of Mumsnet's Girlfriend (for those who recall the thread about the dog).

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4929335-how-can-my-brother-salvage-this-situation?page=6&reply=130259613

A BIT too much, he was totally wrecked. GF first mistake was to let him in because I certainly wouldn't have. I'd have left him on the street not delivered him safely to his mum. Her second mistake would be not dumping him, fast

But he's not her husband, he's her boyfriend. He should've just gone home rather than go to hers!

Why didn't you send him to his own home? You sent him to bed at your house and looked after him! So sounds like she was right to bring him home to mummy

OP, I don't think you're living in the modern world here. Young women no longer feel obliged to pick up the pieces for drunk, vomitting men. Especially when they aren't even married or live with them! They've only been in a relationship for 8 months for heaven sake. To compare your relationship with your husband to your son and his GF is daft.

It doesn't matter if she's dripping in gold, she is perfectly entitled to claim the taxi fair back. Would you prefer she left him to possibly choke on his own vomit?

Incidentally, daily work outs are pretty standard for young people these days.

I think you need to get out more. You've obviously been living under a rock.

Doesn’t she just!

I think your son has behaved like a child and she did the right thing delivering him back you.
She clearly has strong boundaries and well done her. Regardless of trust fund or not - why should she be out of pocked because of his behaviour? You'd be quick to moan if she had left him alone and he choked on his own vomit.
Teach your son how to be better.

Where does he live, if he doesn't live with her?

What an entitled brat you’ve raised. Bravo. Getting shitfaced and being a bit silly, we’ve all been there, but crashing into your girlfriends house in the middle of the night, vomiting all over yourself and her belongings, getting angry at her for attempting to reason with you and look after you… and then having the audacity to sit with your idiot mother whinging and whining about her?! Fuck off, he behaved appallingly and so are you by excusing it and expecting a young woman to baby him just as you clearly have his whole life.

Well done her!!!!

She hasn’t signed up to be his career and she specifically told him not to come, she probably only let him in in the first place as she was worried about him. You should be thanking her for looking after him not chastising her for dropping him off somewhere safe. If you want a good relationship with her you need to realise he’s your baby not hers. And if she has a job she’s not “living off her dad” is she.

She should run a mile.

#teamgirlfriend

She should LTB