To be so angry about eggs

[MissTiss]

So disclaimer: I'm pretty sure this is unreasonable and I'm 5 weeks pregnant.

Got some fancy farm fresh eggs last weekend and was looking forward to a few for breakfast this morning. Come down to realise DH has put all 8 of the lovely eggs we bought for silly price from farmer into a cake for his work. When shop with normal eggs is literally 2 minutes away.

Gave out to him (raised voice, half amused, not shouting) at which point he told me I was being a bad example to 2 year old who thought the whole.thing was hilarious.

Also my mum died 2 months ago.

AIBU? Who puts nice eggs like that into a work cake?

Also AIBU to think he would just give me a break given all I'm going through?

This thread has brought out some of the worst MN traits:
Completely ignoring someone's physical and mental state as a factor in their behaviour and reactions.
Having such a small brain they simply can't 'imagine' that other people have different lives and family set ups to them.
Snidey remarks about eating eggs without the red lion, therefore you're endangering your unborn child (also incorrect!)
Setting such a low bar for men's selfish, thoughtless behaviour an ant couldn't limbo under it.

Well given the scenario I doubt that OP would neglect to mention she'd explicitly asked him not to eat them.

In that case she'd be saying "I told him I wanted them for breakfast but he used them anyway, AIBU to be angry?" (in which case, she obviously isn't being unreasonable).

It's a pretty important bit of information and adds quite a lot to the case for it being reasonable for her to be angry. She would have mentioned it.

I agree. Plus, I didnt realise I had to specify to my partner not to use all of our food- thankfully, he is considerate enough to ask!

Please dont use all the milk, I'd like some for coffee
Please dont use all the bread, I'd like toast
Please dont use all the eggs I'd like at least one

If he did do that, he'd go out and replace them because he's not a selfish dick who takes everything for himself.

I love how people have to escalate everything and make up the most excessive scenario, this thread is absolutely priceless.

I can't imagine anyone happy to receive texts at work "can I eat the last xyz" 😂
I am at work/ busy! I don't fucking care about the last xyz!

I can't imagine a "considerate" partner leaving a bit of everything "in case I wanted it" and ending up having a fridge full of leftovers - that will end up in the bin.

Only on MN do people have "nice" chocolate, "fancy" eggs and "posh" milk 😂😂that must not be touched for weeks

The best part is that someone always accuse the MENZ of selfish behaviour, when it's been clearly shown many men or women wouldn't expect their partner to be mind readers or wouldn't waste so much energy over basic food items.

I haven't seen such a funny thread in a long time, brilliant.

The DH's behaviour was shitty. Not in using the eggs, but in his reaction when his newly pregnant, recently bereaved wife overreacted to a misunderstanding. She needed a cuddle and support, not to be told she's a bad example to the toddler.

You missed 'marital fridge'

Only on MN!

I agree- blimey, could he not have just popped out to get more eggs rather than berate you?

Prick.

Many many years ago when we lived abroad we brought my mother a bottle of brandy, they weren't drinkers but liked to keep some in. Later in the year my brother called and she said she's made the Christmas cakes using that brandy JudgeJ had brought as it wasn't her usual Martell. He took her out to show her the price of Remy Martin Napoleon brandy! The cakes were very good though!

So would you expect him the ask for every ingredient, the permitted butter, flour etc?

@JudgeJ , It's just courtesy to ask before using it. I'd say something like 'Is it ok if I use up this milk' or whatever not leave someone else without.

lots of people are soooooo privileged on mumsnet that they cannot even SEE anymore that something is more expensive or special than the run of the mill stuff you get in Asda or whatever. To them it’s “just food” to be used up whichever way.

must be nice!

YANBU That cake would not leave my house!

If it was the last of something I had bought especially then yes, absolutely.

A simple "I'm making a cake and am going to be using up all of xyz - you dont need any of it do you?" is hardly asking for the moon on a plate.

Bloody hell, she's not asking him to lay the eggs himself, just fcking ask.

Eight eggs in a cake - I thought you normally put two in?

I don't think that you are being unreasonable to be upset about the eggs. You wanted nice eggs for breakfast and I would have been upset about them being all used up in a cake when cheaper eggs would have done for that. Did DH know they were special eggs or did he just assume that they were from the shop and not a farm?

I voted YABU but this does change things a little…

He sounds a bit of a twat tbh

Yeah, upset woman who's mum's just died has a selfish husband, hilarious!

He just thought,they're eggs! Just eggs . Eggs is eggs. Honestly he wasn't being mean.
I'm so sorry about your mum x

So sorry for your loss.

You need to get things into perspective - you're stressing over a small thing. Try to relax. I can understand your anger, but it's over such a small thing - and how kind of your DH to make a cake or workmates. He sounds lovely,

PS: Nice eggs should be put into everything, including a work cake! They are kind to the animals and healthier or humans. It's always worth spending a bit extra on good organic eggs.

The ones I would buy for cakes are not low welfare. They are free range and still expensive, but not as expensive as the fancy farm ones with a rich yolk I have delivered.

What do you mean 'chuck the yolks'?

I want to know what you mean by chuck the yolks too. I always thought that chuck meant throw out, but that doesn't make sense in this case.

You've just lost your Mum and you're in the early stages of pregnancy. I'm so sorry for your loss, especially at this time. It would be unreasonable to expect you to be reasonable right now. To you, they were special eggs, but to DH they were just eggs. Tell him how you feel, why you feel upset and sad. Give yourself a break, in the grand order of things a few eggs aren't important, but your feelings are. And yes, he owes you a cake!