To be so angry about eggs

[MissTiss]

So disclaimer: I'm pretty sure this is unreasonable and I'm 5 weeks pregnant.

Got some fancy farm fresh eggs last weekend and was looking forward to a few for breakfast this morning. Come down to realise DH has put all 8 of the lovely eggs we bought for silly price from farmer into a cake for his work. When shop with normal eggs is literally 2 minutes away.

Gave out to him (raised voice, half amused, not shouting) at which point he told me I was being a bad example to 2 year old who thought the whole.thing was hilarious.

Also my mum died 2 months ago.

AIBU? Who puts nice eggs like that into a work cake?

Also AIBU to think he would just give me a break given all I'm going through?

Kindly, this sounds more like your emotions than anything else.

You’re being totally unreasonable
but you get a pass for being so recently bereaved and pregnant

I would 100% use luscious eggs in a cake - it will taste nice

you need to articulate your upset / grief in other ways

apologise to your husband and tell him your real feelings

you aren’t angry about eggs

Yabu, is this lighthearted?

See, opposite to PP I would not use the expensive eggs we buy in a cake as they are rich yolk and make things taste of egg. Can't even use them on pancake day 😂 in the pancakes. I would have been a bit miffed myself tbh but would only have made a comment and that would've been that.

Sorry you are being completely unreasonable.
But I can understand why given everything you have going on.
Apologise and tell your husband how you are feeling.

I would put nice eggs into cake because I like nice cake and I don’t like supporting cheap, low welfare egg suppliers.

I wouldn’t make a special trip out to buy different eggs when there are eggs available to use on the counter already, sorry op.

You’re being totally unreasonable
but you get a pass for being so recently bereaved and pregnant

This.

The thread should end here tbh, but I’m sure people will come and lay into OP anyway.

@Overthebow Shall we say half serious whole in earnest?!

Yes I figured I am being unreasonable. But I didn't even get to eat the cake!

I’m sorry for your loss. Grief makes everything confusing and difficult. I thought I was going mad when I was bereaved.

YANBU for being disappointed when you realised the eggs you were looking forward to eating for breakfast had gone. It’s a shame your DH didn’t check with you first that he could use those eggs in his cake but I don’t think he’s done anything terribly wrong really. Can he perhaps be persuaded to go and get you some more nice farm eggs?

@MissTiss did he leave any eggs? If he used them all and didn't check whether that was ok not to leave any first then he was being unreasonable. 8 eggs is a lot for one cake

Yanbu.

I think a lot now this also depends on lots of other factors likewhether they were a joint purchase or from yournown money whether he as offered to go out of his way to replace them on his way home, whether he said anything at all to try and make it right this morning or whether he shrugged his shoulders and made out you were a crazy person when he helped himself to all of the eggs without checking if that would cause you a problem. It's basic courtesy.

How fancy were these eggs? Our local ones cost the same as supermarket organic, £2.50.

You're going through a lot at the moment ❤️ sending lots of love xxxx

I think if you were the one to buy the eggs he should have asked vefore using them

Your poor DH

I think he was out of order if he knew you had bought them for yourself. If he thought they were open season eggs then he's off the hook.

You have a lot going on emotionally, have a cru and send him out to forage for some replacement good quality eggs.

The point isn't whether the eggs belong in a cake or not. The point is that they were planned for something specific by the OP (her breakfast) and her husband just took them - they are hard to replace but he didn't need to use them as ordinary eggs are easy to get.

I think he was being selfish and I don't think it is setting a bad example to the 2 year old to stand up for yourself. Is the 2 year old a girl or a boy? I am betting girl, and he thinks that your behaviour was unfeminine

They are just eggs. I would have put them in a cake too. Youre being silly

Actually it's irrelevant whether the child is a girl or a boy, because he is saying that you having boundaries is petty and "childish" and that boundaries are unacceptable things to have for both women and children.

How big was the cake!!

Keep the cake for yourself then.

8 eggs for a cake? That is a lot.

she didn't put them in the cake though. he did

Would you all be the same if he trashed her good clothes as fancy dress for a work party? The question isn't whether the silk shirt was suitable for a fancy dress party or not. the point is, it was HER silk shirt

This is the real issue - you got no cake. This is unacceptable. You are owed cake.

AIBU? Who puts nice eggs like that into a work cake?

you need to communicate better. I would just use any egg I found in the fridge frankly, and so would most people.

Your DH should probably have asked if it was ok to use ALL the eggs as he wouldn't get any more until the evening.

I only buy one type of eggs (Burford browns for the amazing yolks). I wouldn't expect anyone to go to the shops and buy different ones to bake with to be honest.

Although I suppose if you don't normally have good eggs it may be different. Did he know these eggs were earmarked for something?