Dramatic response from sons GF

[Chrisia]

DS is 26, we live pretty close to him. This week he got the results or an exam he had sat for work, it is notoriously hard and he passed. Last night after work he went out with his colleagues to celebrate. Apparently he told his GF (doesn't live with her) that it wouldn't be a late one. The rest is what I've been told, but according to her she messaged him at midnight and told him to go home as she has work in the morning. He claims he didn't get this so went back to hers at 2am, waking her up. He then asked her to order food for him, she did but he was sick before it arrived so she told the delivery driver to eat it instead, he then apparently shouted at her for doing this.
Apparently he was sick on himself so she had to force him to shower.
This morning I got a call at 5.45am, from his GF, telling me she was bringing him to ours in a Taxi as "If he wanted to act like a teen he could come stay at home" and she had a workout class to go to. I asked why he couldn't just stay at hers and sleep it off while she was at work and she told me he had already been sick on the bedding, was being moany and she didn't want to leave him home alone.
DS came in, he was clearly in a state, so I got him to bed, he has been sick but not too bad. Also before she left she took his bank card out his pocket and said to me she would be using it for her taxi back (this girl has a trustfund and lives off her dad so this seems unfair!)
Now AIBU to think this a very dramatic response, no need to give the food away as he did want to eat it and she is meant to love him, could she really not have just let him sleep it off? DS is quite upset with her and I think he is right to be!

They were meant to be going out tonight to celebrate but she has cancelled until he feels better
I hope she's cancelled. Him
For good!

I wouldn't find disturbing my sleep, vomiting everywhere and demanding that I order food for him in the middle of the night particularly alluring so external intervention might be entirely unnecessary on the relationship front.

No one wants a whining manchild, do they?

Stop defending your son. Good for her to establish boundaries. Oh and being rich doesn’t mean you should pay for others, if your son’s behaviour/state made her out of pocket of course he should pay.

I think your whole attitude to the gf is off. In fact, I wonder if this is for real?

you seem to have disdain for her: her boundaries, her work ethic, her exercise regime and how she knows the value of her own money. I think she should run.

A fully functioning adult woman with a career, her own home, a full life and money in the bank does not want to deal with your son's puke or your antiquated ideas.

Basically this.

He's behaved shamefully and needs to apologise to her. Not get upset at her for (rightly!) refusing to deal with his puke etc.

So you think she should have to put up with this great big man baby of yours?

Not here, I would shake that woman's hand and wring his neck!

It's not his GF's responsibility to control his drinking!

There's nothing appealing about a Mummy's Boy

You clearly don't like this girl very much...

Haven’t read all the way through but on reflection I would want my daughters to do the same as the gf did.

fuck pandering to some pathetic drunk.

Well he behaves in that way clearly because of how Mummy seems to think her little Prince can do no wrong and it’s some poor girls responsibility to care for the dribbling mess.

I'm proud of her. Bet he doesn't do it again.

If you're going out getting pissed to the point where you're throwing up, you go back to your own house, not inflict it on someone else.
If they'd been living together, it would still be bad behaviour, but dropping him at home might be OTT as it would be his home too.

Classic girl mum response . I am mum to two grown up DS and I would be ashamed of them if they behaved this way towards their GFs / Wives .

And this is one one the reasons many men grow to be complete assholes. Their mothers have enabled their behaviour. And I speak as a sister of a 50 year old manchild, the daughter of an enabling mother, and also as the mother of a teenage boy - who is being taught responsibility.
OP, I’m with the girlfriend and you sound awful.

• Yes, he was studying non-stop for months and I've been told they are some of the hardest exams you can do. I can see from the replies here that most think AIBU, I guess I feel like if it were my husband I'd look after him as that's what I signed up for.*

He's not her husband though, is he?

She hasn't signed up for anything, has she?

You should be reading your son the riot act over the appalling way he has treated his girlfriend. Instead, you have done nothing but minimise, make excuses for him, and say horrible things about the girlfriend, who you are clearly jealous of. It's no wonder there are still so many absolutely disgusting men roaming around.

She isn’t married to him though. She hasn’t signed up for anything and certainly not signed up to be wiping a one else’s drunken vomit off her own bedsheets.

The girlfriend should run now, can you imagine ending up with OP as your mother in law? 😬

I'm just going to put this as a stand-alone post.

*Your son's behaviour is at fault here.

Not hers.*

You are coming across as bloody judgemental and can tell now what kind of MIL you will be (and I am usually on the MIL side on threads on here). Everything will be the GF/DIL fault no doubt.

But the trust fund comments and the fact she exercises every day are out of line, what the hell has it got to with you?

I certainly wouldn’t be willing to put up with my partners drunkenness even after years together. Cleaning up self inflicted sick is not what you sign up for at anytime

Good for her. If my DS did this I would be mortified.

OMG after all of the threads about women being relentlessly trod all over by big man babies this thread is a joy (apart from the lingering denial from Mummy).

She sounds ace, long may her firm boundaries remain!!!!

Your son sounds like a dick. Not sure why the gf had to send him home to mummy, I’d have made him go back to his own place.

Hopefully, she’ll think twice about her future with him. Especially if he has a mum that can’t see what he’s done wrong here.

I’d be returning to manufacturer pronto as well if I were her.