To be so angry about eggs

[MissTiss]

So disclaimer: I'm pretty sure this is unreasonable and I'm 5 weeks pregnant.

Got some fancy farm fresh eggs last weekend and was looking forward to a few for breakfast this morning. Come down to realise DH has put all 8 of the lovely eggs we bought for silly price from farmer into a cake for his work. When shop with normal eggs is literally 2 minutes away.

Gave out to him (raised voice, half amused, not shouting) at which point he told me I was being a bad example to 2 year old who thought the whole.thing was hilarious.

Also my mum died 2 months ago.

AIBU? Who puts nice eggs like that into a work cake?

Also AIBU to think he would just give me a break given all I'm going through?

YANBU

You say WE bought the eggs, he knew the cost and extra effort. We don't use the last of things in our house without checking first.

This was a waste of lovely, farm fresh, quality eggs when free range would have done as well and been much cheaper. He also took them all leaving none for anyone else. Thoughtless and/or selfish.

I bake most weekends. I make a sheet cake using 4 eggs that feeds 16 servings. What type of cake required 8 eggs?

It's more likely he didn't know they were fancy eggs.

I don't have a concept of 'fancy eggs', all eggs are pretty much the same to me.

He probably just thought they were eggs and OP didn't communicate otherwise.

He was really thoughtless using all the eggs & that would piss me off.

I'd be blinking angry about the eggs - and I'm definitely not preggo!

I agree that making a luscious cake with the eggs is a brilliant idea - but OP isn't even going to eat the cake! DH made it for work colleagues! This is outrageous behaviour, he's an absolute villain. I'd demand he lay 8 new eggs himself.

@summersofdoom - who decides what is special? Who gets to decide?

So for instance - you say, in your house:

chocolate is for general use and not personal
shampoo is for general use, and not personal
hair brushes are not for general use and are personal
Gold clubs are not for general use, and are personal

Sounds reasonable enough to me - but who cares what I think, because if I lived with you or your husband I would accept your views on the matter in order to make your lives easier - the main thing is, you accept each others' preferences and work within them.

In fact, if your husband did not, you would consider him a twat.

I mean, left to myself, I can imagine thinking a big heavy long bit of metal with a lump at the end is a really good thing to whack brambles with, but I wouldn't use a golf club for that if the owner didn't want me to.

Why doesn't the OP get to decide what is a special food that she is looking forward to?
Why doesn't the OP get to object if her stuff is used up without her permission?
And why is this objection considered to be "bad behaviour" in the realms of how children are disciplined?

And more interestingly.... why is is SO important to some of you that this all gets dismissed?

That is the fascinating thing about mumsnet - the drive that some posters have to dismiss and minimise, and to impose (as if they existed) universal standards of reasonableness such that any sensitivities outside of yours can be snapped away as "ridiculous"

OP said she was looking forward to a few for breakfast today, she didn't say they 'were planned for something specific' . I don't expect her husband is psychic and after all , they were bought a week ago .

Must have been an enormous cake with 8 eggs! I’d been peeved too…

What sort of cake needs 8 eggs??

He used every last egg in the fridge without replacing so you had none for breakfast AND didnt even get any of the cake - YADNBU even if you weren't pregnant and therefore possibly getting cravings for a really fresh egg.

Eggs are eggs.

I grew up around farms and regularly collected the eggs as well as milking the cows and other farm jobs etc... theres nothing specially magic in them.

You can get into the morals side of it of on how chickens are kept of course but outside of that an egg is literally just an egg... its not any more 'luscious' because you picked it yourself or because it cost more from one of the fancy marketed 'insta' farms.

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LTB 🤣

Except the OP says 'we bought...' not 'I bought'... suggesting he was present at the egg purchase and therefore well aware they were expensive fancy eggs bought as a treat.

this made me sad. You've just lost your mum and you're 5 weeks pregnant. You must be dying to tell her, to see her reaction. It's just so sad. Eggs Shmeggs. I get that it was irritating in the moment and I don't mean to invalidate that but I can't imagine discovering I was pregnant and not getting to tell my mum. XX

YABU obviously.

Just ask him to buy you some more eggs and make/buy you some cake.

There’s nothing worse than craving something, only to find someone else has eaten it.
But they are eggs and he’s right that you shouldn’t have discussed it in front of your child, especially if you were raising your voice.

This.
He should have used half of egg supply and let you enjoy the rest.
It is his decision he wants to spend his share at work. You are still very much entitled to your half.
Idk why are some people here so shocked that a woman wants her share of food ffs

Aww mate, I'm sorry about your mum. It's a painful time and you should go easy on yourself.
However I do think you are being a bit harsh on him.
I'd sentence him to making another cake for you and the kids. With more posh eggs. That he has to go and buy!

Unlike a lot of PPs, I think YANBU @MissTiss and your DH was a careless dick. It's very typical of a lot of men not to see the thinking that goes on in managing a household, and that you'd bought expensive eggs to eat, so you got that fresh lovely taste, not baked in a cake for colleagues.

I agree, I've been using the clarence court eggs in baking and it just tastes a bit too eggy, prefer a less rich egg for baking.

Naice eggs.

Clearly YABVU however I would definitely have demanded a piece of the cake.

I don't think it's the eggs you're angry about. I'm sorry for the loss of your Mum xxx

Whether the husband was involved in buying them or not is irrelevant if OP didn't communicate that they were to be saved for her breakfast.

If I bought eggs from a farm it would be about animal welfare, not taste. I'd happily put them in a cake. All eggs basically taste the same to me.

It's a difference of opinion and completely depends whether OP communicated it.

It is really simple.
If you buy them on a farm on Sunday you will likelly eat them in a weeks time for breakfast at Saturday/Sunday.
Unless you eat fried eggs gor breakfast during week.

@Weetabbix

"...DH has put all 8 of the lovely eggs we bought for silly price from farmer..."

Yes. She did. This quite clearly implies the DH was present at the purchase and aware of the cost, thus reasonably, aware of the specialness/fanciness.

Being aware of the cost doesn't mean he was aware that OP wanted them for breakfast.

If OP didn't communicate that then why shouldn't he put them in a cake?

Eggs are eggs. I would have put them in a cake or done whatever with them.

He was unreasonable not to limit his cake to 6 eggs (that's still a lot of cake isn't it?) and leave you a couple for breakfast.