Dramatic response from sons GF

[Chrisia]

DS is 26, we live pretty close to him. This week he got the results or an exam he had sat for work, it is notoriously hard and he passed. Last night after work he went out with his colleagues to celebrate. Apparently he told his GF (doesn't live with her) that it wouldn't be a late one. The rest is what I've been told, but according to her she messaged him at midnight and told him to go home as she has work in the morning. He claims he didn't get this so went back to hers at 2am, waking her up. He then asked her to order food for him, she did but he was sick before it arrived so she told the delivery driver to eat it instead, he then apparently shouted at her for doing this.
Apparently he was sick on himself so she had to force him to shower.
This morning I got a call at 5.45am, from his GF, telling me she was bringing him to ours in a Taxi as "If he wanted to act like a teen he could come stay at home" and she had a workout class to go to. I asked why he couldn't just stay at hers and sleep it off while she was at work and she told me he had already been sick on the bedding, was being moany and she didn't want to leave him home alone.
DS came in, he was clearly in a state, so I got him to bed, he has been sick but not too bad. Also before she left she took his bank card out his pocket and said to me she would be using it for her taxi back (this girl has a trustfund and lives off her dad so this seems unfair!)
Now AIBU to think this a very dramatic response, no need to give the food away as he did want to eat it and she is meant to love him, could she really not have just let him sleep it off? DS is quite upset with her and I think he is right to be!

Good on her!! I don’t agree with the bank card bit as she could have insisted on a bank transfer, but I’m impressed with the rest! Your son lied to her and then turned up in an awful state of his own doing. She made sure he was safe but she’s not his mummy and has great boundaries. I would encourage your son to learn some maturity from this and be a better partner, whether he wins her back or not

So you don' want to clean up after him, but it's OK for his GF to have to do it???

No wonder he's behaved so badly - is that how you brought him up? To get blind drunk so that's sick all over himself and the bed? TO shout at the woman he supposedly loves? To disturb her at an ungodly hour of the night when she has work? Then to complain that she has some decent boundaries?

I think your son has landed himself a brilliant girlfriend!

Despite having a trust fund, she holds down a job. She won't put up with nonsense from drunk boyfriends who bang on her door at 2am and demand food. She helps said drunk boyfriend to clean himself up (because she's actually pretty nice) but is concerned enough the next day to not leave him on his own, so she drops him at the nearest safest place - his mum's. And she quite rightly makes sure her boyfriend pays for the taxi so that he'll learn there's always consequences to our behaviour.

She sounds flipping brilliant and exactly what your son needs.

Also, I imagine this is a reverse.

I can't believe this is real. Joke post surely?

She needs to just dump him, she's right, he is a man child. Going round at 2am when she has work in the morning, and being sick on her bed, is not OK. They've been together only 8 months, she hasn't said any marriage vows, she is not obliged to look after him. I think dropping him round to his mum's is perfectly logical. If I were his house mate I wouldn't want to be responsible for him either, at 26 he should know better. Hopefully he'll learn that poor behaviour has consequences.

I guess I feel like if it were my husband I'd look after him as that's what I signed up for.

Maybe you should raise your standards. And perhaps hold your DH and your DS to basic minimum ones? I didn't sign up to look after any tosser who puked all over my bed and themselves. I expect adults to be adult enough to stop drinking before they get to the point of 'puking and incapable' and needing another human being to clean them up.

8 months in? He'd be an ex BF now for me.

Me too!
Good on her! 👏👏

Lord, I beg you please let this be a reverse.

None of your business why she does a work out every day. Have a word with your son instead of directing it all on the girlfriend. You sound like an overbearing MIL. I will be teaching my DD to do exactly the same as her and teaching my son to behave like a grown up!

If this isn’t a reverse

His GF sounds like an absolute legend. I wish more women would take no shit.

I hope the asshole of a son gets dumped.

" No idea why!!"

Because she wants to?

She isn't you, she likes to workout and she doesn't see your son through 'Mummy love goggles'

She could have left him in a heap on the floor on his own, she didn't. As for the food, you think giving someone who's already being sick lots of takeaway food is a good idea....??? Taking his card was a heat of the moment reaction but honestly, I think she earned him treating her to a taxi.

He'll always be your little boy 😍, but she's just seeing a drunk twat. I think she did well.

Your son should be on his knees apologising to his girlfriend and to you. She kept him safe even though he was in an absolute state, good on her for having boundaries though. He has no right to be annoyed with her and neither do you, you and gf should be pissed off at him. She should bin him.

I think your DS needs to grow up. He should be grateful he has a girlfriend that respects herself. He should respect her too.

I hope my daughter grows up with her standards too!

The gf isn't in the wrong at all! Why does her having a trust fund have anything to do with it?? Your son caused her a whole load of hassle and should take responsibility, why should she let him sleep it off in HER own home after he'd already woken her up and she'd had to clean up and babysit him. YABVU.

Oh dear, she needs to dump him, he sounds like a treat.

Why the hell did he not just go home ? turned up to hers puking and woke her up !! At 26 that's really immature

To be blunt, you clearly think this kind of behaviour is not too bad, so why shouldn't you be the one dealing with it? You brought him up, after all. If I were the girlfriend I'd tell him next time he does it, he's history. She's only been with him for 8 months.

It’s amazing how some women think it’s the duty of women to babysit men to prevent them from getting rat arsed, or to clean up after them should they fail in said duty, and present this as actually being a desirable state of affairs. Anything to say you’ve got a man, huh?

Also - her work, trust fund and workout schedule have shit all to do with you.

it sounds like you just don’t like her much tbh.

I think she sounds fantastic

Good for her! She has standards and self respect. She knows she deserves better than that.

I don’t blame her one bit for taking his bank card to pay for the taxi!

Sounds like he kept her up most of the night, and she wouldn’t have needed to make that journey if he’d gone home, rather than waking her at 2am on a week night.

I know your son worked hard and wanted to blow off a bit of steam, but he was a proper pain by the sounds of it, and she looked after him until she needed to go out. Perhaps you should be encouraging him to buy her flowers, rather than thinking she’s in the wrong!

Good on her. Hope she dumps him. Luckily she not married to him. Your son going to loss a very special gf due to silly behaviour. They going out not married! And only for 8 months.

well I doubt you'll have to worry about his GF much longer lol

I do admire your dedication to being unable to see how badly your darling son has acted! Please imagine just for a moment that it was GF did all this, would you feel the same way? yeah, no you wouldn't.

This must be a reverse

No one is this ghastly

Maybe he shouldn't have puked all over her bed
Maybe she doesn't trust him to pay for the cleanup