To be so angry about eggs

[MissTiss]

So disclaimer: I'm pretty sure this is unreasonable and I'm 5 weeks pregnant.

Got some fancy farm fresh eggs last weekend and was looking forward to a few for breakfast this morning. Come down to realise DH has put all 8 of the lovely eggs we bought for silly price from farmer into a cake for his work. When shop with normal eggs is literally 2 minutes away.

Gave out to him (raised voice, half amused, not shouting) at which point he told me I was being a bad example to 2 year old who thought the whole.thing was hilarious.

Also my mum died 2 months ago.

AIBU? Who puts nice eggs like that into a work cake?

Also AIBU to think he would just give me a break given all I'm going through?

I think he's being bloody selfish, it's not the fact he used them for a cake, it's the fact he used them ALL when surely they were to be shared between you. Its just selfish buying something tasty for the family and using or eating it ALL without anyone else getting a look in.

A good cake doesnt need 8 eggs either- thats ludicrous

Agreed. YANBU OP. How much butter, eggs and flour did he use for an 8 egg cake?

@Weetabbix , of course it is relevant. Have you poached a fresh egg and compared it to one that you bought from the supermarket?

It matters less in something like a traybake because the egg isn't the main ingredient.

My dh would happily use all the eggs up in one go.
I like to bake when the muse takes me.
Dh has learned to ask how many eggs do you want leaving in the box?
It’s simple communication.

I'd be pissed off if I'd bought something specially, that was a bit out of the ordinary, and not part of the normal supermarket shop. And my partner used every single last one of them for something I wasn't even eating.

Clarence Court eggs are amazing can he pop into a supermarket and pick some up on his way home.

What kind of cake was it? Can't imagine using 8 eggs in one cake, unless it was a huge one and you've got an extra large oven.

I like the St Ewe ones too. The colour of the yolk doesn't really indicate the taste. I know this because I used to have chickens and it's quite easy to make the yolks yellow.

But she isn’t going to eat the cake, he has made it for WORK!

I'm pregnant too and this is the sort of minor act of thoughtlessness that would give me the absolute rage at the minute. We know we're being a bit unreasonable. We can't help it.

You don't need to be a mind reader to understand the basic concept of sharing.
If you live with someone you should not eat all the food by yourself.
If there is small amount it ia surelly rhe basic curtesy to ask another person if they would like some no?

This. Bloody hell, if I took all of the milk we bought after a weekly shop to work, I would expect my family would be a little annoyed that there's zero milk left for cereal or tea/coffee.

Equally, if we bought a cake together and I ate the lot meaning there was none left for anyone else-same principle. I didnt realise you need to be told thats fcking selfish behaviour.

Sorry for your loss. It is so incredibly hard.

I can understand why you feel like this being pregnant and bereaved.

💐

I would certainly be very unimpressed if someone who shared a household with me a/ couldnt tell the difference between fancy eggs and usual eggs b/ took so many eggs for his own special (work) occasion without consulting their partner.

And no, I wouldnt put fancy egg into a work cake, no. I only use expensive fancy eggs myself but would likely buy cheaper ones for work if I could find cheaper freerange eggs.

It was a really greedy thing to do, taking all the nice expensive eggs for himself. I would say now the cake isn’t for work any more, I will be eating it because it has the expensive eggs in. Let him get some cheap eggs and make another cake for work.

Also 8 eggs in a cake?!

I can honestly say there's never been such drama over basic food items in my house 😂

This thread is priceless, but in real life, if DH was having a strop about bloody eggs I would question his sanity.

No one reasonably eats a family-size cake made for 12 on their own, but if someone uses all the flour/ eggs or pasta to bake something or cook something, then we just.. eat something else, buy them next time we go shopping, or ask them to pop to the shop (2mn away for the OP) to replace them?

Thankfully I have never been faced with a sugar/egg/flour emergency.
Even if I had planned to make an omelette for diner and the eggs had been used, then I'll just... make something else?

The beauty of not living on my own is that I can send someone else shopping or grabbing a take-away!

What job does DH do? On what work place is he bringing his 8 eggs cake, that's the important question.

No one reasonably eats a family-size cake made for 12 on their own, but if someone uses all the flour/ eggs or pasta to bake something or cook something, then we just.. eat something else, buy them next time we go shopping, or ask them to pop to the shop (2mn away for the OP) to replace them?

But he didnt "pop to the shop" to replace them- isnt that the entire point?

Selfish.

I totally get this. I'm a massive foodie and IMO good quality eggs make the difference to a breakfast. I also understand posters on here that aren't bothered, because our values are all different. This is why communication is key in these situations.

I noticed a whole ago that when I did the shopping I went for premium, good quality items (paying extra towards it from my own money because food is life). My partner just goes for the cheap stuff which I wouldn't mind, but he would then eat all of the nice as stuff and when I went use it, we only had the economy stuff left.

I now have a box I keep in the cupboard where I store anything I don't want other people to eat without asking (including period chocolate). I do the same in the fridge so the family doesn't eat food intended for a meal.

I know some people may find this a bit OTT but it works for us and there's no resentment around food.

Tbh if I was doing something that used ALL the eggs I'd just bought, I'd ask DP if he minded, or if he needed them for something. I never just use something up.

He was thoughtless, you're hormonal/emotional. Arguments happen when there's a perfect storm.

Prick....I'd be furious. Why didn't he ask you first? He took ALL the eggs to make a cake you are not even going to benefit from. Typical selfish man behaviour.

Exactly.

It's just thoughtless. And also shows he's lacking in attention to domestic arrangements in his own home - those were special eggs for eating at home, not ones to use to bake in a cake - and to take to work, no less!

I can't bear that sort of pathetic learned helplessness. "Oh, I didn't know" - it doesn't take much brain power to work out: Expensive farm fresh eggs, for eating on their own, at home, not baking (where their flavour & freshness won't be as noticeable) and taking to work

No, thats really selfish behaviour. I wouldnt remove all of one item so there is none left from the cupboard without asking if anyone wants one.

If I knew they did want one, I'd either use less or replace them. Basic consideration for others really isnt it?

Usually I would be really annoyed at something like this and it definitely was thoughtless and a waste of good expensive eggs. But given everything you have going on I probably would’ve shrugged it off as an annoyance, rather than adding it to my current emotional load (hope that doesn’t sound harsh or like a criticism). Definitely would send him out to buy more fancy eggs though!

No. YANBU!! I would be hopping mad too if my husband made cake with beautiful expensive eggs just for Ryan in Accounts to snaffle during his coffee break. Fuck that.