To be so angry about eggs

[MissTiss]

So disclaimer: I'm pretty sure this is unreasonable and I'm 5 weeks pregnant.

Got some fancy farm fresh eggs last weekend and was looking forward to a few for breakfast this morning. Come down to realise DH has put all 8 of the lovely eggs we bought for silly price from farmer into a cake for his work. When shop with normal eggs is literally 2 minutes away.

Gave out to him (raised voice, half amused, not shouting) at which point he told me I was being a bad example to 2 year old who thought the whole.thing was hilarious.

Also my mum died 2 months ago.

AIBU? Who puts nice eggs like that into a work cake?

Also AIBU to think he would just give me a break given all I'm going through?

I've got a cake recipe that uses 10 eggs!
When I was pregnant only hard boiled eggs were advised but that was over 30 years ago so probably all changed.

You're being unreasonable but you're allowed to be unreasonable, it's not unreasonable under your circs IYSWIM.

Well I would be annoyed if special eggs had all gone into a huge cake not for me

if it is not a huge cake I think he might have ruined it with too much egg

Technically if they are in the marital fridge, anyone would think they are communal eggs, designed to be used by anyone... Not quite the same as a silk shirt...

What the hell kind of cake needs EIGHT eggs? I once made one with 4 and that felt like a lot. I don't think you're being unreasonable at all, I don't know why others think you are. It's really selfish to use up all of anything without even asking.

in the UK ,all the Lion stamped eggs are fine for pregnant women. Chicken have been vaccinated against salmonella.

I want to know if all the "get over it" respondents live like this: live in houses where they have no particular rights to anything and if someone eats your special chocolate, or uses your hair brush to clean something in the garden, or washes buckets and spades with your fancy shampoo, or breaks your sewing scissors using them as wire cutters - they all just shrug and smile and accept that they can't actually have personal possessions because they live in families.

I know a lot of men who expect women to live this way. And a lot of women are implying on here that that is reasonable, in that they can't even see the issue here. I want to know if they ACTUALLY live like that themselves and are cool with it, or are just not seeing things the OP cares about as equivalent to the things they themselves care about.

Would you all be the same if he trashed her good clothes as fancy dress for a work party? The question isn't whether the silk shirt was suitable for a fancy dress party or not. the point is, it was HER silk shirt

Don't be ridiculous.

Eggs are a pretty basic food. Basic food items are communal in most households.

How is using communal food the same as destroying your spouses best clothes? Oh yes, it's not. Not even remotely the same.

Op unless you specifically asked him not to use them yabvu. He's not a mind reader.

What the hell kind of cake needs EIGHT eggs?

maybe a very big one? Or several small ones.

Cakes brought in my office serve at least 20 people.

The advice now is you can eat raw eggs as long as they meet certain standards.

They were nearly a week old. That’s not really that farm fresh anymore?

But like everyone has said; you’re understandably emotional and he shouldn’t minimise it.

I want to know if all the "get over it" respondents live like this: live in houses where they have no particular rights to anything and if someone eats your special chocolate, or uses your hair brush to clean something in the garden, or washes buckets and spades with your fancy shampoo, or breaks your sewing scissors using them as wire cutters

None of these examples is remotely similar to taking EGGS from the family kitchen cupboard 😂

I'd be raging. What kind of utter fanny knowingly puts good eggs in a cake.

Unless he didn't know.

I'd be raging. He should get you good eggs to replace the ones he trashed.

no, but thanks for your concern.

I don't actually have a "special chocolate", food is available for anyone who wants it, there's no restriction in my house 😂. At best, WE (it's not restricted to males in this house) ask if it's ok to have the last slice of cake or something, but eggs? no, really, they are there to be used before they get past the date.

No restriction on shampoo or soap either.

My DH is not a twat and would not use my hair brush to clean something in the garden, neither would I use his golf clubs to do DIY...

I would see my arse over this too OP.
I get really ratty if I've been looking forward to something that I had treated myself to but it's been eaten by someone else ... using the eggs for a cake you didn't even get a slice of would've put me in a mood too.
And my kids are 17 and 15 so I can't blame my hormones!!!

Tbh if I'd bought that many eggs I'd be really annoyed if my husband used them all without telling me.

If I have 'good' eggs I also have ordinary eggs. If he used all the eggs in the house without saying he was going to, that would also have been annoying and if he had mentioned it would have given you the option to say don't use those get some from down the road. A bit unthinking on his part, send him out to get you some more nice eggs.

Not unreasonable at all, OP. Special eggs aren't for putting into a cake - not unless you only ever have that sort of egg.

Most are free-range now anyway so ignore the 'I only buy free-range' posters who are trying to put you in your place. My husband would check which eggs to use if we had different types of eggs at home. Not difficult.

I'm sorry about your Mum.

I think if you were the one to buy the eggs he should have asked vefore using them Oh god at first I read this as 'if you were the one to lay the eggs'. Which of course would have made OP's DH eggstremely unreasonable.

However- as @YouveGotAFastCar says- the eggs are no longer fresh. So you should be glad that the work people got the not-fresh-egg-cake. Instead, you can ask your DH to please go and get some nice new fresh eggs to replace those ones.

sorry but I do have to ask...

WHY would anyone have any "not good eggs" at home?
Eggs are to be used in order of freshness in my house, I never knew there could be such a thing as "best eggs" and "ordinary eggs" 😂

Dh now needs to buy new nice eggs, bake you a cake and make whatever you wanted the eggs for in the first place. Grief is shit so I don't think you're that unreasonable for being annoyed.

It's eggs. What are farm fancy eggs?

That is definitely unreasonable!

It's not about the eggs.

I never knew people had fancy eggs and ordinary eggs until just now 😂

but I am now guessing there's a scale with
Aldi/ Liddle are the basic eggs
Tesco your weekly eggs
Waitrose your weekend eggs
Harrods Food Hall eggs for fancy guests
And Fancy Farm for occasion egg dishes?